Teenage Princess!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not a big deal. Just go to the store and get the stuff on the list. She's not being a princess. Get over yourself and stop being such a control freak.

Yes, this. Maybe this is a bad example, but I run to the store for something probably every other night. This would not be a big deal to me. And I think it’s sweet that she’s making something for her friend. This is the ideal kind of “demand” from a teen. It’s groceries. It’s for a gift. Also, she gave you at least 6 hours notice.

[Anonymous]

That is so sweet of her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG just pick her up and go to the store with her, maybe even bake with her.

She will be gone next year and we will hear about how much you miss her and she won’t call you.

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This one thing isn't a big deal UNLESS she is a princessy "do this by this time, I insist" teen who has a repeated pattern of these kinds of requests and who gets peeved if you say no.

Pattern + peeved=A problem.

But if she's otherwise pretty appreciative, doesn't get into a snit if things don't go her way, pulls her weight on schoolwork etc., then cut some slack. Can't get to the store for real? Don't go. Not enough time to bake from scratch tonight? Tell her to get a mix. DH fine with it? Let him do this without being mad at him too. Or tell DD to make BF a card instead or whatever. But unless this request is just another in a series of demands, why so steamed, OP?

The driving or not driving judgements above are simply off-topic. Not every teen is driving the second she or he hits 16, or even 17. Ridiculous for some PPs to make this thread about that.

I agree with the above except the boles. When it comes to her attitude/not being a spoilt princess it is more important that she pull her weight with chores/housework than with school work. The former is for the whole family’s benefit, the latter is for her own benefit. There are plenty of princesses at Harvard...

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Anonymous wrote:Um teach your daughter better. Obviously you have given in to her demands before and she thinks this is acceptable.

OP--DH does, I don't.

What does DH think about this?

OP--DH response was....just send me the list. My comment: "Are you serious? Let's talk about your response once again."

If he has no problem getting the stuff and being there by 6, what is your objection? Apparently he doesn't mind.

This. This is a really stupid hill to die on.

Also, your contempt for your daughter and your husband oozes out of your posts. This is clearly about more than the cookies. It's perfectly fine for you to say that you are not willing to go to the store for this stuff, but if he's willing to, just let it go. If he can't, either, then you tell her that you can't get to the store, sorry.

[Anonymous]

You don't want to pay for supplies to make cookies? I thought MY dad was cheap!

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Anonymous wrote:It's not last minute - it's not even noon.

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[Anonymous]

OP--we have a lot of last minute unreasonable requests lately and she does not pull her chore weight at home...needs constant reminders to do a pre-determined set of chores. I can't complain about schoolwork, solid As in high level classes. DH ended up taking her after school, but we made her pay for ~$50.00 in baking supplies. DH and I were gifted a dry batch of cookies for V-day and the good batch went to her friends/BF at school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um teach your daughter better. Obviously you have given in to her demands before and she thinks this is acceptable.

OP--DH does, I don't.

What does DH think about this?

OP--DH response was....just send me the list. My comment: "Are you serious? Let's talk about your response once again."

He doesn't see this as a hill worth dying on. You, however, appear to see it as a proxy for every character flaw you embedded in your kid through your parenting.

[Anonymous]

Why so rigid, OP?

If her tone is demanding, you just tell her that, and point out she could have thought ahead and told you when you all went grocery shopping.

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Why so rigid, OP?

If her tone is demanding, you just tell her that, and point out she could have thought ahead and told you when you all went grocery shopping.

OP--The demanding tone s addressed almost every week. We went grocery shopping this past weekend and when asked: "do you need anything?", the answer was a "no, I am good." There is no "thought ahead" unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP--we have a lot of last minute unreasonable requests lately and she does not pull her chore weight at home...needs constant reminders to do a pre-determined set of chores. I can't complain about schoolwork, solid As in high level classes. DH ended up taking her after school, but we made her pay for ~$50.00 in baking supplies. DH and I were gifted a dry batch of cookies for V-day and the good batch went to her friends/BF at school.

Geez, OP. You sound like one bitchy mom. No wonder your DH tries to compensate and help her out. OF COURSE, she gave the better cookies to her friends. Anyone would keep the lesser batch for home and give away the better ones.

Plus, $50 in baking supplies?! You don't even have flour, sugar, salt, and butter hanging around the house?

Bitch mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP--we have a lot of last minute unreasonable requests lately and she does not pull her chore weight at home...needs constant reminders to do a pre-determined set of chores. I can't complain about schoolwork, solid As in high level classes. DH ended up taking her after school, but we made her pay for ~$50.00 in baking supplies. DH and I were gifted a dry batch of cookies for V-day and the good batch went to her friends/BF at school.

What kind of cookies require $50 worth of ingredients ? Were they good cookies at least?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP--we have a lot of last minute unreasonable requests lately and she does not pull her chore weight at home...needs constant reminders to do a pre-determined set of chores. I can't complain about schoolwork, solid As in high level classes. DH ended up taking her after school, but we made her pay for ~$50.00 in baking supplies. DH and I were gifted a dry batch of cookies for V-day and the good batch went to her friends/BF at school.

What kind of cookies require $50 worth of ingredients ? Were they good cookies at least?

OP-LOL....the batch going to school was pretty good. ~$50.00 in baking supplies, she also made a chocolate brownies from scratch for her BF on top of the cookies.

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“Hey mom, would you mind stopping at the grocery today to get xyz supplies? I thought it would be nice to make cookies for bf. Thank you!! Cxxooo”
-swing by and get the stuff

“Mom get me sugar by 6pm”
-“sorry I’m busy today”

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Why so rigid, OP?

If her tone is demanding, you just tell her that, and point out she could have thought ahead and told you when you all went grocery shopping.

OP--The demanding tone s addressed almost every week. We went grocery shopping this past weekend and when asked: "do you need anything?", the answer was a "no, I am good." There is no "thought ahead" unfortunately.

Well she’s in good company. CVS was full of parents buying last minute Valentine’s Day cards and candy at 8pm on feb 13. People forget things sometimes!