What do you think of couples that share a Facebook page?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think there’s cheating, but definitely insecurities.

This. Lack of trust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that people are in Facebook, or any other social media is just odd to me. So couple vs individual accounts makes no difference.

And I don’t buy the whole “just to share pictures” thing, there are a million file sharing options outside of social media.

The only reason I joined (in 2012, a bit late to the game) was because my family out west uses it and easy way to share pictures. Yes I know Instagram does but frankly I don’t want to have to learn another platform.

[Anonymous]

1) cheater
2) insecure
3) codependent
4) lazy
5) controlling
6) knows the other is likely to post something ignorant/offensive

I know several couples who do this and the reason is different for each of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really do Facebook, but I have seen couples give joint emails. In one way, I think it's a bit creepy. But, in the situations in which I've been given the joint email, I've never been a close friend and it's always been peers with kids in my community, and that I sort of admire as a sneaky way for the wife to make sure coparenting is 50/50.

When the emails for birthday party invites, school functions, etc. come only to me, I am forced to manage them or delegate them, but then I still have to stay on top of whether the person to whom I have delegated fills the responsibility because it's my social capital that is wasted when DH fails to RSVP or show for the birthday party.

So, I don't know -- creepy or a necessary step to our emancipation?

I’m the wife and we do the shared email thing. And yes, it has a lot to with co-parenting. I wasn’t sneaky about it. My husband doesn’t have to ask why but I would straight up tell him why if he did! ?

Besides, my husband likes to be in the loop and is pretty annoyed when people regard him as not an equal parent. Society tries to make me solely responsible for all minutiae related to our kid and leave him out. That is not how we see it.

The ultimate reason I do it though is in case I drop dead. He’s already in the know about everything and has access to contacts, documents, correspondence from doctors or therapists,and such, and an easy way to log into accounts etc.

Before the kid, we used it for communicating with realtors, banks etc so we both have access to those docs.

Rarely, do I get anything interesting in my personal email anyway. My friends text me or just call.

[Anonymous]

I only know of one couple who shares a FB account. It's an old friend from high school so I don't know the circumstances. His wife is the only one who posts as far as I can tell. I find it a bit strange but I don't really pay much attention to it.

That said, I set up a family email account for the kids' school and activities so that both DH and I would have access to those emails. Now I'm wondering if people view that as controlling or insecure! I'm not going to change it but I never thought of it that way...

[Anonymous]

Codependent and no individual identity outside of their marriage. They are the couples (ok I only know 3) who NEVER do anything unless both of them do it.
It's usually the wife who is the instigator of it.

[Anonymous]

They both couldn't care less about Facebook and keep a joint page to stay connected to groups and family updates, or show and see pictures of kids. That's what I would think. They would rather avoid it altogether.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only know old people who do this. They log on every once in a while to like pictures of their grandkids.

Ha. My parents share an email address (they used to have their own through work, but are now retired) and a FB account. Neither is cheating or insecure or codependent. The common email address is used for bills and the like, and it's mostly my mom who uses it socially. Ditto for FB--my dad rarely uses the account. It's not worth it to him to have his own email or FB.

Younger couple? I might think it's weird. But older adults? I think nothing of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tend to think the guy isn't into social media and the woman is more of a social butterfly who likes to post about her family. It does seem kind of co-dependent but meh.

The majority if my guy friends and all my guy cousins aren't into social media at all.

So why can't she just have her own page? My DH isn't interested in social media either, so I have 'gasp' my own account.

[Anonymous]

I know 3 couples like this - 2 in their 40s, 1 in their 60s.

Couple 1 - 40s, account is in husband's name but only wife usually posts on it, and always writes her first name at end of post, "-Larla".
Couple 2 - 40s, account in both names, last name is missing a letter because there isn't room for LarloandLarlaJones. Both seem to use it but it is hard to tell sometimes which one is posting
Couple 3 - 60s, account is in wife's name but most posts are from the husband, who always starts out with "Larlo here."

I don't really get it - Facebook accounts are free, and clearly these people understand how to use it, so if you want to post on your spouse's account all.the.time, why not get your own?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They both couldn't care less about Facebook and keep a joint page to stay connected to groups and family updates, or show and see pictures of kids. That's what I would think. They would rather avoid it altogether.

This is about it and true for all the couples I know who share a facebook page.

[Anonymous]

Eh, the only couples that I know who do this are in their 70s and don't 100% get how Facebook works

(Also I think that joint emails can be useful. We have one that we use for utilities, bills, school, etc. that just auto-forwards to our individual emails.)

[Anonymous]

that they just aren't that into social media

[Anonymous]

That they have a history or fear of infidelity, but also that they are less annoying than couples with separate facebook pages who constantly comment on each others posts.

Or, actually, it's usually the wives commenting on their husband's posts: See you soon sweetie! Ha ha I remember that, that was so funny! Yes, great show!

Weird.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I can’t believe you people don’t see this...Many people that are not computer savvy set it up together, and then just left it that way...