How is bullying handled at Cooper or Longfellow?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Longfellow's solution to the bullying was to pull the victims out of class for victim self help sessions each week. So victims were punished twice by missing instruction time. I don't know if they still treat the victims like they are the problem instead of suspending the bullies, but I hope something gets done. The staff are worthless at Longfellow.

As parents we have a role not letting our kids be punished. Every time my kid is a victim I report it and instruct the administrators to go talk to the perpetrators who are supposed to miss instruction time.

Parents should be advocates for their kids, but school administrators should be looking out for all the kids. That includes not rushing to judgment when some parent claims their child was the victim and someone else's child was the aggressor.

If the situation is clear-cut, then the aggressor should be disciplined and sessions where the victim is offered advice on coping and self-help strategies should be optional.

But many situations are not clear-cut, the parents of the alleged aggressor may advocate just as fiercely as the parents of the alleged victim, and the school administrators are operating in an environment in which their goal is to help all the kids mature and learn, not conduct lengthy, intensive fact-finding investigations into every incident that takes place among kids with immature brains and budding hormones.

Please don't act like adults at Longfellow don't see and hear these incidents. Truth=no one wants to deal with the ahole bully parents who are bigger aholes than the bullies! Carole needs to get her head out her arse and do her job and if she can't get a backbone she should be gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Longfellow's solution to the bullying was to pull the victims out of class for victim self help sessions each week. So victims were punished twice by missing instruction time. I don't know if they still treat the victims like they are the problem instead of suspending the bullies, but I hope something gets done. The staff are worthless at Longfellow.

As parents we have a role not letting our kids be punished. Every time my kid is a victim I report it and instruct the administrators to go talk to the perpetrators who are supposed to miss instruction time.

Parents should be advocates for their kids, but school administrators should be looking out for all the kids. That includes not rushing to judgment when some parent claims their child was the victim and someone else's child was the aggressor.

If the situation is clear-cut, then the aggressor should be disciplined and sessions where the victim is offered advice on coping and self-help strategies should be optional.

But many situations are not clear-cut, the parents of the alleged aggressor may advocate just as fiercely as the parents of the alleged victim, and the school administrators are operating in an environment in which their goal is to help all the kids mature and learn, not conduct lengthy, intensive fact-finding investigations into every incident that takes place among kids with immature brains and budding hormones.

Please don't act like adults at Longfellow don't see and hear these incidents. Truth=no one wants to deal with the ahole bully parents who are bigger aholes than the bullies! Carole needs to get her head out her arse and do her job and if she can't get a backbone she should be gone.

You sound like the biggest "ahole" here. Kihm has the job as long as she wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Longfellow's solution to the bullying was to pull the victims out of class for victim self help sessions each week. So victims were punished twice by missing instruction time. I don't know if they still treat the victims like they are the problem instead of suspending the bullies, but I hope something gets done. The staff are worthless at Longfellow.

As parents we have a role not letting our kids be punished. Every time my kid is a victim I report it and instruct the administrators to go talk to the perpetrators who are supposed to miss instruction time.

Parents should be advocates for their kids, but school administrators should be looking out for all the kids. That includes not rushing to judgment when some parent claims their child was the victim and someone else's child was the aggressor.

If the situation is clear-cut, then the aggressor should be disciplined and sessions where the victim is offered advice on coping and self-help strategies should be optional.

But many situations are not clear-cut, the parents of the alleged aggressor may advocate just as fiercely as the parents of the alleged victim, and the school administrators are operating in an environment in which their goal is to help all the kids mature and learn, not conduct lengthy, intensive fact-finding investigations into every incident that takes place among kids with immature brains and budding hormones.

Please don't act like adults at Longfellow don't see and hear these incidents. Truth=no one wants to deal with the ahole bully parents who are bigger aholes than the bullies! Carole needs to get her head out her arse and do her job and if she can't get a backbone she should be gone.

You sound like the biggest "ahole" here. Kihm has the job as long as she wants.

Thanks for nothing Carhole.

[Anonymous]

At Longfellow, were the parents of "victims" alerted that the kids were being pulled for a victim support group or whatever it was? I would be livid if this was done without my consent during an academic period.

[Anonymous]

Livid is an understatement and he lack of remedial intervention on the bullies just added to the travesty.

[Anonymous]

10, 20, 30 years from now the bullied students will have forgotten the math, history and biology lessons but they will probably never forget the pain they experienced at Longfellow. That's Carole's legacy.

[Anonymous]

They'll be too busy trying to forget their drama queen parents for that.

[Anonymous]

We’ve had four years of experience at Longfellow and never heard of a bullying problem. We have a very high opinion of how Ms. Kihm runs the school.

I suspect there is one parent or child who keeps posting these extreme versions of how Longfellow is run.

I also find all these posts saying bullying happens because of the AAP program to be suspect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10, 20, 30 years from now the bullied students will have forgotten the math, history and biology lessons but they will probably never forget the pain they experienced at Longfellow. That's Carole's legacy.

Could you give some specific examples--or, at least, the type of bullying--you are talking about?

And, what do you wish the administration to do about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve had four years of experience at Longfellow and never heard of a bullying problem. We have a very high opinion of how Ms. Kihm runs the school.

I suspect there is one parent or child who keeps posting these extreme versions of how Longfellow is run.

I also find all these posts saying bullying happens because of the AAP program to be suspect.

I disagree. This is ongoing. I agreed rehoming some aap students will help.

[Anonymous]

I have an 8th grader at Longfellow and I've never heard of any bullying either, and my DC tells me everything that is going on. Granted we've only been there since the Langley AAP kids moved to Cooper, so maybe it used to be more prevalent. I have a few issues with a couple of teachers who don't really teach, but most of them are great.

[Anonymous]

Agree with the positive statements about Cooper's administration, especially principal Arlene Randall. (Hope she does not retire soon.) Great leader, does not give in to pushy parents or bullies of any kind.

In other ways the school culture strongly emphasizes kindness as a value as well. As you walk through the halls, you see every door has a different quote on the topic.

[Anonymous]

My dtr had problems with someone in her friend group at LMS. The girl told lies, which were debunked. Admin pulled my dtr and friends out of class more than once to find out what was going on. Never once did admin notify me that there was a problem. I would have expected a call to let me know there was a concern. My impression was that the leadership was weak.

I have found Carol Kihm to be good at 30,000 feet, but she leaves much for the admin to handle and keeps her hands clean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At Longfellow, were the parents of "victims" alerted that the kids were being pulled for a victim support group or whatever it was? I would be livid if this was done without my consent during an academic period.

One of my good friends has a child at Longfellow who was bullied. She refused to take part in the "victim support group," saying it was insulting for the victims to have to miss class and be "counseled," while the bullies faced no consequences. I was so impressed by this child standing up to the administration, and her parents backed her 100%.

Something is very, very wrong when victims are told to miss class and get "advice" on how not to be a victim, but the bullies face no such consequence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At Longfellow, were the parents of "victims" alerted that the kids were being pulled for a victim support group or whatever it was? I would be livid if this was done without my consent during an academic period.

One of my good friends has a child at Longfellow who was bullied. She refused to take part in the "victim support group," saying it was insulting for the victims to have to miss class and be "counseled," while the bullies faced no consequences. I was so impressed by this child standing up to the administration, and her parents backed her 100%.

Something is very, very wrong when victims are told to miss class and get "advice" on how not to be a victim, but the bullies face no such consequence.

Do they still do this "victim support" during class time or did they nix it or move it to lunch time?