Looking for an RE in DC area sensitive to IVF ethical concerns

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would be the reason to keep PGS abnormal embryos? I’m not being snarky as I just signed to have the embryos brought home. Now I’m second guessing my decision.

I mean, if you care that much about the sancity of life, abnormal should not make a difference.

And they don't. I have 2 normals, 4 abnormals, and 7 untested. I am keeping them all. Each one of them is worthy of life.

[Anonymous]

Shady Grove was fine with limiting the number of eggs we fertilized. You're not required to fertilize all the eggs that are retrieved.
They were also fine with waiting to transfer until the blast stage despite us not having a ton of embryos to begin with.

We did IVF for a 3rd child and really didn't want left over embryos. We only fertilized 6 eggs and by day three, 4 were looking good. A reasonable course of action would be to transfer then. However, we continued to watch them grow and by day five another 3 slowed down and began to stop growing. By day 6 we had one left and we put it back.
I ended up implanting.
I'm not sure I would recommend this to everyone but we REALLY didn't want twins from this pregnancy and we really didn't want left-over embryos so we tried to maximize the natural attrition of embryos.

[Anonymous]

To be honest, this was a reason we chose not to pursue IVF and moved to adoption instead. Our RE was dismissive of adoption, which was very annoying as I myself was adopted, but I understand it was his job to get women pregnant, not make them parents through any other means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would be the reason to keep PGS abnormal embryos? I’m not being snarky as I just signed to have the embryos brought home. Now I’m second guessing my decision.

I mean, if you care that much about the sancity of life, abnormal should not make a difference.

If someone cared all that much then they should not be pursuing fertility treatments IMO. Many people do end up with extra embryos.

+1, Totally agree!

[Anonymous]

i had concerns too. i discussed them to Dr. Greenhouse at SG, who sadly passed away not too long ago. he took my concerns seriously and explained different options and scenarios. fortunately i never had to deal with the issue because i never had leftover embryos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it will cost more no matter how you go about it. If you do a natural cycle IVF it would work out financially less only if you're successful on the 1st try.

Not necessarily ... I did a round of NCIVF got an embryo but it didn’t implant. Cost me 6,000. Then I did IVF and only retrieved 3 eggs and only one of them made it to an embryo. IVF is A LOT more expensive with not necessarily better outcomes.

To get the same result (3 eggs retrieved) from NCIVF you'd have to pay for 3 cycles, no?

[Anonymous]

We saw Dr Frankfurter at GW for both of our babies. We didnt have the same concerns as OP, but based on our consults with him, I think he is sensitive to them. In our experience, he takes a conservative approach and believes in quality over quantity (which would limit the possibility of extra embryos).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there should be an option to store extra embryos in case of population collapse - keep em frozen for 2 generations and then allow them to be "adopted" after your children pass away.

? You have that option. And you can provide for continued payment of the storage fees after your death in your will.