"We are so screwed" - rant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It rubs me the wrong way, too. Right up there with the "Larlo scored 17 goals at his travel soccer game this weekend! We are so blessed!"

people need to consider their audience. how does a parent of a disabled child feel reading about how "screwed" they are? just STFU

As a parent who lost a child with a severe disability, I'd much rather read either the screwed or blessed quotes than a comment like yours that uses my child as a prop. Please stop.

[Anonymous]

Whenever I put anything on Facebook about my kids I'm intending it for a small audience. My mom, sister, aunts, cousins basically. We're all spread out and the older ones don't do texting; they genuinely enjoy seeing and commenting on all the kid posts.
I wouldn't phrase anything like that but I figure it's first time parents who are proud and don't want to seem proud. Hipster affectation.

[Anonymous]

I have always thought that if a parent constantly touts how amazing their child is, they must really need praise from others. Perhaps they are dealing with other issues with their child and they are trying to just focus on the positive. I don't know, I just always say, "Congrats...that's awesome" or something similar and go about my business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It rubs me the wrong way, too. Right up there with the "Larlo scored 17 goals at his travel soccer game this weekend! We are so blessed!"

people need to consider their audience. how does a parent of a disabled child feel reading about how "screwed" they are? just STFU

larlo needs to play better competition

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine feeling like I’m screwed if my kid is displaying exceptional intelligence or talent. That’s awesome. I do, however, genuinely feel screwed by having early crawlers and walkers 🤣

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's the social media dynamics, I don't follow that many parents. but I don't mind this type of thing at all. (I don't think I've ever encountered this specific expression). People are excited for their kids and they throw in a little deprecation. It's deprecation that also has some truth to it; all the stuff that kids "accomplish" comes with specific challenges for parenting that kid.

Mostly though I do not care that people brag about their kids. The kid who is great at sports doesn't diminish my kid, who isn't. My kid still has the stuff that makes her great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It rubs me the wrong way, too. Right up there with the "Larlo scored 17 goals at his travel soccer game this weekend! We are so blessed!"

people need to consider their audience. how does a parent of a disabled child feel reading about how "screwed" they are? just STFU

As a parent who lost a child with a severe disability, I'd much rather read either the screwed or blessed quotes than a comment like yours that uses my child as a prop. Please stop.

Well you don’t speak for me and I appreciate the idea that someone may be thinking about how their words will affect my family and disabled kid. Considering how your words could hurt a child is not “using the child as a prop”. What are you even talking about?

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but “almost reading and spelling” in kindergarten is NOT advanced. Advanced is reading and writing with some degree of facility, which is what plenty kids around here are doing. So if they are going to brag in an annoying way, they’d best be sure it’s a legit brag.

It would hit much better to just say “we’re so proud of Larla!” There’s an honesty there the faux-cutesy-but-annoying-and-disingenuous “we’re screwed” lacks. Just reply, “Yeah, sorry. That sounds difficult.” They will be annoyed that you “misunderstood”!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it's the social media dynamics, I don't follow that many parents. but I don't mind this type of thing at all. (I don't think I've ever encountered this specific expression). People are excited for their kids and they throw in a little deprecation. It's deprecation that also has some truth to it; all the stuff that kids "accomplish" comes with specific challenges for parenting that kid.

Mostly though I do not care that people brag about their kids. The kid who is great at sports doesn't diminish my kid, who isn't. My kid still has the stuff that makes her great.

+1

I don't mind bragging about kids -- even about not particularly exceptional things -- on social media either. The norms are different than in-person, where I'm much more of a captive audience. If someone's social media posts grate for you, then scroll on by or block. But I have no problem of a parent posting a video of a kid getting a hit at a little league game or some small academic accomplishment or whatever. Social media is different. And a lot of the social media "braggers" I know are also quick to post a "way to go" or "congrats" on others' "bragging" posts..it's actually nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For some reason the "we are so screwed" parents drive me insane. Just admit that you are bragging! Someone I know posted this exact post (name changed) over the weekend:

"Larla is counting to 30 in Mandarin. She’s incredibly close to reading and spelling. I’m screwed. My husband is screwed. World domination coming soon."

The kid is in kindergarten. I am sure it is advanced but not world domination advanced. And I see this ALL the time with kids that are perceived to be advanced at whatever skill they are doing. Kid rolls early? We are so screwed. Talks about complicated topics early? We are so screwed. You aren't "screwed" because your kid is advanced.

End rant.

"I am so sorry but I my Big Deal calendar is filled."

[Anonymous]

Some of you need to get over your super sensitivity.

[Anonymous]

With all my college and post college kids home this weekend, we got into a discussion about who went to aap and who didn’t and where are they now. Aap kids ironically did not fair better in terms of college placement or post college jobs. Only kid they all knew who is becoming a doctor was never aap.

[Anonymous]

My kids are in college and HS...they both did mandarin in preschool and also Spanish. They also did math enhancement preschool and music etc...
Neither one continued w/ mandarin after ES and piano disappeared by MS...I do believe the language helped with music but beyond that..there was no advantage compared to their peers and where they went to college. Kids all catch up to each other other. I'd just let it go and know in your mind what it is.
Everyone wants the best for their kids some boast more than others and try harder. You will deal with so much more beyond how well they are doing in their supplemental activities on this crazy parenting ride. Buckle up. This is a drop in the bucket

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have always thought that if a parent constantly touts how amazing their child is, they must really need praise from others. Perhaps they are dealing with other issues with their child and they are trying to just focus on the positive. I don't know, I just always say, "Congrats...that's awesome" or something similar and go about my business.

I agree with this…I think posting lots of things about your children is very attention seeking and it’s something I see more from first time parents. If you are posting much more than a happy birthday message on social media after your oldest child is 3 to me it’s kind of a cry for help. The people who list all the amazing things about their 6 year olds just seem desperate. I don’t go on social media much because it’s a huge time suck and generally pointless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but “almost reading and spelling” in kindergarten is NOT advanced. Advanced is reading and writing with some degree of facility, which is what plenty kids around here are doing. So if they are going to brag in an annoying way, they’d best be sure it’s a legit brag.

It would hit much better to just say “we’re so proud of Larla!” There’s an honesty there the faux-cutesy-but-annoying-and-disingenuous “we’re screwed” lacks. Just reply, “Yeah, sorry. That sounds difficult.” They will be annoyed that you “misunderstood”!

Did they mean in Mandarin?? Because that's the only way this makes sense. And yes, I'm aware that you don't "spell" in that language.