Lacking passion in kissing the DW

[Anonymous]

Tell her. See how she responds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH was clean shaven when we met years and years ago. Now he’s got a beard and mustache and I don’t like it. It’s tough for me to get into kissing him for more than a quick peck as his facial hair is annoying and I don’t find his as attractive.

That’s the truth of it. If he’s shave it all off, I’d me more into kissing him passionately.

I call BS. Ten bucks says he shaves it off and it won't change a thing. Nice try, though.

[Anonymous]

It's the canary in the coal mine. When she stops wanting to kiss you, the sex will soon either be grudging or non-existent.

[Anonymous]

She's lost passion for you overall. It happens, man. Figure out what to do to get it back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's lost passion for you overall. It happens, man. Figure out what to do to get it back.

She has to figure it out. Him doing stuff without her active participation just isn't going to work. It's like pushing a rope.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't want to kiss a man who has a mustache either.
Sorry but that's gross.
It's 2018, it's more than time to shave it off.

[Anonymous]

When DH was of normal weight, I was still attracted regardless of his facial grooming habits.

When DH became overweight (100lbs over), I couldn’t muster up any attraction when he wasn’t putting effort into the grooming. Longish hair and stubble/beard was just disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's lost passion for you overall. It happens, man. Figure out what to do to get it back.

Protip: you can't.

[Anonymous]

For me, kissing is more emotional than sex, and I need some sort of an emotional situation. So like during good makeup sex, after being upset and then relieved. Or after being away from each other. Or even like, after watching a really dramatic movie together.

On an average day, things just aren't very emotional, there is no sense of big feelings, and so I'm not that into kissing. You have to be realistic, you can't sustain big passion for years. People who do usually have a pretty crazy life with lots of interpersonal drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's lost passion for you overall. It happens, man. Figure out what to do to get it back.

She has to figure it out. Him doing stuff without her active participation just isn't going to work. It's like pushing a rope.

This. Or she's cheating. There are no other realistic explanations. Everything else is an excuse.

[Anonymous]

OP, be skeptical of the motivations of anyone who would push you toward divorce without at least trying shaving the mustache first. The worst that happens is it doesn't change anything and you grow it back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, be skeptical of the motivations of anyone who would push you toward divorce without at least trying shaving the mustache first. The worst that happens is it doesn't change anything and you grow it back.

It won't. But, you're right, it grows back quickly and now he can cross that off the list.

[Anonymous]

We have a great sex life except every time we french kiss I get a sore throat. We no longer kiss that way.

[Anonymous]

I don't like passionate kissing right away. Try little kisses on places other than her lips first. ears, neck, chest. Then move to gentle kisses on the mouth.
Also, If she says it's the mustache, shave it.

[Anonymous]

You asked her and she told you. Now you are asking us?? Are we supposed to know why she doesn't kiss you with the same enthusiasm she used to? Did you have a stash back then?

Tell her you will gladly shave off the stash so you can be as intimate as before, if that's all that is really holding her back If she responds with joy, then do it. If she talks you out of it, then you have a different problem and it isn't the stash?

Breath? Maybe?