How often are you hearing from your new freshman..

[Anonymous]

We changed our numbers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine just called me because he didn’t feel like answering my text. So I’m...flattered?

I try to keep the lines open by letting him get away with an extremely brief checkin, so naturally I only get to ask one of my 300 questions. Guess I won’t know if they are still serving those fantastic mint chocolate chips cookies in the d-hall, what his work-study job is like, does his roommate snore...

Yeah, they are very stingy with the details aren't they, lol.

I need to make a list of my umpteen million questions and prioritize what I'm dying to know so I'll be sure to ask the right question when I get the chance to!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine just called me because he didn’t feel like answering my text. So I’m...flattered?

I try to keep the lines open by letting him get away with an extremely brief checkin, so naturally I only get to ask one of my 300 questions. Guess I won’t know if they are still serving those fantastic mint chocolate chips cookies in the d-hall, what his work-study job is like, does his roommate snore...

Yeah, they are very stingy with the details aren't they, lol.

I need to make a list of my umpteen million questions and prioritize what I'm dying to know so I'll be sure to ask the right question when I get the chance to!

NP here, this is so funny to me because I could have written this myself!

[Anonymous]

So just a thought. They are no longer in HS, no longer living at home, so things change and they should. There is no right or wrong on this but if you are texting and calling because you are lonely or miss them, while understandable, you gotta let go. Get a pet, pick up a hobby, this is their time, let them contact you. If you are worried about them for a particular reason (not I worry all the time, they might be kidnapped kind of stuff), that is different, but otherwise, go with that old phrase let them free and if they love you . . . Don't put pressure on them to make you less lonely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son called once but got off quickly when roommate came home (which I understand) and then a few texts. Normal?..I would like to hear more. This is his second week.

Yes. It's only been two weeks. Give him a call this weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So just a thought. They are no longer in HS, no longer living at home, so things change and they should. There is no right or wrong on this but if you are texting and calling because you are lonely or miss them, while understandable, you gotta let go. Get a pet, pick up a hobby, this is their time, let them contact you. If you are worried about them for a particular reason (not I worry all the time, they might be kidnapped kind of stuff), that is different, but otherwise, go with that old phrase let them free and if they love you . . . Don't put pressure on them to make you less lonely.

I dunno. That's sort of old school thinking. Sending a text - "How was your first day of class?" is pretty standard stuff. Sometimes they text back "fine", sometimes they might even go into more detail.

You can touch base without prying. In fact, all their friends from home are keeping in touch, why shouldn't their parents and siblings, too?