Husband won’t cover up ex girlfriend’s name (tattoo)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so all you hypocritical harpies saying "hell no", have each of you thrown away every single piece of memorabilia from a past relationship?

I mean we're talking about totally inanimate objects that you have stored away in the back of the closet. seems pretty easy and simple to rid yourself of those memories. pretty different from insisting that someone alter their actual body to please your insecurity.

The analogy doesn't work. This is not something hidden away. This is akin to having a big picture of his ex in every room in the house, including the BEDROOM...over the bed, and refusing to shove it in a drawer.

And btw I do have some ex's love letters somewhere packed away, and I can't find them. Because they're NOT IN MY FACE, EVERY DAY. For the record, I told my DH if I ever die and he finds these letters, they are saved only because I can't find them to throw them away.

I doubt he'll care, lol. When I was dating my husband his ex was harassing us. She was angry he moved on so quickly, still not right. I threw out everything from her and her photos. When you move on you the exes should be in the past. Especially that tattoo, it's needs to be removed or something done.

[Anonymous]

It’s his body, he can do what he wants with it.

Sound familiar ladies?

[Anonymous]

It’s not at all about being insecure…
We all have a past, it’s okay too once think u were going to have future with that person. But NOW I’m confused… cause I thought we were building a future? Which should be bigger and better than that past one! So how come (?) this bigger better future shouldn’t be posted on ur body as well??
No one said u had to delete it!!!!

[Anonymous]

He has three kids with her, what good is it going to do to erase her name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They were together for a very long time and have 3 older kids. He got the tattoo when he was 19, he’s 40 now. He claims he just doesn’t know of anything that will cover it but has recently covered up 2 larger tattoos... he also never even mentioned getting my name, after 10 years together.

Does he still love her?

He seems like a class act.

[Anonymous]

I mean, he's had the tattoo (more than) twice as long as you've been together, check back in 11 more years and maybe you'll have a shot.

Otherwise, his body his choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For many people, tattoos are kind of a life story. She was a significant person in his life story. Let it go.

I agree. There's a photo montage in our bedroom that includes pictures of my husband's first wife and their dog. It's part of who he is, and I think it's sweet.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't like it, but why did you marry him? It's not like this is new.

[Anonymous]

For many people tattoos are a story montage of their lives. He was with her and had 3 kids with her.

His body, his choice - you get no say.

You could have chosen to not date him if his tattoos were a no go for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not at all about being insecure…
We all have a past, it’s okay too once think u were going to have future with that person. But NOW I’m confused… cause I thought we were building a future? Which should be bigger and better than that past one! So how come (?) this bigger better future shouldn’t be posted on ur body as well??
No one said u had to delete it!!!!

Why are you bumping a five year old thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They were together for a very long time and have 3 older kids. He got the tattoo when he was 19, he’s 40 now. He claims he just doesn’t know of anything that will cover it but has recently covered up 2 larger tattoos... he also never even mentioned getting my name, after 10 years together.

Does he still love her?

His body, his choice. You don’t get to have an opinion about it, much less express it.

See a therapist about your insecurities. This is 100% a you problem and it’s all in your head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s his body, he can do what he wants with it.

Sound familiar ladies?

I am a guy and am sick of morons like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For many people, tattoos are kind of a life story. She was a significant person in his life story. Let it go.

Isn't OP a significant part of his life story now? Yet, he won't get a tattoo with her name on it.

I would be upset, too, OP. Been married 20 years.

DH has lots of pix of his exGF, of course. If he put it up on the wall, that would be extremely disrespectful. The tattoo is worse than the pix on the wall since it goes everywhere he goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They were together for a very long time and have 3 older kids. He got the tattoo when he was 19, he’s 40 now. He claims he just doesn’t know of anything that will cover it but has recently covered up 2 larger tattoos... he also never even mentioned getting my name, after 10 years together.

Does he still love her?

His body, his choice. You don’t get to have an opinion about it, much less express it.

See a therapist about your insecurities. This is 100% a you problem and it’s all in your head.

dp.. seems like you are the one with some issues and need therapy yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He has three kids with her, what good is it going to do to erase her name?

it would make op feel better not having her name tattooed to his body which she sees every time they have sex.