Am I losing it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Op here. Thanks. I was not expecting the number of vicious comments. For the record, I'm not attention starved. My husband paws at me plenty and I've been hit on before but it's been more traditional (eating alone on work travel, on a plane or by a jerk I know through work. I love DH and other than the normal patterns people fall into, things are good. After time, you know what each other likes, so sex becomes a routine, almost rehearsed with the exception of that occasional wild hair that strikes.

What has this so much on my mind is the boldness of the setting and the suggestion and the nature of the suggestion. I think part of me is wondering if i discovered I'm a closet exhibitionist or voyeur in my mid 40s or am I finding this exciting because it's new as in an area I haven't explored? It's as much about the suggestion as it is anything. What puzzles me about it is it part of the reason I was initially offended is that saying that struck me as childish. How could he think that would possibly work? Instead, it's like he planted a seed.

Thanks to those that gave helpful advice.

Goes to show, you can't always rely on the frontal lobe to tell you what the limbic system wants. If someone had asked OP, would some doofus saying "show me yours" at a party get her hot and bothered, she would have said "absolutely not; that's creepy." And yet, here we are.

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Don’t take flattery from someone’s drunken words. His words were actually disrespectful to you. You are worth more than that. He doesn’t have a right to talk to a married woman that way. It was probably because he was drinking, but it doesn’t make it right. Get it out of your head. Find a hobby or activity that brings you joy and focus on that until this gets out of your head. This thought will pass and then you won’t think on it.

[Anonymous]

What's the big deal? If this is the first guy you've fantasized about since you got married, I'd think you were a prude. Occasional fantasies, innocent flirting, totally normal.

[Anonymous]

I've said the exact same thing (and a half dozen variations of it) to probably a dozen women in the last dozen years and with no intention of cheating on my wife. It's called flirting and its fun.

BTW- two women have actually flashed me their t*ts after I said the same thing and I highly doubt one told her husband and I guarantee the other never mentioned it. I also guarantee she would have slept with me.

Mid 40s married women are ripe as all get out for poaching. Just for the reasons you illustrate here.

Theyre terrified of losing their looks and turning into their mothers.

[Anonymous]

Man here, I went through a sexual bad boy phase, for lack of a better word, in my late 30s. Those lines work often. "You look stunning in that dress, but it would even better on the chaise of my hotel room, with you laughing delirious from the best sex of your life.". With a wink, of course. Here's my number, if your game.

I got a few calls, mostly married women, some just text flirting but some went through with it.

I am surprised you are just fining out you respond to sexually confident and assertive men. It's near universal (although if I said it to my wife now she would laugh at me, such is marriage)

[Anonymous]

This reads like I HATE JOE

The kids need to be back in school or the OP needs to join a creative writing group - check your local library, OP.

[Anonymous]

It's totally fine to fantasize about the 'what if' element of this guy's proposal. It's fun, nothing more. I fantasize about a man I see regularly but don't know at all. Don't feel bad/weird but don't pursue it either. Your fantasies will always be more fun than the actual guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the big deal? If this is the first guy you've fantasized about since you got married, I'd think you were a prude. Occasional fantasies, innocent flirting, totally normal.

OP here. I'm not a stranger to fantasies nor innocent flirting. I know where to draw the line. While I don't think I'm a prude, I wouldn't consider myself overly adventurous. This fell into a different category for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This reads like I HATE JOE

The kids need to be back in school or the OP needs to join a creative writing group - check your local library, OP.

Sounds like the "it's a troll" poster is trying to add to his/her repertoire.