Inappropriate dress code reminder

[Anonymous]

I have a 7th grade boy who is focused on his work, not how people dress, and I have NO PROBLEM with how girls dress in his school. The dress code, if there is one, has not been rammed down our throats, and as a woman, I would read it with my guard up, like OP.

Stop it, PP.



7th grade boys aren't sharing their thoughts about girls' bodies with mom.

LOL! Best and most accurate comment today. Mom is incredibly naive or her son is just not interested in girls.

[Anonymous]

The email was not sexist. They called out both boys and girls, cutting common clothing choices of both.

It sounds like the school is sir conditionedand has problems with kids of both sexes not wearing enough clothes to school when it gets warm, and then freezing in class.

You are looking to be offended by something op, and I say that as a feminist.

[Anonymous]

I'm just shocked that in this day and age the principal didn't send a less-charged email. Where has s/he been for the last 10 years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm just shocked that in this day and age the principal didn't send a less-charged email. Where has s/he been for the last 10 years?

Maybe, she decided to use common sense. Something that appears to be lacking with some of you. Here is a news alert: boys and girls dress differently. Boys and girls ARE different--it is called "biology." Transgenders and those who are gender neutral are not the issue here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm just shocked that in this day and age the principal didn't send a less-charged email. Where has s/he been for the last 10 years?

+1

[Anonymous]

While the principal could have just said "students" instead of "girls" or "boys" (because yeah, boys can wear sandals and girls can wear tank tops with too-large armholes)....like an earlier poster, the word choice isn't a hill to die on.

And the message seems to be getting lost on OP and some other posters.

Shoes: The principal wants kids to wear shoes that actually stay ON the feet so that kids aren't tripping, scraping up their feet and getting stabbed by mulch on the playground. And before you say, that doesn't happen, because it's never happened to MY kid--it does happen; flip-flops, sandals, crocs, slides, etc. all are horrible when kids start running and playing in them. (I once took a group of kids on a hike and after being specifically told in advance that they had to come in closed shoes, no Crocs or sandals, of course two came in Crocs and complained when twigs and mulch got into their shoes almost immediately.) Clothes: The school gets chilly inside even in the height of summer and that's distracting for students, so their parents need to be aware of what school is actually like indoors and send kids with something to wear when it's chilly (and I would say, sundresses and sleeveless tops on girls OR boys is just a bad idea when they'll be in AC all day long). That wasn't about covering up kids' bodies because they're distracted by each others' looks, it was about helping kids not be distracted by being cold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dress codes are sexist bullshit.

+ 1,000. I have never seen a dress code that was both drafted and applied in a non-discriminatory fashion. And I have never seen a dress code that actually focused on safety and hygiene. These are nothing but subjective throwbacks that are administered by martinets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the email.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dress your kid appropriately, without T&A or their junk hanging out and you won’t have a problem. You know this. Unfortunately there are families who don’t get it, so the principal needs to spell it out. Yes, even in elementary school.

If you don’t understand why an adolescent girl falling out of her top or a guy wearing spandex pants distracts from the learning environment, I can’t help you.

Stop trying to be offended about everything and focus on working with the school.

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I, for one, wish my daughter's middle school admin would put their money where their mouth is and actually dress code more kids. They will occasionally dress code someone, just to make a point, but if they did it regularly to show they mean business, parents would have a much easier time at home, policing what our kids wear (or want to wear) to school. If they saw their classmates actually getting in trouble for wearing inappropriate clothing, then they wouldn't insist on wearing it themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow - who knew dress codes could be such a hot button issue.

I second the call for uniforms.

+3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dress your kid appropriately, without T&A or their junk hanging out and you won’t have a problem. You know this. Unfortunately there are families who don’t get it, so the principal needs to spell it out. Yes, even in elementary school.

If you don’t understand why an adolescent girl falling out of her top or a guy wearing spandex pants distracts from the learning environment, I can’t help you.

Stop trying to be offended about everything and focus on working with the school.

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I, for one, wish my daughter's middle school admin would put their money where their mouth is and actually dress code more kids. They will occasionally dress code someone, just to make a point, but if they did it regularly to show they mean business, parents would have a much easier time at home, policing what our kids wear (or want to wear) to school. If they saw their classmates actually getting in trouble for wearing inappropriate clothing, then they wouldn't insist on wearing it themselves.

Ahhh. But the power of being the parent is that you can insist that they don’t. Come on— it is ultimately your job as a parent to make sure your kid dresses appropriately. Not the schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait till HS. Girls wearing booty shorts and low cut tops. Not appropriate in a learning environment. I wish we had uniforms.

Don't forget belly shirts! They will be back at some point. Like the flu.

Also, there are plenty of schools that require uniforms. Our kids go to Catholic ones through (single gender) high school, but even some publics have uniforms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm just shocked that in this day and age the principal didn't send a less-charged email. Where has s/he been for the last 10 years?

+1

This. Either the principal doesn't care or has been under a rock.

It should have been focused on the appropriate shoes and clothes in total, not who is wearing them.

Not a super huge deal. But I can understand feeling annoyed.

[Anonymous]

The email was fine, you are over reacting.

[Anonymous]

I remember this teacher who said he as distracted and couldn't teach by the wears girls are dress.