Husband is not my soulmate

[Anonymous]

Don't compare your insides to someone else's outsides.

[Anonymous]

You create a good marriage through hard work, mature communication and compromise. It doesn't just "happen" even though many couples make it look very easy. If you want a better marriage, you and your DH need to make a commitment to make it better and get to work.

[Anonymous]

OP, i was in a 7.5 year relationship and finally broke up because I knew all along he wasn't my "soul mate." Why did you get married?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s no such thing as soulmates. You can be happy with anyone if you’re both in it to win it.

Yes, I assure you there is. That said, I agree you can be happy with many people.

The two of you in a couple make yourselves soulmates. There's a movie with Tim Hutton and Kelly McGillis where they are fated before birth to being happy only with each other. Yeah, the exact opposite of that.

[Anonymous]

That is too bad, because there is only one person for each of us to be our soulmate. It’s sad you may never actually find yours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't breathe, laugh, live without my husband. I am dead serious. He is my whole being. He tells me he feels the same. 40 years together. What a ride.

Yuck.

Only here, with such arrogant, empty people, would this comment draw a yuck.

No. This appalling sentimentality would draw a “yuck” anywhere in the world where right-thinking people gather.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll be your soulmate babycakes.

For an hour, at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't breathe, laugh, live without my husband. I am dead serious. He is my whole being. He tells me he feels the same. 40 years together. What a ride.

While I'm happy you're happy, I feel sorry for you because you are not an independent person and require another to make you whole. I'm sorry you lack resiliency.

DH and I have been married for 23 years. Everything is more enjoyable for me when we're together. There's no one I'd rather be with. Yet, I know when he dies, after a period of grief, I will enjoy life. I'll certainly be able to breathe, laugh and enjoy life. I may even find love again - like my mother and grandmother who were twice widowed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't breathe, laugh, live without my husband. I am dead serious. He is my whole being. He tells me he feels the same. 40 years together. What a ride.

While I'm happy you're happy, I feel sorry for you because you are not an independent person and require another to make you whole. I'm sorry you lack resiliency.

DH and I have been married for 23 years. Everything is more enjoyable for me when we're together. There's no one I'd rather be with. Yet, I know when he dies, after a period of grief, I will enjoy life. I'll certainly be able to breathe, laugh and enjoy life. I may even find love again - like my mother and grandmother who were twice widowed.

+100
Love is fantastic, but you never want someone else to be your "whole being", spouse or child. YOU are your whole being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You create a good marriage through hard work, mature communication and compromise. It doesn't just "happen" even though many couples make it look very easy. If you want a better marriage, you and your DH need to make a commitment to make it better and get to work.

I agree. Even with a 'soulmate', you're still living with a human being. That takes work to maintain a positive, healthy relationship over the long haul.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It makes me sad when I see a couple who clearly have what we don’t have

Well, if you can't be with the one you love, one the one you're with!

[Anonymous]

"Soulmate" has to be one of the most immature and irresponsible terms ever bestowed upon the English language and western lexicon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't breathe, laugh, live without my husband. I am dead serious. He is my whole being. He tells me he feels the same. 40 years together. What a ride.

Yuck.

Only here, with such arrogant, empty people, would this comment draw a yuck.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Soulmate" has to be one of the most immature and irresponsible terms ever bestowed upon the English language and western lexicon.

I agree. What exactly is a soul mate anyway? How do you know when you've found one? It puts too much pressure on relationships to be "perfect."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't breathe, laugh, live without my husband. I am dead serious. He is my whole being. He tells me he feels the same. 40 years together. What a ride.

Yuck.

Only here, with such arrogant, empty people, would this comment draw a yuck.

No. This appalling sentimentality would draw a “yuck” anywhere in the world where right-thinking people gather.

Exactly. It's absurd, as if you are not a person by yourself. It reads like some treacly nonsense you found on a Hallmark card. It's cringe-inducing.