I married my MIL!!!

[Anonymous]

Your DH sounds like he is whip smart and has sardonic/sarcastic wit and biting sense of humour. I think I would like him. My DH and I sometimes have the same dynamic, we understand each other and have the best time. Stupid people can't understand this kind of biting affection and humour.I have similar dynamic wit hmy closest cousin. In both of these we can practically say each others' lines and get along incredibly well. It is like mind reading, I know exactly what it means, and he knows it too. Maybe try to relax and accept him as he is? Surely this didn't just show up out of nowhere? People don't change that much. If he didn't actually love you, he would never feel free to be himself including his sarcastic side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH sounds like he is whip smart and has sardonic/sarcastic wit and biting sense of humour. I think I would like him. My DH and I sometimes have the same dynamic, we understand each other and have the best time. Stupid people can't understand this kind of biting affection and humour.I have similar dynamic wit hmy closest cousin. In both of these we can practically say each others' lines and get along incredibly well. It is like mind reading, I know exactly what it means, and he knows it too. Maybe try to relax and accept him as he is? Surely this didn't just show up out of nowhere? People don't change that much. If he didn't actually love you, he would never feel free to be himself including his sarcastic side.

Good for you. But he's refusing counseling where this could be teased out. Why would he refuse if would help her understand him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH sounds like he is whip smart and has sardonic/sarcastic wit and biting sense of humour. I think I would like him. My DH and I sometimes have the same dynamic, we understand each other and have the best time. Stupid people can't understand this kind of biting affection and humour.I have similar dynamic wit hmy closest cousin. In both of these we can practically say each others' lines and get along incredibly well. It is like mind reading, I know exactly what it means, and he knows it too. Maybe try to relax and accept him as he is? Surely this didn't just show up out of nowhere? People don't change that much. If he didn't actually love you, he would never feel free to be himself including his sarcastic side.

Good for you. But he's refusing counseling where this could be teased out. Why would he refuse if would help her understand him?

Well, defensive mechanism? Feeling attacked? Change is hard, especially as most people think they are fine the way they are. If I were him, I would take it that she is trying to change me, and she really is, isn't she? OP should try some activity that involves positive reinforcement. Something they both enjoy? And I might be wrong, maybe he is nothing like my experience, maybe this comes out of insecurity hence rejection of counseling?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH sounds like he is whip smart and has sardonic/sarcastic wit and biting sense of humour. I think I would like him. My DH and I sometimes have the same dynamic, we understand each other and have the best time. Stupid people can't understand this kind of biting affection and humour.I have similar dynamic wit hmy closest cousin. In both of these we can practically say each others' lines and get along incredibly well. It is like mind reading, I know exactly what it means, and he knows it too. Maybe try to relax and accept him as he is? Surely this didn't just show up out of nowhere? People don't change that much. If he didn't actually love you, he would never feel free to be himself including his sarcastic side.

Good for you. But he's refusing counseling where this could be teased out. Why would he refuse if would help her understand him?

Well, defensive mechanism? Feeling attacked? Change is hard, especially as most people think they are fine the way they are. If I were him, I would take it that she is trying to change me, and she really is, isn't she? OP should try some activity that involves positive reinforcement. Something they both enjoy? And I might be wrong, maybe he is nothing like my experience, maybe this comes out of insecurity hence rejection of counseling?

Yes. He may be an ass or she may be too sensitive. Really what it comes down to they are simply mismatched.

[Anonymous]

Get out, now, OP. You don't want to live life in a relationship as perverse as that. The problem will multiply (and triangulate) with children and the MIL involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH sounds like he is whip smart and has sardonic/sarcastic wit and biting sense of humour. I think I would like him. My DH and I sometimes have the same dynamic, we understand each other and have the best time. Stupid people can't understand this kind of biting affection and humour.I have similar dynamic wit hmy closest cousin. In both of these we can practically say each others' lines and get along incredibly well. It is like mind reading, I know exactly what it means, and he knows it too. Maybe try to relax and accept him as he is? Surely this didn't just show up out of nowhere? People don't change that much. If he didn't actually love you, he would never feel free to be himself including his sarcastic side.

Rationales like this justify abuse/neglect in relationships. There are a lot of people in life who don't love you who just want to act like @ssholes. It has nothing to do with love giving them the freedom to misbehave. Your relationship sounds equal/fine for you. OP's does not. It's only a joke when both people are meant to laugh, right?

[Anonymous]

I think the card was funny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the card was funny

I don't get it.

Is he miserable?

Or is he happy and it was a joke?

I thought he was miserable but maybe I don't get it.

Is this a trump thing?

[Anonymous]

I fell for my ex-wife's mother as well so we got married last year. It's been awesome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I fell for my ex-wife's mother as well so we got married last year. It's been awesome!