Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment

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Anonymous wrote:When I first read your post, I assumed they were immigrants. Is that the case?

That, or possibly former Manhattanites. Point is: people can thrive in such an arrangement.

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Anonymous wrote:One bathroom for that many people is obscene.

Its not a big deal. We have a 900 square foot house/one bedroom and have had other families stay with us for a week or two. So, 8 people plus so minus one. Its not a big deal. Short showers, some in the AM, some in the PM. If its my husband or son, I just use the toilet as they do if needed. Biggest issue we had was cooking as the other Mom claimed to be a huge cook and didn't cook so things were chaotic as she'd tell the kids to feed themselves. I stopped that and made everyone meals and problem solved. Kitchen space was actually harder and having a small fridge.

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There are also low income housing units in each apartment building typically. The developer is required to have these units.

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They probably value a short commute.

Where do you think they should live, op, that is affordable for them (and what you assume is their "high paying jobs", really??)?

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If they want a short commute and to pay for private schools, they probably don't have much money left, even if they are making quite a bit of money. May they want to live in luxury crammed in an apartment, rather than put all their money in a house? They probably have no time to do any house maintance with that many kids.

I would rather have a house with more than one bathroom, but that's just me.

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It's so sad how you're passing judgement on this family. If they're kind and well-educated, what's the problem? There are plenty of entitled boors living in large houses...

And please remember that many people in WEALTHY nations share rooms in small apartments, be it in Europe or Japan or Korea.

8 in a 1 bedroom is not un-common in other RICH countries. It's at one extreme of the norm, certainly, but not eyebrow-raising like here. My friend lived like this as a child, with her 6 brothers and sisters. She is a well-adjusted adult working at the World Bank. My SIL put her 4 kids two to a room when her house had several guest bedrooms, because many people believe there are benefits to having kids share. We lived for years all 4 of us in a ONE bedroom apartment in the US.

A little tolerance on a Sunday morning would be nice.

Why are you making judgments on peoples' education levels?

A little tolerance on a Sunday afternoon would be nice.

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My mother grew up in an apartment with 2 bedrooms and a den. She and her mother and her 7 siblings, as well as two maids, lived there just fine, all with one bathroom.

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Anonymous wrote:When I first read your post, I assumed they were immigrants. Is that the case?

What a disgusting comment.

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Anonymous wrote:It is totally normal for kids to share rooms. The only situation where it is not allowed is foster kids and adoption.

Do you know why?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One bathroom for that many people is obscene.

Its not a big deal. We have a 900 square foot house/one bedroom and have had other families stay with us for a week or two. So, 8 people plus so minus one. Its not a big deal. Short showers, some in the AM, some in the PM. If its my husband or son, I just use the toilet as they do if needed. Biggest issue we had was cooking as the other Mom claimed to be a huge cook and didn't cook so things were chaotic as she'd tell the kids to feed themselves. I stopped that and made everyone meals and problem solved. Kitchen space was actually harder and having a small fridge.

We are now in our 50s. We take time in the bathroom. It would be a huge deal.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is totally normal for kids to share rooms. The only situation where it is not allowed is foster kids and adoption.

Do you know why?

Sexual abuse concerns. Horny teens now having kids they aren’t related to sharing a room. Or a father.

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Anonymous wrote:They’re living like animals. No rationale person would pump out a litter of six like some mindless beast knowing they couldn’t properly provide a suitable living environment.

Given your comment, I think their environment is likely much more nurturing and healthy than yours. Talking about beasts...

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is totally normal for kids to share rooms. The only situation where it is not allowed is foster kids and adoption.

Do you know why?

Sexual abuse concerns. Horny teens now having kids they aren’t related to sharing a room. Or a father.

Puaj. How horrible.

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Anonymous wrote:DD has a friend with 5 other siblings. They’re very close and the friend is incredibly sweet and mature. We do play dates mostly at our house because the friend mentioned her apartment was small and that she shared a room with her siblings. I assumed she shared a room with a few of the other girls. Turns out it’s a 900 square foot apartment. The 5 oldest (4 girls aged 11-5 and one boy 3) share a bedroom while the parents and infant share another. I do not know how this works. I’ve always felt guilty for making my girls share a room, can’t kmafine 5 kids of mixed genders in a room. Also, ONE bathroom for EIGHT people. What happens when a stomach bug hits the house!

The oddest part is I don’t think it’s a financial thing. They live in a luxary apartment that’s easily twice our mortgage. I know both parents work in downtown and have high paying jobs. Why would they do this? The 4 school aged children all attend private school with DD. I can’t imagine doing this unless forced.

If their luxury apartment is 900 sqft and twitch your mortgage you probably live as far out as Chantilly or Rockville and that's your answer. Some people can't stand a commute or the inconvenience of the burbs.

+1 With 6 kids, parents probably lived there before they had kids (or with 1-2 kids) and now doesn’t have the energy to move. Plus with the short commute they could spend more time parenting their kids. Don’t judge. Not everyone wants 1000 square feet per person.

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I call troll...

6 kids and the Mom still works?!?

That doesn't sound fundamentalist to me.