Ladies of DCUM what if your husband lost al his money?

[Anonymous]

It depends on how he lost it. If he blew it on sex, drugs and rock n roll I'd leave him in a second.

[Anonymous]

He did.

My husband was laid off a few years ago, and has a lot of student debt, and was also supporting some extended family members. We don't make a ton.

But his money isn't why I married him. We're still married. He found another job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't leave him. He'd have to stop buying records, though.

[Anonymous]

If he lost his job and we lost our money through some combination of bad investments, free-fall in stock market, etc., then our marriage would certainly survive. We are both well educated and well qualified for good jobs so we would rebuild and probably keep a simpler lifestyle. If he lost his ever-loving mind and spent it on drugs, sex, cars, etc, then our marriage probably wouldn't survive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends on how he lost it. If he blew it on sex, drugs and rock n roll I'd leave him in a second.

This is key. We have a lot of money saved. If DH somehow managed to blow through several million on drugs or whatever, then yes, he'd be out in a flash. But unless he went on one giant expensive bender, I would notice well before he managed to go through all our money.

If he lost his job then no big deal because I earn more and he'd be able to find something new quickly. Even if it was disability and he couldn't work we are totally set.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What will you do? Would you leave him? Be honest.

Umm, it's not his money - it's our money. And no, we'd keep doing our thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Given that it's "our" money, I wouldn't worry. He doesn't have much money that's just "his" other than his retirement account which has about the same amount that I have in mine. I also was the sole bread winner at one point, so this doesn't worry me all that much either, as long as he can be a great sahd.

I get it now, thanks for the clarification. His money is “our” money but your money is “your” money. Feminism at it’s best.

Reading comprehension at "it's" best.

[Anonymous]

No way. Until death do us part. But it would suck and I would be cranky about it.

[Anonymous]

Depends. My ex suddenly decided to quit working one day and spent his savings on booze, porn, and video games. If I bugged him enough he'd get another job but get fired within a month. He then started pressuring me for kids so he could be a SAHD. I bailed.

My DH makes good money, but if he left his job to pursue another career I'd be fine with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't be worried, because I work and have my own money (liquid cash and investments). I've supported us before, and I can do it again. My profession is in high-demand and I could easily make more if I change my schedule/hours (healthcare).

I'd actually be relieved, because it would give us a good reason to leave DC and move to a much more laid-back, lower COL area (which I've been trying to do for 4+ years now).

What is your profession? Most healthcare jobs are becoming saturated.

[Anonymous]

I'd split. Not ashamed to admit it.

He'd leave me if I got fat.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t leave him. I’d rejoin the workforce full time.

[Anonymous]

Who's Al?

[Anonymous]

Loser. Next!

[Anonymous]

I’m the money maker in this family, so I could carry the weight. I love and desire that man, so we’d continue on.