PP here. You totally misunderstood my response. We don't hire tutors and we don't push. My kid takes the tests, so she earns her grades. I'm an engineer, so with math (her weakest subject), I make sure she understands what she's doing. I don't give her the answers for her homework, but I check what she's done. My daughter sets A-'s as the standard, not us, and it's because she has demonstrated that she can work at that level. I have two daughters, and the younger one is completely different and doesn't approach school the same way her older sister does. She has her own path and we will encourage her to take it. It all depends on the child. I agree there are some parents out there who try to fit a square peg into a round hole and proclaim "TJ or bust" or "Harvard or nothing". I feel truly sorry for those kids. |
My DS did the same and I think it probably hurt him a bit with college admissions, especially with scholarship money. Rigor seems to be a bit underrated in the process. However, it was DS's choice to take really tough courses, and it has set him up incredibly well in college. He is now a straight A student in a difficult major, and will be highly employable some day. Taking challenging courses is what helps you become an excellent writer, fluent in a foreign language, or really good at math or science. |
But then what is all this talk about the "most rigorous" box that counselors need to check? |
| Take the most rigorous courses in which you can get As! |
In my opinion, making straight As shows that you're not challenging yourself |
| Or that your school isn’t challenging you. Or that you’re busting your ass to do everything well. |
| Visited a highly ranked pubic university with dc this summer and an admissions official told us they want to see that you took the rigorous classes offered by YOUR school and did well. |
Exactly. The “top” want kids who took the hardest classes available to them AND got As. |
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The most rigorous courses at your school IN YOUR AREA(S) OF INTEREST is generally the qualifier elite privates include.
The “take as many of the hardest courses as early as you can” mentality that UMC high schools are drumming into smart kids can be really counterproductive, especially at the most rigorous universities. Take the course you can learn the most from (or take the course when you’re ready to get the most out of it) and balance your workload so you have time to do everything you need to do as well as you are able to do it is the better approach. |