Husband Laughed At Me

[Anonymous]

You sound insufferable...I feel for him

[Anonymous]

Don't have serious conversations with your daughter in front of her dad. The best time to talk is on a walk or in the car.

Men are too immature for serious conversation, they have to make a joke because they feel uncomfortable. They were socialized this way (1 in 10 might handle 1/2 of them fine.)

Family time is important, it does not always have to revolve around eating.

I would do 3 family dinners a week.

[Anonymous]

Laughing "with" your DH is much different than being laughed "at" by him. Laughter is an important part of a loving marriage because it indicates happiness and joy. The laughter you are speaking of indicates pain.

Family dinners would probably help create "good" marriages. They say in "good" marriages the spouses nurture admiration toward each other, turn toward each other and not away, let each spouse influence the other, solve their solvable problems, overcome gridlock, and create shared meaning. Family dinners would provide time for that! Also, it is a place for children to observe "good" marriages, plus learn "good" communication skills, manners, healthy eating, and teamwork, if they are included in on the meal preparation and clean-up. There is lots of research to support the social, emotional, health, academic, and spiritual benefits of nuclear units eating together.

Do you believe family dinners, if done in a loving setting, could foster "good" laughter and less pain? Blessings to you today!

[Anonymous]

OP you seriously need to lighten up and grow a sense of humor.

What kind of family dinner atmosphere are you creating if you get angry with something so minor.

How much stress are you putting you your kids by doing this?

You idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound insufferable...I feel for him

Wow that is just too far..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not one size fits all here. I see my older sister and her family from the outside -- it feels like the kids and her husband pick on her too much. They're all in the form of teasing (e.g. being uncool, being the last to get a joke, that sort of thing). It all seems a little unfair. My sister isn't the quickest wit (and her husband has an exceptionally quick wit), but she's plenty smart; (straight "A"s through high school, graduated 5th in a class of 400).

So I get irritated when I see them picking on her. But, I have to remind myself that she doesn't seem to mind. And they are an exceptionally tight-knit family. It works for them.

It obviously doesn't work for you, OP. So, your husband should respect that. But, you shouldn't necessarily take it as a given that he ought to know that it doesn't work for you. Because, in some families, that's part of the love.

I've seen this dynamic, where the father and the two sons gang up on the mom and poke fun at her. It's sad to watch.