Divorcing a cheating abusive narcissistic bully

[Anonymous]

Talk about cluelessness here. Of course people get fooled all the time. There are a lot of nice, rather naive people out there. They have trouble recognizing the motivations of a sociopath or toxic personality because they assume they're operating from a normal baseline. Why is that so hard to accept?

Not all predators use obvious brute force. Stealth and entrapment and patience work well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk about cluelessness here. Of course people get fooled all the time. There are a lot of nice, rather naive people out there. They have trouble recognizing the motivations of a sociopath or toxic personality because they assume they're operating from a normal baseline. Why is that so hard to accept?

Not all predators use obvious brute force. Stealth and entrapment and patience work well.

Clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's only gotten worse since I left. ANY books and resources you can recommend would be appreciated. TIA.

Is that you, Melania?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's only gotten worse since I left. ANY books and resources you can recommend would be appreciated. TIA.

Is that you, Melania?

Do you realize how childish you sound? Sorry for you're loss, maybe the Dems will have better luck in 4 years. I doubt it though, lol
Now go back to the political boards!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Who Moved My Cheese?" by Spencer Johnson.

good book. But how does it fit this concern?

[Anonymous]

My STBXH isn't a bully, but narcissistic is other ways. I found the YouTube channel Thrive After Abuse very helpful. She has a website by the same name with lots of book recommendations. Good luck to you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When ever I see a subject line like this I can't help but wonder how anyone ever marries a cheating abusive narcissistic bully. The cheating might not be evident but the rest should be.

By all accounts, I'm intelligent and savvy (haha and maybe a bit narcissistic) and could absolutely end up with a narcissist. They are often persuasive, charming, and intelligent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When ever I see a subject line like this I can't help but wonder how anyone ever marries a cheating abusive narcissistic bully. The cheating might not be evident but the rest should be.

Narcissists are manipulative charmers.

This. They are heavily invested in having a good facade and work hard to make people think they're great. It can take years for the mask to slip. And then at first, you make excuses. Later you feel trapped or beaten down.

I do believe you people need to learn what a narcissist is.

"Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of ultraconfidence lies a fragile self-esteem that's vulnerable to the slightest criticism."

I do believe we know exactly what we're talking about. You can google your little heart out for simplistic definitions, though, if it makes you feel better.

The PP who quoted google wasn't reading or listening. Her/his response wasn't fitting. Didn't make sense given previous posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's only gotten worse since I left. ANY books and resources you can recommend would be appreciated. TIA.

Is that you, Melania?

Do you realize how childish you sound? Sorry for you're loss, maybe the Dems will have better luck in 4 years. I doubt it though, lol
Now go back to the political boards!

That is you Melania! Lol