Regretting drunk night - the morning after

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think you should regret it. It happened. I'm sure no one else is even thinking about it. And from what you said, it wasn't that bad.

The only productive line of thinking is how you're going to handle things in the future.

I am interested in all the responses saying it's totally normal and common to get sloppy drunk at work functions. Are any of you over 30? I can see that if you're 25 and it's one of those workplace cultures where a lot of outside socializing is encouraged. But just one person's opinion is that it's not a good look for a grown adult.

I don't think it's normal and common for an individual to get sloppy at a work function, but it's normal and common for it to have happened to you a couple times over a lifetime. If it's a large event, it's probably happening to someone in attendance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once got shitshow drunk at a friend's wedding, and told my then-boyfriend I had a coke problem. I've never even seen cocaine in person.

We were 24, in a long distance relationship, and I was working on the Hill (so not making much money). I always flew to see him, and had maxed out my credit cards doing it. I told him I had to cut back on trips to see him, in order to get my financial house in order.

He knew my grandparents had left me a little bit of money, and kept asking why I didn't use that to come visit him, so that we could build our future together. He was really angry and wouldn't stop picking at me.

So we are at my friend's wedding, and he has been picking st me all day, and the next thing I knew, I was yelling at him that I had put my entire inheritance up my nose. Not even close to the truth, but it shut him up.

We broke up shortly thereafter. My friend (the bride) doesn't even remember this happening, so it wasn't as big of a deal as I thought it was at the time.

I'm sorry but I totally love this story - even though it was embarrassing for you. Glad you broke up! He sounds way too selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you should regret it. It happened. I'm sure no one else is even thinking about it. And from what you said, it wasn't that bad.

The only productive line of thinking is how you're going to handle things in the future.

I am interested in all the responses saying it's totally normal and common to get sloppy drunk at work functions. Are any of you over 30? I can see that if you're 25 and it's one of those workplace cultures where a lot of outside socializing is encouraged. But just one person's opinion is that it's not a good look for a grown adult.

Yes, that's the kind of thing that I would have noticed and would wonder about. But if you don't do it again and you consistently show that you're serious and reliable at work, I would forget about it.

[Anonymous]

If you have someone you trust, ask them how bad you really were. Sounds like your husband was there and was able to tell you.

Really don't worry about it. Doesn't sound like you did anything bad. Frankly, it might actually help your coworkers feel closer to you - you're a real human being now, not just an office drone. Most of us have had nights like that, especially if you're not used to drinking much.

Now if you end up like that at EVERY event... they might start to talk. But one time - relax!

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Anonymous wrote:So I know. I am much too old to make this kind of mistake anymore but yes, I did. Drank much too much at a very nice event and I am super embarrassed now, especially since there were people who were not close friends but acquaintances/work contacts who may now view me in a negative light.

This can't be an uncommon experience. I know I shouldn't dwell and limit drinking in the future but I can't stop wishing that I could turn back time and just redo the evening (without the drinks). Anyone else get through something like this?

Entirely normal. Has happened to most everyone who drinks even occasionally. No big deal, move on.

Not normal.

Probably depends on your industry. I've worked in construction and in software. Totally normal there.

Yeah, I think that "not normal" teetotaler isn't reflective of reality. In this survey, 50% of people have admitted to going to work hungover
http://mashable.com/2014/08/04/hangover-at-work/#CaZgc0GzCsqa

I've never shown up to work hungover, but I've definitely been hungover and I've definitely had too much to drink a few times. It's a pretty "normal" experience.

Going to work hungover doesn't mean you got drunk at a work event the previous evening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have someone you trust, ask them how bad you really were. Sounds like your husband was there and was able to tell you.

Really don't worry about it. Doesn't sound like you did anything bad. Frankly, it might actually help your coworkers feel closer to you - you're a real human being now, not just an office drone. Most of us have had nights like that, especially if you're not used to drinking much.

Now if you end up like that at EVERY event... they might start to talk. But one time - relax!

This.

I have a good friend who got really trashed at a work event and made a huge ass out of herself (to be honest). She asked me the next day and I told her it wasn't great and I gave her specifics and to her credit she addressed it with people she needed to say something to (had hit on a friend's husband...yikes!!!!) and she never did it again.

Was your hubs with you the whole night? If not, I'd ask a trusted colleague.

[Anonymous]

If people aren't calling/texting to see if you're ok the day after, then you're fine b

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you should regret it. It happened. I'm sure no one else is even thinking about it. And from what you said, it wasn't that bad.

The only productive line of thinking is how you're going to handle things in the future.

I am interested in all the responses saying it's totally normal and common to get sloppy drunk at work functions. Are any of you over 30? I can see that if you're 25 and it's one of those workplace cultures where a lot of outside socializing is encouraged. But just one person's opinion is that it's not a good look for a grown adult.

Sure, I'm over 30. And while I don't do it NOW, I have done it in the past. The key is learning from your mistakes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. Didn't do or say anything outrageous, thankfully.

Just got messy drunk, even needed help at the end of the night maneuvering up the steps.

Thanks to those who say it may not have been as bad as I think it was. My husband did say it was more funny than annoying.

If you needed help walking up steps, that's pretty bad. And if I saw a colleague this drunk, I'd definitely think less of them, and think they're a lame for not being able to handle their liquor. I'd mentally be shaking my head at them every time I see them at work.

[Anonymous]

OP here -it was a social event, not a work event. However some former/ current colleagues as well as several acquaintances and I could see that my getting drunk enough to not be able to walk straight may have changed the way they view me.

But yes, thanks. I am going to stop beating myself up and go get a drink (kidding).

[Anonymous]

Replace alcohol with weed and - voila!

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. Didn't do or say anything outrageous, thankfully.

Just got messy drunk, even needed help at the end of the night maneuvering up the steps.

Thanks to those who say it may not have been as bad as I think it was. My husband did say it was more funny than annoying.

If you needed help walking up steps, that's pretty bad. And if I saw a colleague this drunk, I'd definitely think less of them, and think they're a lame for not being able to handle their liquor. I'd mentally be shaking my head at them every time I see them at work.

Wow, you're judgmental to an extreme. How do you get any work done with all that head shaking?

[Anonymous]

I see a cry for help. I urge you to see professional assistance for your alcohol issues. Here's a link to get you started.

https://pubs.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/treatment/treatment.htm

We care.

[Anonymous]

Just one more thought. Think that a real downside was losing out in making stronger connections with acquaintances who I could actually see becoming friends with both my husband and me. The wife of one couple, for example, doesn't drink and I think my getting drunk perhaps makes her think twice about getting together at other social eventa. Has any of you cut off friends because they got sloppy drunk?

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I have totally been there. My husband's work Christmas party was my first night out after having a new baby. They had passed drinks but food was at stations and you had to go get it. DH had eaten before me because I was late, and I kept insisting I would get some food in a little bit. Ended up getting really drunk and dancing like a fool with all the 24 year olds (I was mid 30s, didn't know any of the people on the dance floor) and slurring words talking to his boss. Luckily for me, there were several other people even more drunk than I was, and I didn't do or say anything really terrible. I definitely learned my lesson though!