Fiancee's (social media) friends say I'm "ugly"

[Anonymous]

Her friends have no manners. What kind of woman are you marrying? Friends are usually pretty similar.

If my fiance didn't stick up for me, that would be the end of our relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are probably not conventionally handsome, but she loves you and is marrying you. That should be enough. Not everyone is beautiful/handsome, and if love and marriage was only reserved for the beautiful, most of us would be screwed. You are an entire person, your physical looks is just one part of you, and she chose that entire package. So ignore the social media commentary, be confident in your love for each other and definitely don't set her up on a ridiculous mission to defend your beauty.

If she loved him she wouldn't put up with that shit. My DH is not conventionally handsome, but if someone said that shit to my face or publically on social media I'd put them on blast. My response would be so brutal, we'd definitly never speak again.

[Anonymous]

I would expect my fiancee to immediately delete those posts and unfriend those people.

I would also expect my fiancee to be concerned as to how that might have impacted me and to feel horrible about what happened.

If either of those things didn't happen, I would probably not go ahead with the wedding.

Op, you need to talk to her about this. If she has seen these comments too and not deleted them, that is a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DIL is ugly. She looks like a muppet.

When my son asked if I thought she was cute I had to bite my tongue hard, very hard. We live in a different state so I dob't have to see her but damn she's not attractive at all.

What does this have to do with OP's situation?

You guys are being really defensive -,leaving an elephant in the room. That's not actually helpful.

[Anonymous]

I see #heugly on social media ? It's attached to a lot of people who are not, in fact, ugly and also people attach it to their own photos so I don't think it means you are ugly.

[Anonymous]

Op, be honest. Are you a Brad Pitt or an Adam Corrola? My DH is an "Adam" he knows that, had always known that and often jokingly says that I am his pretty half. He uses his intelligence and wit to deal with stupidity like that exhibited by your fiancée's friends. Have them over for a little get together and jokingly bring up their fake book posts. You could have some real fun with this. Go get em!

[Anonymous]

OP, unless you look like this guy, I wouldn't worry too much.

[Anonymous]

If you are getting married in 2 months why haven't you met her friends? And why are you just now showing up on her social media?

[Anonymous]

OP here.

These are acquaintance types from childhood and periphery people she doesn't directly know. She essentially said "it happens" and that she just ignores stuff like this. She said "they say that about everybody." Her explanation of their behavior makes it sound like a mean girls scenario. Maybe there is a bit of jealousy going on about her life situation in comparison or something along those lines. I don't really care to figure out those dynamics. I was more curious/concerned about how that sort of feedback might impact her.

maybe I should just own it... compensate by making more money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wtf!

absolutely mention this to her. Tell her to delete the BS comments.
it might not even be from her true friends but just some circle at school she added to FB; they may not even get along. Like the frenemy that goes to your houseparty and trashes your house!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

These are acquaintance types from childhood and periphery people she doesn't directly know. She essentially said "it happens" and that she just ignores stuff like this. She said "they say that about everybody." Her explanation of their behavior makes it sound like a mean girls scenario. Maybe there is a bit of jealousy going on about her life situation in comparison or something along those lines. I don't really care to figure out those dynamics. I was more curious/concerned about how that sort of feedback might impact her.

maybe I should just own it... compensate by making more money?

Nothing to own here. So it's just from some immature mean girls who are likely losers. She needs to DELETE those comments and consider BLOCKING immature acquaintances.

what have those girls done to here that she is too scared of them to delete a FB comment? Grab her computer some night and delete it yourself. I would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

These are acquaintance types from childhood and periphery people she doesn't directly know. She essentially said "it happens" and that she just ignores stuff like this. She said "they say that about everybody." Her explanation of their behavior makes it sound like a mean girls scenario. Maybe there is a bit of jealousy going on about her life situation in comparison or something along those lines. I don't really care to figure out those dynamics. I was more curious/concerned about how that sort of feedback might impact her.

maybe I should just own it... compensate by making more money?

Nothing to own here. So it's just from some immature mean girls who are likely losers. She needs to DELETE those comments and consider BLOCKING immature acquaintances.

what have those girls done to here that she is too scared of them to delete a FB comment? Grab her computer some night and delete it yourself. I would.

[Anonymous]

Yes, her social media friends are rude. What does your finacee say about these comments?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

These are acquaintance types from childhood and periphery people she doesn't directly know. She essentially said "it happens" and that she just ignores stuff like this. She said "they say that about everybody." Her explanation of their behavior makes it sound like a mean girls scenario. Maybe there is a bit of jealousy going on about her life situation in comparison or something along those lines. I don't really care to figure out those dynamics. I was more curious/concerned about how that sort of feedback might impact her.

maybe I should just own it... compensate by making more money?

Nothing to own here. So it's just from some immature mean girls who are likely losers. She needs to DELETE those comments and consider BLOCKING immature acquaintances.

what have those girls done to here that she is too scared of them to delete a FB comment? Grab her computer some night and delete it yourself. I would.

Agree - people post stupid or rude comments every now and then but I delete the comments. Why she would leave them up is beyond me... This is more about your fiance and her friends being super weird and rude and less about what your face looks like

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

These are acquaintance types from childhood and periphery people she doesn't directly know. She essentially said "it happens" and that she just ignores stuff like this. She said "they say that about everybody." Her explanation of their behavior makes it sound like a mean girls scenario. Maybe there is a bit of jealousy going on about her life situation in comparison or something along those lines. I don't really care to figure out those dynamics. I was more curious/concerned about how that sort of feedback might impact her.

maybe I should just own it... compensate by making more money?

I can't say whether this feedback is impacting her because I still can't figure out why she would keep these posts up or not change her settings so rude friends don't see the pictures she posts etc. What will she do when they say her baby is ugly? Keep that post up because "they say that to everyone"? It's not just her reaction, it's the fact that people you know see those comments up there and the person it's about can read it. Here is my thing, if they insult her, and she can care less, that's fine. But don't put other people's business out there t be crapped on. I dropped someone from Facebook and created a special co-worker group that can't see anyone else because of stuff like that.