Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm going to be a naysayer here. I am a hiring manager at a nonprofit and I actually want candidates to be honest with me about what they're looking for and what their must-haves are. I want them to be a fit so 1) I don't waste my time interviewing someone who is never going to accept and 2) you don't end up leaving soon after being hired for something that could have been disclosed in the interview process. For example, I just hired for a midlevel person and interviewed several folks (all would have to relocate) and was glad when folks were honest and asked me if they could, for instance, telework from their current location or work from one of our remote offices since that was a no-go for the position. Yea, it means they didn't get an offer. But, it meant that they knew that the job wasn't a fit well before then (because needing to be at our home office was a must).
OP here. That's my thought as well. I don't have a problem with revealing that I have a 1 year old as I don't want to work for a supervisor or organization who is not supportive of work life balance. Which is why I am not sure why I should ask after getting a job offer than before. I am not sure what's the difference. If you don't have flexibility or don't allow telecommuting, the answer I will get during the interview or after receiving the offer would be the same.
I've been in the position of hiring people for positions that have good work/life balance in the past. It's something I'd bring up in an interview, because I think it's one of the plusses of the position.
But even so, I'd still be annoyed if you brought up your 1 year old in an interview. Why? First of all, because it puts me in a difficult position. It's not legal for me to take that information into account when I'm making a hiring decision, and so knowing it only makes my job more difficult. Secondly, because it tells me that you don't know the basic professional etiquette for interviewing, which makes me wonder what other boundaries you'll cross. Thirdly, it makes me wonder whether you'll be able to separate work/home. To be clear, I'm a strong advocate of things like breaks during the day for a mom to pump or go to daycare to nurse, adequate leave to allow someone to care for a sick child or attend a field trip, not having work go home. But I also expect that when you're at work, other than very specific situations (a phone call to school or a doctor), you'll have your head in the game. The fact that you can't stay on topic, for an hour long interview, makes me worry that you'll struggle to keep your attention on work.