How much should prestige be weighted?

[Anonymous]

They seem to me incredibly different schools, in terms of vibe or personality. My DC would love one and hate the other. The student should go where they will be happy and thrive.

[Anonymous]

Depends on where he wants to live-- if he wants to live on the east coast, Dartmouth...sorry!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH went to Dartmouth. I'd say the name recognition opened a few doors early in his career but by 10 years out, no longer mattered at all.

Agree with PP - follow his heart.

But it matters socially. People almost always know where there social acquaintances went to college, and Dartmouth is going to impress a lot more people than Pomona only because more people are familiar with it. And please no lectures about how superficial it is to care about social impressions. Let's face it, that's why people drive luxury cars and live in houses way larger than what they need.

I am gobsmacked by this post, but then I realized: Well, if you are a superficial person, these things are important to you, and who am I to tell someone who cares about this stuff that it's not important?

So the correct answer I think is that if you are superficial yourself, and you hang around with superficial people who care about stuff like this, then yes, going to the most conventionally prestigious college matters.

If, however, you prefer to avoid such people like the plague they are, then choose Pomona with the knowledge that it will provide somewhat of an inoculation against this crowd.

+2. Wise words!!

+3. I guess I know there were people who think this way. I just can't imagine actually admitting to it, even anonymously. How icky. My daughter went to an Ivy, but for the right reasons. Thankfully, none of her friends seem to have this mindset. It reeks of pathetic insecurity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH went to Dartmouth. I'd say the name recognition opened a few doors early in his career but by 10 years out, no longer mattered at all.

Agree with PP - follow his heart.

But it matters socially. People almost always know where there social acquaintances went to college, and Dartmouth is going to impress a lot more people than Pomona only because more people are familiar with it. And please no lectures about how superficial it is to care about social impressions. Let's face it, that's why people drive luxury cars and live in houses way larger than what they need.

I am gobsmacked by this post, but then I realized: Well, if you are a superficial person, these things are important to you, and who am I to tell someone who cares about this stuff that it's not important?

So the correct answer I think is that if you are superficial yourself, and you hang around with superficial people who care about stuff like this, then yes, going to the most conventionally prestigious college matters.

If, however, you prefer to avoid such people like the plague they are, then choose Pomona with the knowledge that it will provide somewhat of an inoculation against this crowd.

Really you are gobsmacked? So do you avoid socializing with people who drive nice cars or live in unnecessarily large houses? If so, that leaves out a huge percentage of the DC area.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH went to Dartmouth. I'd say the name recognition opened a few doors early in his career but by 10 years out, no longer mattered at all.

Agree with PP - follow his heart.

But it matters socially. People almost always know where there social acquaintances went to college, and Dartmouth is going to impress a lot more people than Pomona only because more people are familiar with it. And please no lectures about how superficial it is to care about social impressions. Let's face it, that's why people drive luxury cars and live in houses way larger than what they need.

I am gobsmacked by this post, but then I realized: Well, if you are a superficial person, these things are important to you, and who am I to tell someone who cares about this stuff that it's not important?

So the correct answer I think is that if you are superficial yourself, and you hang around with superficial people who care about stuff like this, then yes, going to the most conventionally prestigious college matters.

If, however, you prefer to avoid such people like the plague they are, then choose Pomona with the knowledge that it will provide somewhat of an inoculation against this crowd.

+2. Wise words!!

+3. I guess I know there were people who think this way. I just can't imagine actually admitting to it, even anonymously. How icky. My daughter went to an Ivy, but for the right reasons. Thankfully, none of her friends seem to have this mindset. It reeks of pathetic insecurity.

Do none of them wear designer labels?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH went to Dartmouth. I'd say the name recognition opened a few doors early in his career but by 10 years out, no longer mattered at all.

Agree with PP - follow his heart.

But it matters socially. People almost always know where there social acquaintances went to college, and Dartmouth is going to impress a lot more people than Pomona only because more people are familiar with it. And please no lectures about how superficial it is to care about social impressions. Let's face it, that's why people drive luxury cars and live in houses way larger than what they need.

I am gobsmacked by this post, but then I realized: Well, if you are a superficial person, these things are important to you, and who am I to tell someone who cares about this stuff that it's not important?

So the correct answer I think is that if you are superficial yourself, and you hang around with superficial people who care about stuff like this, then yes, going to the most conventionally prestigious college matters.

If, however, you prefer to avoid such people like the plague they are, then choose Pomona with the knowledge that it will provide somewhat of an inoculation against this crowd.

Really you are gobsmacked? So do you avoid socializing with people who drive nice cars or live in unnecessarily large houses? If so, that leaves out a huge percentage of the DC area.

The fact that you don't understand the difference between socializing with people who happen to drive nice cars or live in nice houses and the need to do so to impress is telling. You are emotionally stunted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH went to Dartmouth. I'd say the name recognition opened a few doors early in his career but by 10 years out, no longer mattered at all.

Agree with PP - follow his heart.

But it matters socially. People almost always know where there social acquaintances went to college, and Dartmouth is going to impress a lot more people than Pomona only because more people are familiar with it. And please no lectures about how superficial it is to care about social impressions. Let's face it, that's why people drive luxury cars and live in houses way larger than what they need.

It sounds like people who are superficial should go to Dartmouth.

No. Completely meritless. People who are superficial should go to Stanford. People who are drunk should go to Dartmouth.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Lol! So true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH went to Dartmouth. I'd say the name recognition opened a few doors early in his career but by 10 years out, no longer mattered at all.

Agree with PP - follow his heart.

But it matters socially. People almost always know where there social acquaintances went to college, and Dartmouth is going to impress a lot more people than Pomona only because more people are familiar with it. And please no lectures about how superficial it is to care about social impressions. Let's face it, that's why people drive luxury cars and live in houses way larger than what they need.

What a boor you are, pp. Get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH went to Dartmouth. I'd say the name recognition opened a few doors early in his career but by 10 years out, no longer mattered at all.

Agree with PP - follow his heart.

But it matters socially. People almost always know where there social acquaintances went to college, and Dartmouth is going to impress a lot more people than Pomona only because more people are familiar with it. And please no lectures about how superficial it is to care about social impressions. Let's face it, that's why people drive luxury cars and live in houses way larger than what they need.

Darling, the people who will matter the most in OP's DC's life certainly know about Pomona; and they know that it is a better choice than Dartmouth.

[Anonymous]

Let DC choose

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH went to Dartmouth. I'd say the name recognition opened a few doors early in his career but by 10 years out, no longer mattered at all.

Agree with PP - follow his heart.

But it matters socially. People almost always know where there social acquaintances went to college, and Dartmouth is going to impress a lot more people than Pomona only because more people are familiar with it. And please no lectures about how superficial it is to care about social impressions. Let's face it, that's why people drive luxury cars and live in houses way larger than what they need.

I am gobsmacked by this post, but then I realized: Well, if you are a superficial person, these things are important to you, and who am I to tell someone who cares about this stuff that it's not important?

So the correct answer I think is that if you are superficial yourself, and you hang around with superficial people who care about stuff like this, then yes, going to the most conventionally prestigious college matters.

If, however, you prefer to avoid such people like the plague they are, then choose Pomona with the knowledge that it will provide somewhat of an inoculation against this crowd.

+2. Wise words!!

+3. I guess I know there were people who think this way. I just can't imagine actually admitting to it, even anonymously. How icky. My daughter went to an Ivy, but for the right reasons. Thankfully, none of her friends seem to have this mindset. It reeks of pathetic insecurity.

Oh, good grief. You find these sorts of people at every university. It isn't a Dartmouth thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH went to Dartmouth. I'd say the name recognition opened a few doors early in his career but by 10 years out, no longer mattered at all.

Agree with PP - follow his heart.

But it matters socially. People almost always know where there social acquaintances went to college, and Dartmouth is going to impress a lot more people than Pomona only because more people are familiar with it. And please no lectures about how superficial it is to care about social impressions. Let's face it, that's why people drive luxury cars and live in houses way larger than what they need.

Darling, the people who will matter the most in OP's DC's life certainly know about Pomona; and they know that it is a better choice than Dartmouth.

Better choice. Depends upon the student, the major, etc. The best school is the school that is right for the individual.

[Anonymous]

OP DC is the one who will be doing all the work at this school so it should be his decision. They are both excellent schools. He should go with his heart on this. Prefer Cal/ west coast ? Prefer snow east coast? BTW congrats to him on having these choices. Well done !