Anyone grow up with a mom who...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother never talked about shaving, but we come from a culture where it wasn't "required."

She never talked to me about sex; my father did that! I'm sure she would have if I'd asked her, though.

Did you ever ask your mother about these things, OP?

No I never asked my mom because that was something we didn't do. I guess I know she was uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Never ever discussed sex or how babies are made?
Never discussed puberty or menstruation? ( thank god I had an older sister who informed me)
Never took me to buy a bra or even discussed it?

She sort of discussed these things, but didn't discuss fully or accurately.
So she discussed periods, but told me I'd get toxic shock syndrome if I used tampons. I had to use pads and it wasn't until the summer before 18 that I stole tampons from a family friend's house, and then started buying them for myself.

She discussed sex, but never orgasms or masturbation. I was a senior in high school before a friend told me girls masturbate. And orgasm.

She got me bras, but never let me try different kinds, or get any colors other than white or pink (black was slutty).

[Anonymous]

Of course. She was raised by a governess in a Downton Abbey type home where she was "sent down" to say goodnight to her parents, which was usually the only time she saw them, except on special occasions. She had to curtsy and use the formal "you" instead of the familiar "you". Talking about bodies was taboo.

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Well then who bought and paid for your sanitary napkins?

[Anonymous]

My mother talked about menstruation and went shopping with me for my first bra - but never talked about sex. She had "the talk" with my older sister and assumed my sister would tell me (she did - that same night).

[Anonymous]

We got all this in a class at school in fifth grade. Boys in separate class. She bought pads and sisters taught me the rest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never ever discussed sex or how babies are made?
Never discussed puberty or menstruation? ( thank god I had an older sister who informed me)
Never took me to buy a bra or even discussed it?

You just described my mom, and my teenage years.

I figured it out on my own, with the help of friends. not a big deal - it was a cultural thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you ever get a bra before you left home?

Np here. I was only allowed my moms old bras. I was much bigger then her to so it didn't fit right. Finally in college I went to a bra store for larger sizes. ( my size is not found in most stores ) Changed my life.

[Anonymous]

Thank goodness mine helped out with pads! Thank goodness, periods and such were discussed in school before I started having them. What messed me up was a mother who was dismayed at what I tomboy I was yet did absolutely nothing productive to help me become more feminine. Bras? What bras? Shaving? I saw my cousin doing it and figured I needed to as well. (My mother never had to for lack of bodily hair.)

The woman should have birthed a boy. In a way, I'm glad I don't have girls. I don't think I'm equipped to be a good mom to them at all.

[Anonymous]

I would not have wanted to discuss sex with my mother. Come on- do you really want to know about sex from your mother?
My father tried to discuss it with me out of obligation and was drawing pictures and I fled the scene.
Come on people - there are good books out there for all ages. My daughter enjoyed the heck out of the Lynda Madaras checklist books.
Mostly we just talk about some of the moral questions like about sex before marriage (she's at a conservative school that says no and I said it's a good idea to try him out because having an unsatisfying sex life is not a great thing. Just my opinion she can do as she pleases).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank goodness mine helped out with pads! Thank goodness, periods and such were discussed in school before I started having them. What messed me up was a mother who was dismayed at what I tomboy I was yet did absolutely nothing productive to help me become more feminine. Bras? What bras? Shaving? I saw my cousin doing it and figured I needed to as well. (My mother never had to for lack of bodily hair.)

The woman should have birthed a boy. In a way, I'm glad I don't have girls. I don't think I'm equipped to be a good mom to them at all.

I was that way too and never blamed my mother. Geez people - grow up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother talked about menstruation and went shopping with me for my first bra - but never talked about sex. She had "the talk" with my older sister and assumed my sister would tell me (she did - that same night).

I would not want to picture my mom and sex - ever. Don't want to know.

And some of your moms probably had terrible sexual ideals - consider it a gift that she didn't share them with you.
My friends mom shared all of her puritanical ideals about how sex is a chore with her girls and they all seem to have huge sexual hangups (my friends husband fled, her sisters too. Just one is still married).

Your sex life should be your own way of expressing yourself - you don't need mommy for that.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank goodness mine helped out with pads! Thank goodness, periods and such were discussed in school before I started having them. What messed me up was a mother who was dismayed at what I tomboy I was yet did absolutely nothing productive to help me become more feminine. Bras? What bras? Shaving? I saw my cousin doing it and figured I needed to as well. (My mother never had to for lack of bodily hair.)

The woman should have birthed a boy. In a way, I'm glad I don't have girls. I don't think I'm equipped to be a good mom to them at all.

I was that way too and never blamed my mother. Geez people - grow up!

It's hard not to blame the woman who berates a mere preteen for not dressing appropriately for this or that type of event. Instead of taking her to shop for an appropriate outfit or at the very least explaining what is appropriate and what is not. As if young girls are born with this knowledge.

[Anonymous]

^^I got to give it to my mother, she did leave some literature around for me to read. The mechanics of all things carnal and all. Not to say it made a huge difference, but still, quite progressive of her LOL