Child with medical special needs starting daycare/pre-school

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don't understand her point. OP doesn't seem to want to be seen in the same class of kids as SN kids so PP is pointing out that, in fact, her kid does have SN. Because you know, medical SN are a better class of SN than developmental ones. Gosh, you don't want to be mistaken for one of those kids.

You need to grow a thicker skin and not take offense when none are intended. Nowhere does OP indicate that medical SNs are a "better class" than developmental ones just that her kid has medical SNs which is a fact.

- signed mom of kid with developmental delays.

Different poster. When a mom comes on this board and says:

SWS is so rare and I get excited to know of a person with SWS who says something like "I never considered having SWS as having special needs at least for me." I hope my dd grows up with the same attitude!

I think that by definition she is pretty much taking a dump on the entire notion of special needs. So yes, offense taken here.

I am the PP who has SWS. I've lived with it my whole life and I never considered it to be SNs for me. So having that attitude is "taking a dump on the entire notion of special needs"? Maybe you'll feel better if I wallowed in my disability and felt sorry for myself?

This is a reductio ad absurdum, and I think you know it. I don't play the stupid game.

It's even dumber to take offense when a parent with a child with a disability comes to this forum seeking support because they mention medical special needs. Most parents who stumble into SNs aren't familiar with the PC lingo. Have some empathy. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don't understand her point. OP doesn't seem to want to be seen in the same class of kids as SN kids so PP is pointing out that, in fact, her kid does have SN. Because you know, medical SN are a better class of SN than developmental ones. Gosh, you don't want to be mistaken for one of those kids.

You need to grow a thicker skin and not take offense when none are intended. Nowhere does OP indicate that medical SNs are a "better class" than developmental ones just that her kid has medical SNs which is a fact.

- signed mom of kid with developmental delays.

Different poster. When a mom comes on this board and says:

SWS is so rare and I get excited to know of a person with SWS who says something like "I never considered having SWS as having special needs at least for me." I hope my dd grows up with the same attitude!

I think that by definition she is pretty much taking a dump on the entire notion of special needs. So yes, offense taken here.

I am the PP who has SWS. I've lived with it my whole life and I never considered it to be SNs for me. So having that attitude is "taking a dump on the entire notion of special needs"? Maybe you'll feel better if I wallowed in my disability and felt sorry for myself?

No, they would feel better if your *parents* wallowed in self pity and felt sorry for themselves, since that is apparently the only way to be a "proper" parent of a child with ""proper" special needs.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing for me.

It's great to have a positive attitude and believe that nothing should hold your child back.

It's questionable to hope that your child should be unaffected by a medical syndrome. What happens if your child's port wine stain cannot be erased? If your child starts having seizures? If she is, in fact, cognitively impacted?

Does she have to deal with your disappointment? With your constant failed expectations for her? With your unrealistic hopes and dreams? When does she get accepted as a person who is, in fact, acceptable?

That is total projection. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don't understand her point. OP doesn't seem to want to be seen in the same class of kids as SN kids so PP is pointing out that, in fact, her kid does have SN. Because you know, medical SN are a better class of SN than developmental ones. Gosh, you don't want to be mistaken for one of those kids.

You need to grow a thicker skin and not take offense when none are intended. Nowhere does OP indicate that medical SNs are a "better class" than developmental ones just that her kid has medical SNs which is a fact.

- signed mom of kid with developmental delays.

Different poster. When a mom comes on this board and says:

SWS is so rare and I get excited to know of a person with SWS who says something like "I never considered having SWS as having special needs at least for me." I hope my dd grows up with the same attitude!

I think that by definition she is pretty much taking a dump on the entire notion of special needs. So yes, offense taken here.

I am the PP who has SWS. I've lived with it my whole life and I never considered it to be SNs for me. So having that attitude is "taking a dump on the entire notion of special needs"? Maybe you'll feel better if I wallowed in my disability and felt sorry for myself?

No, they would feel better if your *parents* wallowed in self pity and felt sorry for themselves, since that is apparently the only way to be a "proper" parent of a child with ""proper" special needs.

I use to belong to an online support group for SWS and it disbanded eventually due to parents who were wallowing in self pity having to parent their kid with SWS. It always amazed me how some people made everything about THEM. They may not have had SWS but they obviously could not cope with what life handed them.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused and going to ignore the side shit show. What exact special needs does op's daughter have? Said vision is fine and the pws.

I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused and going to ignore the side shit show. What exact special needs does op's daughter have? Said vision is fine and the pws.

I don't get it.

It's unrelated to her question but you can Google for more information.