Update on Husband had a baby with his assistant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the update, OP. Glad to hear you are in a better place and have come to terms with things. Please keep yours and your daughters mental health in check.

Here's to new beginnings in 2017!!! Cheers!

Thank you very much. I have a 15 year old son also and he is in counseling as well. Both children know the situation and we are dealing with it as best we can.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for checking in, OP. Best of luck to you and your children in the future.

[Anonymous]

Amazing job getting through this. Maybe I missed an update, but what changed in the past year and a half that made you decide to go through with divorce? If I reember correctly, you wanted to avoid blowing up your kids' home life. Has that happened?

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP! Start the year fresh!!

My mom tried to make it work too but he ended up with another woman after his affair was over. (Similar story)

[Anonymous]

This is a very tough situation for anyone. You've handled it with a great deal of maturity. I hope 2017 brings you peace and happiness, and maybe a new fella.

[Anonymous]

Hugs to you, OP. No one understands what this is like until they went through it. Hope the new year brings you happy times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My divorce is final on January 1st. I appreciate all of the positive support I recieved. Many accused me of being a troll but one person checked with Jeff and he verified that I was from Michigan (I am) and not a known troll (what the heck is that?)

Anyway, the holidays are quite difficult. My daughter is really struggling but is in therapy. The divorce is amicable for the most part. Today is our 20th anniversary. My stbxh is still wanting to reconcile but I have zero desire to do so. I am looking forward to peace and happiness in the new year as these last 2 1/2 years have been hell.

Happy Holidays DCUM!

I'm amazed that someone (a) cared enough and (b) had enough free time to complain about a thread to the site administrator. I am similarly amazed that the site administrator has the time and the patience to indulge complaints like that.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the update. If I remember correctly you have a son as well. How's he doing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the update. If I remember correctly you have a son as well. How's he doing?

Nevermind. I see you answered this above.

[Anonymous]

Are you the same OP whose husband's AP wanted him to be the legal father? How did that work out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My divorce is final on January 1st. I appreciate all of the positive support I recieved. Many accused me of being a troll but one person checked with Jeff and he verified that I was from Michigan (I am) and not a known troll (what the heck is that?)

Anyway, the holidays are quite difficult. My daughter is really struggling but is in therapy. The divorce is amicable for the most part. Today is our 20th anniversary. My stbxh is still wanting to reconcile but I have zero desire to do so. I am looking forward to peace and happiness in the new year as these last 2 1/2 years have been hell.

Happy Holidays DCUM!

I'm amazed that someone (a) cared enough and (b) had enough free time to complain about a thread to the site administrator. I am similarly amazed that the site administrator has the time and the patience to indulge complaints like that.

Running the site is Jeff's job. Not hobby. Job. So it's not unsual for him to "have time" to check someone's IP address to see if they're in the state they claim or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP!! I replied on your original thread and have always been cheering for you. I won't begin to say I understand all that your family has been through but can say that I have a huge amount of respect for the way you have navigated this whole process. During the upcoming holiday, please take comfort in the fact that you made the best decision for you and your children!! Best wishes for a happy and healthy 2017, please continue to update us, there are many here cheering for you!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you decided you weren't going to steal the baby away?

OP here. No, that was said out of extreme hurt and anger. I am way too old to raise another child.

Hey now. As I recall you're only in your 40s. Some of us are just starting to raise our children at that age. No need to diss us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My divorce is final on January 1st. I appreciate all of the positive support I recieved. Many accused me of being a troll but one person checked with Jeff and he verified that I was from Michigan (I am) and not a known troll (what the heck is that?)

Anyway, the holidays are quite difficult. My daughter is really struggling but is in therapy. The divorce is amicable for the most part. Today is our 20th anniversary. My stbxh is still wanting to reconcile but I have zero desire to do so. I am looking forward to peace and happiness in the new year as these last 2 1/2 years have been hell.

Happy Holidays DCUM!

I'm amazed that someone (a) cared enough and (b) had enough free time to complain about a thread to the site administrator. I am similarly amazed that the site administrator has the time and the patience to indulge complaints like that.

Running the site is Jeff's job. Not hobby. Job. So it's not unsual for him to "have time" to check someone's IP address to see if they're in the state they claim or whatever.

I get that it's a job but who really cares if someone is in the state they claim to be? I figured he'd be spending his time with tech issues and landing sponsorships than dealing with someone's petty complaint about what state a poster is in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you decided you weren't going to steal the baby away?

OP here. No, that was said out of extreme hurt and anger. I am way too old to raise another child.

Hey now. As I recall you're only in your 40s. Some of us are just starting to raise our children at that age. No need to diss us.

As someone who didn't have her first of three kids until age 37, I read that to mean OP didn't have the mental energy to raise another kid. I completely understand that and don't blame her!