Bragging about SO's accomplishments on social media

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband brags about me on social media. He bragged when I got into grad school. He bragged when I finished grad school. He bragged when we had a baby. He bragged when I made really awesome pie last week.

If it's not your thing, ignore it. Don't be a hater, though. Bragging publicly about your spouse's accomplishments (big and small) doesn't mean you're hiding insecurity.

DH and I adore each other but basically have a no-bragging rule for social media. BUT while I was still in the hospital recovering from giving birth, he posted on Facebook about my unmedicated labor. It was SUPER embarrassing. Happily, this was like 10 years ago when we each had maybe eight friends on FB.

Lucky you, my husband bragged on facebook that he was "eternally grateful to god that my wife came home without bumping anyone with the new Volvo"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm always amazed when I hear that people have 500+ friends on Facebook, Instagram etc. Most people only have 10-20 real friends and a couple of confidants. But if you are following 500+ people on social media you will be bombarded by irrelevant crap about peoples' lives. Most people only post good news so you get bombarded by 500 peoples good news. It can get annoying! On Facebook I only follow family members (big family) but unfriended some because I really didn't care about mindless stuff some relatives were posting on a daily basis.

Exactly...some people treat Facebook like high school, a popularity contest. What people don't realize is there are other ways to make contact and not use social media.

Graduation is a big deal, as is giving birth, and those are fair game to post on social media.

[Anonymous]

Facebook is better when you know how to happy for someone else. If you are unable to see the difference between sharing and bragging, you shouldn't be on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

Its especially annoying when people are having conversations using comments on pictures on Facebook...WTF? you can't text each other?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its especially annoying when people are having conversations using comments on pictures on Facebook...WTF? you can't text each other?

So don't follow the thread then. Facebook comments are how some of us who are scattered throughout the country / world can engage in casual group conversations. Texts would not work. Group texts are annoying and hard to follow. Texting implies urgency. On Facebook it's understood that nobody's obligated to set aside their work to join the conversation. It works for some of us us but if you're not into it, don't read it.

[Anonymous]

Facebook has become so flyover country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband brags about me on social media. He bragged when I got into grad school. He bragged when I finished grad school. He bragged when we had a baby. He bragged when I made really awesome pie last week.

If it's not your thing, ignore it. Don't be a hater, though. Bragging publicly about your spouse's accomplishments (big and small) doesn't mean you're hiding insecurity.

Actually, I would assume your husband is insecure. He probably is, on some level, though not necessarily about your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband brags about me on social media. He bragged when I got into grad school. He bragged when I finished grad school. He bragged when we had a baby. He bragged when I made really awesome pie last week.

If it's not your thing, ignore it. Don't be a hater, though. Bragging publicly about your spouse's accomplishments (big and small) doesn't mean you're hiding insecurity.

Actually, I would assume your husband is insecure. He probably is, on some level, though not necessarily about your relationship.

What a weird thing to assume about someone just because they posted a few things on social media. It would never even occur to me to read something like that and think, "why is he so proud about his wife having a baby? What's the underlying reason behind posting that? What is he compensating for?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband brags about me on social media. He bragged when I got into grad school. He bragged when I finished grad school. He bragged when we had a baby. He bragged when I made really awesome pie last week.

If it's not your thing, ignore it. Don't be a hater, though. Bragging publicly about your spouse's accomplishments (big and small) doesn't mean you're hiding insecurity.

Actually, I would assume your husband is insecure. He probably is, on some level, though not necessarily about your relationship.

What a weird thing to assume about someone just because they posted a few things on social media. It would never even occur to me to read something like that and think, "why is he so proud about his wife having a baby? What's the underlying reason behind posting that? What is he compensating for?"

Some people are just miserable and can only feel good about themselves by putting others down.

Most well-balanced people with a healthy sense of self-esteem and joy of life would be happy for you both.

Maybe pp has no one who brags on her or anyone she can brag on in her life.

[Anonymous]

for 'run-of-the-mill' accomplishments, it is cringeworthy.

but for truly one-of-a-kind accomplishments, its alright.

[Anonymous]

My DH never posts on facebook, heck he only occasionally even logs in. So when he posted an article interviewing me about my recently published work, I was shocked. Still am perplexed. When I asked him why he posted it, he shrugged and said he thought it was cool that I was in the paper.

I don't post brag posts about DH, but I will post about my sister for her accomplishments because she does it for me . Most people in my circle do it too, often patting their own backs. And it's generally fine. Stick to what is normal in your circle and ignore the outliers if they bother you so much.

[Anonymous]

If you're content in your own life, why would you begrudge someone who is presumably a friend(?) sharing happy news about whatever? Oversharing minutia, sure, that's annoying. But posting graduation news annoys you, really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband brags about me on social media. He bragged when I got into grad school. He bragged when I finished grad school. He bragged when we had a baby. He bragged when I made really awesome pie last week.

If it's not your thing, ignore it. Don't be a hater, though. Bragging publicly about your spouse's accomplishments (big and small) doesn't mean you're hiding insecurity.

Actually, I would assume your husband is insecure. He probably is, on some level, though not necessarily about your relationship.

What a weird thing to assume about someone just because they posted a few things on social media. It would never even occur to me to read something like that and think, "why is he so proud about his wife having a baby? What's the underlying reason behind posting that? What is he compensating for?"

Some people are just miserable and can only feel good about themselves by putting others down.

Most well-balanced people with a healthy sense of self-esteem and joy of life would be happy for you both.

Maybe pp has no one who brags on her or anyone she can brag on in her life.

Lol, I'm the PP you two are trying so hard to psychoanalyze.

I wouldn't ponder an essay's worth of thoughts over someone's DH posting on Facebook, PP. I also wouldn't respond just to someone posting about their baby. But posting about every small change in their life, as that PP's DH did? You don't really need more than 2 seconds to register the insecurity. Sorry that was too complex for you to understand. Possibly this hit a nerve for a reason.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband brags about me on social media. He bragged when I got into grad school. He bragged when I finished grad school. He bragged when we had a baby. He bragged when I made really awesome pie last week.

If it's not your thing, ignore it. Don't be a hater, though. Bragging publicly about your spouse's accomplishments (big and small) doesn't mean you're hiding insecurity.

Actually, I would assume your husband is insecure. He probably is, on some level, though not necessarily about your relationship.

What a weird thing to assume about someone just because they posted a few things on social media. It would never even occur to me to read something like that and think, "why is he so proud about his wife having a baby? What's the underlying reason behind posting that? What is he compensating for?"

Some people are just miserable and can only feel good about themselves by putting others down.

Most well-balanced people with a healthy sense of self-esteem and joy of life would be happy for you both.

Maybe pp has no one who brags on her or anyone she can brag on in her life.

Lol, I'm the PP you two are trying so hard to psychoanalyze.

I wouldn't ponder an essay's worth of thoughts over someone's DH posting on Facebook, PP. I also wouldn't respond just to someone posting about their baby. But posting about every small change in their life, as that PP's DH did? You don't really need more than 2 seconds to register the insecurity. Sorry that was too complex for you to understand. Possibly this hit a nerve for a reason.

Meh, it doesn't hit a nerve. I just think you're a weirdo. Carry on, then.