What is a "Perfect Marriage?"

[Anonymous]

Being friends. Enjoying each other's company. Talking things out, respecting each other as people, LIKING each other as people, being silly together, shared home duties, supporting each other's goals, making time together a priority, private adult space (get the co-sleeping kids out of your beds, people.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex. Lots of sex, with a guy I lust after (dh). If that need is met, everything else for me is secondary.

Will you marry me?

[Anonymous]

Mine.

[Anonymous]

My husband will tell me I'm perfect..and I say "no , no one is perfect" to which he responds "well you are perfect for me" . I feel that is what it comes down to. No one is perfect, and if they put off the facade of perfect they are most likely the most flawed---so I don't feel it is about "perfection" I feel it is about truly loving your partner. My close friend was telling me how basically everyone she knows in dc have "bad" marriages i.e no sex, don't like spouse, basically roomates...sort of validating the shortcomings in her marriage as "this is just marriage". I personally disagree. Maybe I am super lucky, but I married my best friend, of course we fight and have issues like anyone, but at the end of the day when we touch feet under the covers I know we are on the same team. 10 years married and 2 kids later he still tells me I am beautiful ( and means it) every day, he knows what makes me smile and he can tell by a face I'm making what I am thinking. When he walks in the room I still get butterflies and when he is gone on a work trip I miss him. We do plenty of activities separately and have our own individual identities, but honestly I enjoy cuddling in with him on a Friday night, having a great conversation followed by amazing sex---over any party or gala or other event. Again I don't think we are perfect, but I can't imagine being married to anyone else and am so thankful for him every.single.day. This is also MY version of perfect. My bff is staying with her husband who she doesn't feel any of the above with , but he is wealthy and she likes the quality of life...to her my life ( and lack of extra income) would not at ALL be perfect, while hers sounds horrible to me---so it really is how you interpret it

[Anonymous]

trump's

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband will tell me I'm perfect..and I say "no , no one is perfect" to which he responds "well you are perfect for me" . I feel that is what it comes down to. No one is perfect, and if they put off the facade of perfect they are most likely the most flawed---so I don't feel it is about "perfection" I feel it is about truly loving your partner. My close friend was telling me how basically everyone she knows in dc have "bad" marriages i.e no sex, don't like spouse, basically roomates...sort of validating the shortcomings in her marriage as "this is just marriage". I personally disagree. Maybe I am super lucky, but I married my best friend, of course we fight and have issues like anyone, but at the end of the day when we touch feet under the covers I know we are on the same team. 10 years married and 2 kids later he still tells me I am beautiful ( and means it) every day, he knows what makes me smile and he can tell by a face I'm making what I am thinking. When he walks in the room I still get butterflies and when he is gone on a work trip I miss him. We do plenty of activities separately and have our own individual identities, but honestly I enjoy cuddling in with him on a Friday night, having a great conversation followed by amazing sex---over any party or gala or other event. Again I don't think we are perfect, but I can't imagine being married to anyone else and am so thankful for him every.single.day. This is also MY version of perfect. My bff is staying with her husband who she doesn't feel any of the above with , but he is wealthy and she likes the quality of life...to her my life ( and lack of extra income) would not at ALL be perfect, while hers sounds horrible to me---so it really is how you interpret it

+1

Love my DH, been together 30 years. We have same shared values, even though we are different personalities and have different interests. And can not emphasize the importance of a good sex-life - the love, pleasure, comfort, intimacy of being a sexual couple cannot be beat.

[Anonymous]

We've been married 38 years. We are best friends. We are independent but rely on each other. We have common interests but plenty of our own. Our three kids were always our #1 priority over both of our careers. We both have great respect for each other and what we have accomplished on our own and as a couple. We still have a very active sex life at 1-2X per week and while not wildly adventuresome we both really enjoy it. We have a lot of friends but I don't know of any other couple who seem to have a better relationship. Our marriage may be as good as it can get. Is it perfect? Unlikely but its pretty close.