Boyfriend broke up with me 30 minutes before we were supposed to leave for a trip!

[Anonymous]

Well, if he is a CIA operative, he did you a favor. You don't want to be in a relationship with that!

[Anonymous]

1. He's married and couldn't be away that long.

2. He just met his soulmate.

3. He was about to be deported and had to flee.

4. There was a real family emergency, and he didn't have the decency to call you or share the details.

5. He can't afford to take the vacation, and he's been using you for your money.

6. He is a felon and can't travel without issues (or he has an open warrant).

Bottom line: he doesn't love you. He doesn't even respect you a tiny bit. And he clearly didn't want to travel with you. Why would you want to be with a guy like that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long had you been with him?

2 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. He's married and couldn't be away that long.

2. He just met his soulmate.

3. He was about to be deported and had to flee.

4. There was a real family emergency, and he didn't have the decency to call you or share the details.

5. He can't afford to take the vacation, and he's been using you for your money.

6. He is a felon and can't travel without issues (or he has an open warrant).

Bottom line: he doesn't love you. He doesn't even respect you a tiny bit. And he clearly didn't want to travel with you. Why would you want to be with a guy like that?

Op here: I definitely don't want to be with a guy like that. He's a shitty person and I told him that already in an email. He's not as bad as trump but damn it's close!!

[Anonymous]

DH (then BF) showed up to my house when we were supposed to leave for a weekend trip without any of his stuff. He broke up with me and I walked out right past him and left for the trip. I had a great time and just made it a weekend of pampering. I didn't have any contact with him while I was gone. When I returned he was there waiting with roses and an explanation. We ended up taking our version of the trip later that year and got married 2 years later.

You've been together 2 years. Either give him the benefit of the doubt, or roll with the way you treated him and move on.

[Anonymous]

What was his excuse, pp?

[Anonymous]

He sounds married.

[Anonymous]

Which country? Let me guess: Is it in Africa?

[Anonymous]

Do you know for certain what he does for a living?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know for certain what he does for a living?

He's in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Which country? Let me guess: Is it in Africa? [/quote

No Pakistan

[Anonymous]

So would you rather he instead break up with you during the trip or after? Before is the better way to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So would you rather he instead break up with you during the trip or after? Before is the better way to go.

Actually he did not break up with me. It just sort of feels that way since he made up this lame excuse LAST minute. He has made up other shady excuses in the past but nothing this bad. I'm happy to be rid of him though and I decided to go on the trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Which country? Let me guess: Is it in Africa?

If that's the case, OP had best hold out hope her prince will come back. I hear Africa is very full of princes (419 of them in fact!), all of whom are fabulously wealthy.

Seriously, though, any time I've ever seen someone say "family emergency" without being specific, they're a flake. Is it really that hard to say, "My sister died!" or "My mom's in the hospital and every doctor says she has three days to live!" or "I've got to get my sister away from the guy that's beating her up!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Either you trust him enough to believe his story or you don't.

The other thing is the CIA could have called up all non-active operatives, the US is about to get a lot more enemies abroad now. Gotta be ready.

Shoot, I thought Russia would be leaving us alone now, since one of their own has the top job!