Do you go to your kids weekend classes as a couple?

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Anonymous wrote:As a side note, the poster(s) mentioning how back in the day the kids would just get dropped off..
I understand the 'ugh, everyone is a helicopter parent now' mentality, but isn't it kind of rude to just drop your kid off and let the instructor/coach/other parents watch your kid? Kids misbehave or don't listen or get into trouble and I'd be annoyed if I had to parent someone's else's kid.

No, that's the coach's job. What's rude is for you to drop the kids off and not listen when the coach comes back to you says Sally Sue was a horrible little monster today.

Soccer coach here. No- what's rude would be you intruding in our practice to discipline your child. I'm a coach for a reason- I know the game and I'm also a parent of lots of kids- I guarantee they will behave well with me- I work hard to keep them engaged and active and respectful. You should either trust the coaches or if you have a SN kid let us. Ow. Otherwise your hovering hinders practice.

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My kids are older now but we always went to games as a family assuming they didn't overlap. Some weekends we were at the soccer field for 5 games in a weekend. We didn't do the same for practices. That was about getting them there and picking up. It was social for us as well as cheering on our kids. The other kids went with us too.

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Games? Yes. Practice? Neither one of us stays usually.

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We go to all soccer games and recitals and concerts together. Only one person goes to practices or birthday parties.

We just have the one kid, though. Once a second kid is in the mix, most of the families in our circle split up the kids to divide and conquer.

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We go together for swimming because it helps to have the "dry" parent dress the toddler. We're about to have 2 and I imagine we'll divide and conquer then.

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Op here - swim class doesn't allow the parent to leave. I asked especially when I need a coffee and the coordinator said no.

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Op here again - the majority have said both parents don't go. I swear at swim lessons there are more two parent groups than one. Wonder who all those parents are.

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My DH goes. I need time with my AP.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH goes. I need time with my AP.

Your children are so #blessed

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Anonymous wrote:Op here again - the majority have said both parents don't go. I swear at swim lessons there are more two parent groups than one. Wonder who all those parents are.

How old are your kids? Also do some of those parents have more than one kid in an activity there? I would say when my kids were younger we would sometimes go to swim practice together. Partly because it was both kids there and they were under 5 so just the work of getting the kids up and out early to an activity that wasn't closeby, plus possibly an add on errand with food etc. Once they got older, if they were both in swim or gymnastics together it would definately be a break for the parent not going without being an undue burden on the one that was bringing them. I can't think of a time we went to any practice together unless we needed to leave from there to go somewhere together afterwards. At a certain age, most parents don't stay for practice. If they can't go home, no errands to run, they have their phone/iPad/laptop and keep themselves occupied, stay in their car, or go for a walk etc to get in some exercise.

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Anonymous wrote:As a side note, the poster(s) mentioning how back in the day the kids would just get dropped off..
I understand the 'ugh, everyone is a helicopter parent now' mentality, but isn't it kind of rude to just drop your kid off and let the instructor/coach/other parents watch your kid? Kids misbehave or don't listen or get into trouble and I'd be annoyed if I had to parent someone's else's kid.

The coach isn't "watching your kid" like a playdate. It's a lesson, which you have presumably paid money for and trust the quality of instruction. They really can handle the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a side note, the poster(s) mentioning how back in the day the kids would just get dropped off..
I understand the 'ugh, everyone is a helicopter parent now' mentality, but isn't it kind of rude to just drop your kid off and let the instructor/coach/other parents watch your kid? Kids misbehave or don't listen or get into trouble and I'd be annoyed if I had to parent someone's else's kid.

The coach isn't "watching your kid" like a playdate. It's a lesson, which you have presumably paid money for and trust the quality of instruction. They really can handle the kids.

+1

The coach/instructor is supervising the kids. That's what you pay them for. Parents who interfere in the coach/instructor's discipline are annoying.

My parents never came to practices, only games.

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No, never. When we had only one kid, the other person got to either relax during this time or run other errands that needed to get done over the weekend.

Now that we have 2 kids, definitely not as it would be really inappropriate for us to try to corral the younger one on the sidelines while the older one has swim class or karate or whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:No, never. When we had only one kid, the other person got to either relax during this time or run other errands that needed to get done over the weekend.

Now that we have 2 kids, definitely not as it would be really inappropriate for us to try to corral the younger one on the sidelines while the older one has swim class or karate or whatever.

LOL at it being "inappropriate" to bring siblings to games. That's actually hilarious and bizarre.

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We don't usually because the classes are drop off, not games. But sometimes if the schools hold concerts or separate conferences for parents, then we go together, unless the other child has something as well.