Husband acting like an asshole

[Anonymous]

bookworm wrote:many people are unhappy. it could be work. it could be anything. hopefully your husband will talk to you about it and stop taking it out on you.
so sorry!

I know his selfish father had been bugging him over the phone, he is worry about this elections, he has a new work assignment, but that's not a valid reason to disrespect me. He may be unhappy.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think your issues lie much deeper than this event or any similar events. There seems to be quite a lot of animosity and blaming and a lack of communication. If it's really an event like this that has you so upset, I am a SAHM and I cannot agree with your position. But again, I think this is just a symptom of a larger problem that requires some work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think your issues lie much deeper than this event or any similar events. There seems to be quite a lot of animosity and blaming and a lack of communication. If it's really an event like this that has you so upset, I am a SAHM and I cannot agree with your position. But again, I think this is just a symptom of a larger problem that requires some work.

Probably. He's attached to his IPhone 24/7. If you attempt to have a conversation with him, he will look at his IPhone. Our older daughter wonders what's going on.

[Anonymous]

Schools have these kinds of events all year, usually once per month. Everyone goes to the first one or two and then attendance trails off significantly once people realize how boring they are. Yes, you should go if you want information about the math program but it is asking a lot for your husband to leave work for something that happens so frequently.

I am guessing that your son just started kindergarten and that up until now you have provided him with almost all of his preschool education. Now is the time to let go a little bit and let the school do the hard work. Once you let go, you will not feel so overloaded with his schooling. You can supplement with extra practice but do not go overboard because your child is only in the 85th percentile instead of the 99th percentile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think your issues lie much deeper than this event or any similar events. There seems to be quite a lot of animosity and blaming and a lack of communication. If it's really an event like this that has you so upset, I am a SAHM and I cannot agree with your position. But again, I think this is just a symptom of a larger problem that requires some work.

Probably. He's attached to his IPhone 24/7. If you attempt to have a conversation with him, he will look at his IPhone. Our older daughter wonders what's going on.

Did he take off of work for the same seminars with your daughter?

[Anonymous]

You are not required to bring a date to school meetings.

[Anonymous]

My husband was being a jerk like yours. I went out and got and job. His schedule is offset days, so DD is in preK 3 days a week. He can go f*** himself. My daughter will be happier if I am happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think your issues lie much deeper than this event or any similar events. There seems to be quite a lot of animosity and blaming and a lack of communication. If it's really an event like this that has you so upset, I am a SAHM and I cannot agree with your position. But again, I think this is just a symptom of a larger problem that requires some work.

Probably. He's attached to his IPhone 24/7. If you attempt to have a conversation with him, he will look at his IPhone. Our older daughter wonders what's going on.

Did he take off of work for the same seminars with your daughter?

He did. Those were different times when the IPhone hadn't arrive to his constant attention and we lived in the West Coast.

[Anonymous]

How old are your two kids?

What do you think your job as a SAHM is?

What is keeping you so busy with "real work" during the day?

It sounds like you think your husband isn't really working- what is his profession?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think your issues lie much deeper than this event or any similar events. There seems to be quite a lot of animosity and blaming and a lack of communication. If it's really an event like this that has you so upset, I am a SAHM and I cannot agree with your position. But again, I think this is just a symptom of a larger problem that requires some work.

+1

If it was really just this math event, there's no way I would take PTO to go. Both parents are not necessary for something like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think your issues lie much deeper than this event or any similar events. There seems to be quite a lot of animosity and blaming and a lack of communication. If it's really an event like this that has you so upset, I am a SAHM and I cannot agree with your position. But again, I think this is just a symptom of a larger problem that requires some work.

Probably. He's attached to his IPhone 24/7. If you attempt to have a conversation with him, he will look at his IPhone. Our older daughter wonders what's going on.

Whats the real work you're referencing?

[Anonymous]

You sound really resentful about him having a smartphone. Have you talked to him regarding using his phone when you are having family time? Why are you with him if you hate him so much? He's an asshole for not going to the meeting, he's an asshole for looking at his phone, he's an asshole for stopping for a coffee. Geez. I wouldn't want to go anywhere with you either.

[Anonymous]

what country are you from OP? How old are your kids?

[Anonymous]

This obviously is not about the math meeting.

OP's husband sounds disengaged from the family in general. He says he can't commit to certain things because he's working, yet takes times off for other non-family events. He's always glued to his phone during the times he is actually with his family.

The question is -- has he withdrawn because he is just not a family guy/is depressed/other reasons... or has he withdrawn because OP has unrealistic expectations? OP, any insight on that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The math event sounds like a waste of time. Schools schedule too many activities.

I doubt it's a waste of time. It's to cut down on the idiots who whine about the way they teach math these days. You know, those absurd people who express outrage on FB and the like about Common Core. This is actually pretty smart of the school -- saves adults from embarrassing themselves and confusing their children by telling them they're being taught math the "wrong" way.