12-yo Boy Cried at Lunch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, there's nothing wrong with a boy crying, and you shouldn't assume others will think there is.

Don't let your son think there's something wrong with him crying in front of people. You need to give the other kids a chance to show themselves as decent human beings. He's not "making himself a target." There was nothing wrong with his behavior. If someone begins to bully him, THAT is the behavior that needs to be addressed. But there may not be any of that. So don't worry ahead of time.

Just do what you can to see that your boy feels comfortable confiding in you. But otherwise, celebrate the sensitive soul he has. There is a lot in our world to bring tears to our eyes. Nothing wrong with being sensitive.

Crying is a sign of weakness, especially in middle school. OP is right to be alarmed.

OMG, you have to teach your son not to cry in public. Sorry, but the first poster's advice is not right for a 12yo boy. Younger boys then that get teased for crying.

So what? Helping my kids avoid other kids' teasing is not my first priority in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, there's nothing wrong with a boy crying, and you shouldn't assume others will think there is.

Don't let your son think there's something wrong with him crying in front of people. You need to give the other kids a chance to show themselves as decent human beings. He's not "making himself a target." There was nothing wrong with his behavior. If someone begins to bully him, THAT is the behavior that needs to be addressed. But there may not be any of that. So don't worry ahead of time.

Just do what you can to see that your boy feels comfortable confiding in you. But otherwise, celebrate the sensitive soul he has. There is a lot in our world to bring tears to our eyes. Nothing wrong with being sensitive.

Crying is a sign of weakness, especially in middle school. OP is right to be alarmed.

OMG, you have to teach your son not to cry in public. Sorry, but the first poster's advice is not right for a 12yo boy. Younger boys then that get teased for crying.

The problem then is the TEASING. Not the crying.

[Anonymous]

This doesn't sound like a big deal. Let him solve his own problems and learn from his experiences. Stuff like this happens all the time, and this is the age when he should be figuring it out.