Why do you always take your child the the ER? And why must you post it on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who uses the ER over regular doctors or urgent care because her insurance is through her husband, who is a fed, and she wants the higher bills to get her deductible each year. Once she hits that deductible, everything is paid for. It's how she's gotten two elective surgeries in the past three years. Elective as in she didn't really need it, but she found a doc who would do it, not elective as in plastic surgery.

Seems like every other week she's doing a check-in and obligatory picture post of her daughter's hospital wristband. The last 4 ER trips on her timeline took place from 9/21 to now... DD slid down the stairs and her butt hurts, DD stabbed herself with her mechanical pencil and is pretty sure there's lead stuck in her, DD shut her finger in her locker, and DD fell playing basketball and may need stitches (spoiler alert - she just got steri-strips because it was a goddamn skinned knee!).

I'm having lunch with this friend next week and I can't wait to find out what surgery she's gearing up for this year. Usually she's posting for prayers and "People who have had ____ done, talk to me about recovery" messages around this time of year.

It always amazes me how self centered people like this have any friends at all.

OMG, Perfect representation of what sucks about Social Media!

That doesn't make any sense at all, the pp's friend. She's paying the same deductible whether it's all in one shot for unnecessary treatments or spread out over the year for things she actually needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like Munchausen by proxy.

You don't understand what Munchausen by proxy is.

By definition, Munchausen by proxy is when a primary caretaker exaggerates symptoms of illness in a child for attention. Taking a kid to the ER because he fell from a standing position and complained his thigh hurts, lost tooth, etc, and then posting on facebook so everyone can say "get better!" "hope all is well!" sounds exactly like it to me. You must think that it can only mean when a mother poisons a child to death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like Munchausen by proxy.

You don't understand what Munchausen by proxy is.

By definition, Munchausen by proxy is when a primary caretaker exaggerates symptoms of illness in a child for attention. Taking a kid to the ER because he fell from a standing position and complained his thigh hurts, lost tooth, etc, and then posting on facebook so everyone can say "get better!" "hope all is well!" sounds exactly like it to me. You must think that it can only mean when a mother poisons a child to death.

This. I agree completely. This all screams MSBP.

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe a nurse takes their kid to the ER for those things. Literally, I find this post unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hospitals should have a CVS minute clinic type of thing where the non-emergency cases can all be sent to wait in line behind each other.

[Anonymous]

Eek. I would do just about anything to avoid the ER, especially with a child.

[Anonymous]

I don't necessarily think it's Munchausen, but clearly people post to FB for the attention. I have a friend who posts about her child's every sniffle and barf, complete with pictures of her miserable looking kids. I've noticed people don't respond much anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who uses the ER over regular doctors or urgent care because her insurance is through her husband, who is a fed, and she wants the higher bills to get her deductible each year. Once she hits that deductible, everything is paid for. It's how she's gotten two elective surgeries in the past three years. Elective as in she didn't really need it, but she found a doc who would do it, not elective as in plastic surgery.

Seems like every other week she's doing a check-in and obligatory picture post of her daughter's hospital wristband. The last 4 ER trips on her timeline took place from 9/21 to now... DD slid down the stairs and her butt hurts, DD stabbed herself with her mechanical pencil and is pretty sure there's lead stuck in her, DD shut her finger in her locker, and DD fell playing basketball and may need stitches (spoiler alert - she just got steri-strips because it was a goddamn skinned knee!).

I'm having lunch with this friend next week and I can't wait to find out what surgery she's gearing up for this year. Usually she's posting for prayers and "People who have had ____ done, talk to me about recovery" messages around this time of year.

It always amazes me how self centered people like this have any friends at all.

OMG, Perfect representation of what sucks about Social Media!

That doesn't make any sense at all, the pp's friend. She's paying the same deductible whether it's all in one shot for unnecessary treatments or spread out over the year for things she actually needs.

Because in her mind she equates hitting the deductible as the goal and falling short of it as being a waste. Like, why pay X dollars in a year and get nothing else "free" out of it when I could strive to hit the goal and get x, y, and z covered for "free." She's also the type of person who will buy a $10 scracher ticket, win $5 and be excited she won even though she technically lost $5.

What started her "habit" was a few years ago she was having foot pain. Her primary told her it was her plantar fascia inflamed from years of heels and flip flops. She hated his suggestions of more supportive shoes and foot exercises and wanted a quick fix. She went to a specialist who saw she'd met her deductible that year (her kid actually was really sick that year and had several hospital admissions) and told her she was lucky because he'd do surgery and it'd cost her nothing.

Second surgery she got a bladder sling for "free" because she'd met her deductible. Her insurance has no co-insurance that she needs to pay after meeting whatever amount it is. I'd love to know that amount. It has to be sky-high. I feel bad for her DH who has to foot that high insurance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who uses the ER over regular doctors or urgent care because her insurance is through her husband, who is a fed, and she wants the higher bills to get her deductible each year. Once she hits that deductible, everything is paid for. It's how she's gotten two elective surgeries in the past three years. Elective as in she didn't really need it, but she found a doc who would do it, not elective as in plastic surgery.

Seems like every other week she's doing a check-in and obligatory picture post of her daughter's hospital wristband. The last 4 ER trips on her timeline took place from 9/21 to now... DD slid down the stairs and her butt hurts, DD stabbed herself with her mechanical pencil and is pretty sure there's lead stuck in her, DD shut her finger in her locker, and DD fell playing basketball and may need stitches (spoiler alert - she just got steri-strips because it was a goddamn skinned knee!).

I'm having lunch with this friend next week and I can't wait to find out what surgery she's gearing up for this year. Usually she's posting for prayers and "People who have had ____ done, talk to me about recovery" messages around this time of year.

It always amazes me how self centered people like this have any friends at all.

OMG, Perfect representation of what sucks about Social Media!

That doesn't make any sense at all, the pp's friend. She's paying the same deductible whether it's all in one shot for unnecessary treatments or spread out over the year for things she actually needs.

Because in her mind she equates hitting the deductible as the goal and falling short of it as being a waste. Like, why pay X dollars in a year and get nothing else "free" out of it when I could strive to hit the goal and get x, y, and z covered for "free." She's also the type of person who will buy a $10 scracher ticket, win $5 and be excited she won even though she technically lost $5.

What started her "habit" was a few years ago she was having foot pain. Her primary told her it was her plantar fascia inflamed from years of heels and flip flops. She hated his suggestions of more supportive shoes and foot exercises and wanted a quick fix. She went to a specialist who saw she'd met her deductible that year (her kid actually was really sick that year and had several hospital admissions) and told her she was lucky because he'd do surgery and it'd cost her nothing.

Second surgery she got a bladder sling for "free" because she'd met her deductible. Her insurance has no co-insurance that she needs to pay after meeting whatever amount it is. I'd love to know that amount. It has to be sky-high. I feel bad for her DH who has to foot that high insurance.

[Anonymous]

Pretty sure with MBP the parent would have to be creating the symptoms for which the kid is at the dr./ER. This person just sounds like an attention whore. There's a difference.

[Anonymous]

Luckily ERs are not stupid, they do triage patients.
I was there 5 times recently, unlucky me. Since each time I came by ambulance, I didn't see the walk-ins or the waiting-room, but I guarantee they don't make the serious cases wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like Munchausen by proxy.

You don't understand what Munchausen by proxy is.

Not the PP but what is it that YOU don't understand about it?- if the mother is a nurse and is taking photos/seeking attention of the children who are ill or injured (whether or not she was involved), it does flag on the MBP meter.

I just think it's bad mojo to put all that info out there, like showing off the 'bad' thereby tempting fate to show you what bad really is.

[Anonymous]

My otherwise excellent insurance has a $150 ER copay (waived only if admitted for other than observation) precisely because of other enrollees using the ER in place of a minute clinic.

[Anonymous]

Reply back and ask if she gets a discount

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My otherwise excellent insurance has a $150 ER copay (waived only if admitted for other than observation) precisely because of other enrollees using the ER in place of a minute clinic.

NP. My excellent insurance has the $150 ER copay even if you do end up getting admitted (I found this out when I went in for appendicitis and ended up getting admitted). I guess if someone works there, maybe that's waived, but I don't know? My mom is a nurse and we always had to pay the regular price for medical appointments and whatnot.