BASIS - how long to figure out if school was a good fit for your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Basis: Where childhood goes to die.

Say 21st century parents who hand their 5th graders a device on which you can find out everything you ever wanted to know about violence, porn and hatred. Who allow their children to binge watch Netflix or have marathon video games, sitting the whole time, yet are upset that their children do not have daily PE M-F.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your option/s if you are no longer comfortable with this choice for your child?

Enroll in your neighborhood school. Or apply to a school that still has openings now via MySchoolDC. Go to private school or home school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basis: Where childhood goes to die.

Say 21st century parents who hand their 5th graders a device on which you can find out everything you ever wanted to know about violence, porn and hatred. Who allow their children to binge watch Netflix or have marathon video games, sitting the whole time, yet are upset that their children do not have daily PE M-F.

Nah. My 16 year old said it after talking to an 11 year old BASIS student.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basis: Where childhood goes to die.

Say 21st century parents who hand their 5th graders a device on which you can find out everything you ever wanted to know about violence, porn and hatred. Who allow their children to binge watch Netflix or have marathon video games, sitting the whole time, yet are upset that their children do not have daily PE M-F.

Nah. My 16 year old said it after talking to an 11 year old BASIS student.

Wondering where your 16 yo goes to school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basis: Where childhood goes to die.

Say 21st century parents who hand their 5th graders a device on which you can find out everything you ever wanted to know about violence, porn and hatred. Who allow their children to binge watch Netflix or have marathon video games, sitting the whole time, yet are upset that their children do not have daily PE M-F.

That's a little smug, don't you think?

[Anonymous]

I mean really, let's face it. The school is extremely demanding timewise. We got in but opted out because it just wasn't a good fit. But part of the reason was because we felt it to be "too expensive" in terms of time and emotional investment for what you get out of it. I'll take less bragging rights in exchange for healthy relationships and a feeling of satisfaction over bragging rights any day (not saying that the healthy relationships and satisfaction don't exist for BASIS kids and parents, but I really think the highly competitive environment is not conducive to it)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean really, let's face it. The school is extremely demanding timewise. We got in but opted out because it just wasn't a good fit. But part of the reason was because we felt it to be "too expensive" in terms of time and emotional investment for what you get out of it. I'll take less bragging rights in exchange for healthy relationships and a feeling of satisfaction over bragging rights any day (not saying that the healthy relationships and satisfaction don't exist for BASIS kids and parents, but I really think the highly competitive environment is not conducive to it)

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your option/s if you are no longer comfortable with this choice for your child?

Attend your public school.
We had heard so many terrible things about our local Middle/high schools that we did not even consider it as an option.
Now that we are at our local public, we regret spending all those years at BASIS.

[Anonymous]

go to Hardy!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:go to Hardy!!

Not really an option if you are OOB. Still has a WL this year.

[Anonymous]

I don't look at it that way (asking if Basis is a good fit). I keep cultivating my child and spending less time worrying about the school. DS is in 8th now. He's not a top student, but he's not at the bottom, either. He used to be grumpy about school, but he is now joyful. It's because I started trusting him. I started respecting his ability to choose for himself. I even told him that if he wants to choose to fail, it's up to him, because I am choosing to respect his decisions. He actually goes to school and comes back HAPPY now, because he realizes I accept him just the way he is. Basis hasn't changed, but I have, and he has. Before, I think a lot of my incessant anxiety about the right school has to do with the amount of control I need over my child's future. No more.

So, my thought is, you can try to control the outcome of your child's life by picking the right/wrong school (nothing wrong with that... we picked Basis over Latin...he got in to both). But the parenting piece is still mostly about your core relational bond with your child. A well attuned child will thrive. We plan to stay through 12th grade. Thought briefly about Walls, but I think Basis is just fine. Kid has become more personally responsibly, grades are on the rise. Is Basis the right school? It's important to know why you are asking this question. The school has rigor, but it is is not crazy difficult. I feel like I read a lot of posts, and the key issue is not academic rigor but parental anxiety. So, do you solve the school issue or solve your own anxiety? For me, I have attained personal peace...and I see a seriously beneficial trickle down effect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't look at it that way (asking if Basis is a good fit). I keep cultivating my child and spending less time worrying about the school. DS is in 8th now. He's not a top student, but he's not at the bottom, either. He used to be grumpy about school, but he is now joyful. It's because I started trusting him. I started respecting his ability to choose for himself. I even told him that if he wants to choose to fail, it's up to him, because I am choosing to respect his decisions. He actually goes to school and comes back HAPPY now, because he realizes I accept him just the way he is. Basis hasn't changed, but I have, and he has. Before, I think a lot of my incessant anxiety about the right school has to do with the amount of control I need over my child's future. No more.

So, my thought is, you can try to control the outcome of your child's life by picking the right/wrong school (nothing wrong with that... we picked Basis over Latin...he got in to both). But the parenting piece is still mostly about your core relational bond with your child. A well attuned child will thrive. We plan to stay through 12th grade. Thought briefly about Walls, but I think Basis is just fine. Kid has become more personally responsibly, grades are on the rise. Is Basis the right school? It's important to know why you are asking this question. The school has rigor, but it is is not crazy difficult. I feel like I read a lot of posts, and the key issue is not academic rigor but parental anxiety. So, do you solve the school issue or solve your own anxiety? For me, I have attained personal peace...and I see a seriously beneficial trickle down effect.

Sums up pretty much every thread, from the ones on potty training and school lunch/snack to college placements.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't look at it that way (asking if Basis is a good fit). I keep cultivating my child and spending less time worrying about the school. DS is in 8th now. He's not a top student, but he's not at the bottom, either. He used to be grumpy about school, but he is now joyful. It's because I started trusting him. I started respecting his ability to choose for himself. I even told him that if he wants to choose to fail, it's up to him, because I am choosing to respect his decisions. He actually goes to school and comes back HAPPY now, because he realizes I accept him just the way he is. Basis hasn't changed, but I have, and he has. Before, I think a lot of my incessant anxiety about the right school has to do with the amount of control I need over my child's future. No more.

So, my thought is, you can try to control the outcome of your child's life by picking the right/wrong school (nothing wrong with that... we picked Basis over Latin...he got in to both). But the parenting piece is still mostly about your core relational bond with your child. A well attuned child will thrive. We plan to stay through 12th grade. Thought briefly about Walls, but I think Basis is just fine. Kid has become more personally responsibly, grades are on the rise. Is Basis the right school? It's important to know why you are asking this question. The school has rigor, but it is is not crazy difficult. I feel like I read a lot of posts, and the key issue is not academic rigor but parental anxiety. So, do you solve the school issue or solve your own anxiety? For me, I have attained personal peace...and I see a seriously beneficial trickle down effect.

Sums up pretty much every thread, from the ones on potty training and school lunch/snack to college placements.

+1 People need to examine their fear of death and dial backwards to consider their decision processes. Maybe take The-Meaning-Of-Life 101.

[jaybird]

Anonymous wrote:I mean really, let's face it. The school is extremely demanding timewise. We got in but opted out because it just wasn't a good fit. But part of the reason was because we felt it to be "too expensive" in terms of time and emotional investment for what you get out of it. I'll take less bragging rights in exchange for healthy relationships and a feeling of satisfaction over bragging rights any day (not saying that the healthy relationships and satisfaction don't exist for BASIS kids and parents, but I really think the highly competitive environment is not conducive to it)

I don't think you can have a well-formed opinion of something you haven't experienced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't look at it that way (asking if Basis is a good fit). I keep cultivating my child and spending less time worrying about the school. DS is in 8th now. He's not a top student, but he's not at the bottom, either. He used to be grumpy about school, but he is now joyful. It's because I started trusting him. I started respecting his ability to choose for himself. I even told him that if he wants to choose to fail, it's up to him, because I am choosing to respect his decisions. He actually goes to school and comes back HAPPY now, because he realizes I accept him just the way he is. Basis hasn't changed, but I have, and he has. Before, I think a lot of my incessant anxiety about the right school has to do with the amount of control I need over my child's future. No more.

So, my thought is, you can try to control the outcome of your child's life by picking the right/wrong school (nothing wrong with that... we picked Basis over Latin...he got in to both). But the parenting piece is still mostly about your core relational bond with your child. A well attuned child will thrive. We plan to stay through 12th grade. Thought briefly about Walls, but I think Basis is just fine. Kid has become more personally responsibly, grades are on the rise. Is Basis the right school? It's important to know why you are asking this question. The school has rigor, but it is is not crazy difficult. I feel like I read a lot of posts, and the key issue is not academic rigor but parental anxiety. So, do you solve the school issue or solve your own anxiety? For me, I have attained personal peace...and I see a seriously beneficial trickle down effect.

+1