If you're an introvert, do you hate it when your kids have friends over?

[Anonymous]

Yes hate it. We bought a larger house than we might have otherwise because dh and i both hated having other people's kids in our space and hated the noise etc

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh yeah thus no play dates

But see I just can't do that to my kids. That's not fair to them. They definitely do not have as many as others because I just can't handle other kids in my house or tagging along on trips all the time but I make myself do them because I don't want my kids to be social pariahs.

+1 I'm not an introvert but I've had to step out of my comfort zone many times for my kids. I'm not going to sacrifice letting my kid do normal things because of my own issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So far we haven't had anyone over. Birthday parties are extremely tough for me. I try to keep it together because my kid has never met a stranger. I try my best not to pass on my awkwardness although I know that may be impossible.

What does the bolded mean? Are you afraid of your kid meeting strangers? If that's what you mean it sounds like you have other issues happening. That kind of fear is not something you want to pass on to your kid, have you considered therapy?

[Anonymous]

This is why we don't entertain much.

Thankfully, my kids don't ask for too many playdates, so I guess everyone in the family is pretty much on the same page.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So far we haven't had anyone over. Birthday parties are extremely tough for me. I try to keep it together because my kid has never met a stranger. I try my best not to pass on my awkwardness although I know that may be impossible.

What does the bolded mean? Are you afraid of your kid meeting strangers? If that's what you mean it sounds like you have other issues happening. That kind of fear is not something you want to pass on to your kid, have you considered therapy?

It's a turn of phrase meaning her kid is gregarious and makes friends easily. Jesus, calm down and learn common speech.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So far we haven't had anyone over. Birthday parties are extremely tough for me. I try to keep it together because my kid has never met a stranger. I try my best not to pass on my awkwardness although I know that may be impossible.

What does the bolded mean? Are you afraid of your kid meeting strangers? If that's what you mean it sounds like you have other issues happening. That kind of fear is not something you want to pass on to your kid, have you considered therapy?

Wow, you're stupid. "Never met a stranger" means that PP's child is friendly towards everyone he or she meets, and tends to invite them to play. Therefore PP has a lot of potential playdates on her hands, and she struggles with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious.

No.

However, DW and I are slobs, so we do hate it for that reason when our kids have friends over.

[Anonymous]

I can't do it. My kids hardly ever have playdates b/c of it. I feel bad but I can't handle them that often.

[Anonymous]

My husbands is this way and I have a hard time balancing being sensitive to his and my and my kids needs. I hate that we infrequently reciprocate the many invitations we get. Any tips?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't do it. My kids hardly ever have playdates b/c of it. I feel bad but I can't handle them that often.

I feel your pain. It completely drains me days before and days after...

[Anonymous]

I'm an introvert who can pass as an extrovert pretty easily, though I still need alone time and find large parties boring. My kids are in their teens and early 20s now, and in temperament they range from slightly introverted -- very capable of enjoying time spent alone, but also makes friends easily -- to extremely extroverted -- "never met a stranger" . I'm really happy that they are so confident in social settings and I've learned a lot from them about how to manage my introversion. I also love having their friends around.

[Anonymous]

Oh, just wanted to add that I often identify with the introverts among my kids' friends. I know how tough it can be for them to go beyond their comfort zone socially, and I try to do what I can to make it a bit easier.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So far we haven't had anyone over. Birthday parties are extremely tough for me. I try to keep it together because my kid has never met a stranger. I try my best not to pass on my awkwardness although I know that may be impossible.

What does the bolded mean? Are you afraid of your kid meeting strangers? If that's what you mean it sounds like you have other issues happening. That kind of fear is not something you want to pass on to your kid, have you considered therapy?

Wow, you're stupid. "Never met a stranger" means that PP's child is friendly towards everyone he or she meets, and tends to invite them to play. Therefore PP has a lot of potential playdates on her hands, and she struggles with that.

Geez, why the name calling? PP didn't know the expression and asked. Calm down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So far we haven't had anyone over. Birthday parties are extremely tough for me. I try to keep it together because my kid has never met a stranger. I try my best not to pass on my awkwardness although I know that may be impossible.

What does the bolded mean? Are you afraid of your kid meeting strangers? If that's what you mean it sounds like you have other issues happening. That kind of fear is not something you want to pass on to your kid, have you considered therapy?

Wow, you're stupid. "Never met a stranger" means that PP's child is friendly towards everyone he or she meets, and tends to invite them to play. Therefore PP has a lot of potential playdates on her hands, and she struggles with that.

Geez, why the name calling? PP didn't know the expression and asked. Calm down.

I'm the person quoted. Jesus, calm down. I have never in my life heard that term so I took it as a literal statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So far we haven't had anyone over. Birthday parties are extremely tough for me. I try to keep it together because my kid has never met a stranger. I try my best not to pass on my awkwardness although I know that may be impossible.

What does the bolded mean? Are you afraid of your kid meeting strangers? If that's what you mean it sounds like you have other issues happening. That kind of fear is not something you want to pass on to your kid, have you considered therapy?

Wow, you're stupid. "Never met a stranger" means that PP's child is friendly towards everyone he or she meets, and tends to invite them to play. Therefore PP has a lot of potential playdates on her hands, and she struggles with that.

Geez, why the name calling? PP didn't know the expression and asked. Calm down.

I'm the person quoted. Jesus, calm down. I have never in my life heard that term so I took it as a literal statement.

Quit getting mad because you made yourself look stupid.