Separated but living together as co-parents

[Anonymous]

They are very, very supportive. They love her, and realize their son is lucky. But they also love him and think he is just the center of the universe (aside from the new baby, of course, who they gladly babysit almost everyday since they all live together.)

Honestly aside from the father's hesitance to grow up, help out with money, and marry her, the situation is perfect. And we're all baffled by his weirdness about marriage bc he seems to love her otherwise?

[Anonymous]

I'm confused about what OP plans to do with the information she gets from this thread. If you are the friend of the person you're describing (and not the person herself), then you need to take a step back. She will figure out her own life. You sound over involved to me. Let her sort this out the best way she knows how. Offer her love and support. Don't give advice.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are very, very supportive. They love her, and realize their son is lucky. But they also love him and think he is just the center of the universe (aside from the new baby, of course, who they gladly babysit almost everyday since they all live together.)

Honestly aside from the father's hesitance to grow up, help out with money, and marry her, the situation is perfect. And we're all baffled by his weirdness about marriage bc he seems to love her otherwise?

I'm willing to bet his parents will be supportive as long as your friend plays along. Let her decide to move on and or get a boyfriend all hell will break out.

Your friend really needs to be smart.
She's setting herself up to be paying child support and financing the lazy boyfriend.

Why do women do this to themselves?

Your best advice is to tell her to get a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused about what OP plans to do with the information she gets from this thread. If you are the friend of the person you're describing (and not the person herself), then you need to take a step back. She will figure out her own life. You sound over involved to me. Let her sort this out the best way she knows how. Offer her love and support. Don't give advice.

Good luck.

+1

[Anonymous]

Not OP, but some nursing babies refuse bottles flat out. My ex bought 10 or 12 types of bottles. Meanwhile, our DD weight was dropping. He even tried spoon dropping and finger feeding. She got dehydrated during the first overnight visitation. He had to give up his plan for 50/50 of an infant because our pediatrician threatened to report a suspicion of neglect. He got 4 overnight's a month once she was half-weaned and would drink water or juice.

[Anonymous]

Just FYI, working mom in law and SAHD with no job who cares for kids while mom is working is a recipe for full custody to him and child support from Mom to Dad, whether or not they were married.

If OP doesn't want that, baby should be in childcare.
while she is working and she should not be living in Dad's house or Dad's parents house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is actually really common in this area. You just don't hear about it on here because it isn't the rich people doing it.

I disagree. It's because rich people can afford to buy two properties. Also, they are rich because they work hard and have less chaos in their lives. No kids with many different boyfriends, etc.