I met an amazing guy...who lives on the other side of the country

[Anonymous]

Give it a try. Stay in touch and then make plans to meet up (perhaps somewhere in the middle?)

It's worth a brief bit of hassle if he really is that great for you. That said, he should be pursuing you just as intensely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. This man is someone I wouldn't want to toss to the side. He's incredible and is just what I'd want in someone. The connection between the two of us was off the charts.

And please tell us how you know this after meeting him at a party, from a "conversation?"

OP here. I've spent the last 15 years dating pricks. I know.

Then, what exactly is your question?

[Anonymous]

I met my husband when he was visiting a friend in town. He lived in Chicago at the time, and we exchanged numbers before he left. I remember telling my friend, “Great guy. Too bad I’ll never hear from him again.” He called me two days later, and we ended up talking/emailing for six months before I went to visit him. I’m glad that I didn’t give up on the possibility of a relationship with him, even though it was challenging to date long distance. That was 18 years ago, and we’ve been married for 15 years this month.

[Anonymous]

OP, make sure he is officially divorced/not married/does not have a girlfriend. It's so easy to have a fling on the side when your OW lives across the country and visits only from time to time. Be smart about it!

[Anonymous]

Texting is the way to get to know him. It's easy and informal. Maybe you can progress to skype if it seems like there's something there. Good luck OP!

[Anonymous]

He has a child and can't move his job and lives on the west coast. Forget about him and move on.

[Anonymous]

I think this is terribly romantic. And do-able. I'm married (now 18 years) to a Virginian, and we had a long distance from Boston/DC (ok not the same distance problem, but still). I'm from the Los Angeles area, which is where we live now (although we were in NoVA for a while, which is why I post here).

But at one point, you will have to be around him long enough to have some conflicts. Knowing how people behave when everything isn't all set up to be perfect is key. Because that's what happens in daily life, and in marriage, and if you can't work as a team, it will fall apart, and if so, you need it to fall apart before marriage and kids, not after.

I don't know what stage of life you are in--for instance, if you are in college, you could do a semester out there or vice-versa. Or a summer.

Good luck, OP!

[Anonymous]

When my DH and I started dating (for the second time - we'd dated as teens) we were living on opposite sides of the planet. LDRs can and do work for many.