No sex during pregnancy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, many women continue on with sex as usual, some even find an increased drive in the 2nd trimester.

DH here, and I was SO hoping for this. Instead we got a fibroid that grew (unbelievably painful) and DW did not want to be touched. DS is now ~10months old and we are just starting to get our groove back.

[MikeL]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, my asshole husband won't have sex with me.

PM me. I love pregnant women!

[Anonymous]

Is it your choice or his??

Maybe he believes the old wives tale that having sex while pregnant can induce pre-mature labor....??

[Anonymous]

Pregnant for first child DW wanted sex all the time. Second child total shut down, didn't even want to see me naked. If I was laying next to her and got an erection she would get mad. Took 7 years for her to change back to somewhat wanting sex, or I should say it took me 7 years before I finally had enough and was ready to leave, then she changed her mind

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lost all sex drive during pregnancy and while nursing. It's a temporary situation that is controlled a lot by hormones. For some that means high drive, for others it means none. You don't get to choose what your body does. Be kind to your wife and follow her lead on what she's up for. Her whole body is our of whack while she's growing a human being. I'm pretty sure you can take care of yourself for a bit.

It *can* be a temporary situation. The loss of sex drive can also be permanent. Plenty of DCUM threads attest to that.

[Anonymous]

I was not interested while I was pregnant at ALL. Still did it here and there, but not all that much. My DH was wonderful and patient and didn't freak out. I love him so much for that. My body was busy doing other things, he totally understood that.

After I have birth, sex HURT LIKE HELL until I weaned. I was not just a little dry, it physically hurt anytime we tried and I'd end up in tears. That went away once I weaned, but it was a really rough time because I thought I was broken forever. Nope! Just needed to stop breastfeeding.

I am now pregnant again and am not interested at all. Again my DH is being wonderful and patient about it. Him being so mature about it helps our relationship stay strong even though we aren't that physical these days.

Life is long. Marriage is part of that. There will be dry spells. If you can't deal with that, you are going to struggle in marriage.

[Anonymous]

I was very patient. When my kids became school age, the kids were in school full time, and my wife's libido still hadn't bounced back, I became bitter because she had said for years her lack of libido was because of dealing with the kids all day.

Lots of wasted time. Instead of being patient and waiting it out, we could have been doing other things to try to get her interested in sex again -- some of which required effort on her part.

[Anonymous]

When x-wife was pregnant we had sex all the time except the last month. Doctor advised against that. Great fun. No chance of more pregnancy HaHa, no that time of the month and she was super sexy prego.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lost all sex drive during pregnancy and while nursing. It's a temporary situation that is controlled a lot by hormones. For some that means high drive, for others it means none. You don't get to choose what your body does. Be kind to your wife and follow her lead on what she's up for. Her whole body is our of whack while she's growing a human being. I'm pretty sure you can take care of yourself for a bit.

It *can* be a temporary situation. The loss of sex drive can also be permanent. Plenty of DCUM threads attest to that.

DW felt pretty awful first and second trimester, and then felt too huge and gross 3rd. The result was that we had sex exactly once, on our anniversary, in the first tri. After that, DW breastfed for 6 mos. We are now 10 mos. PP and we are now finally getting back in the groove...sex 2x last week!!!

ProTip: Any reminders of the baby's presence are immediate sex killers - so turn off/down the sound on the monitor.