Do your kids call their stepmom "mommy"?

[Anonymous]

Talk to your ex. Perhaps there is some other title you can all be comfortable with that would be more familiar than a first name but less familiar than Mommy. Your feelings do matter and I think its perfectly acceptable to put your foot down on this one.

That being said, this is your Ex's new wife and her feelings should come into play. Not enough to get her the "Mommy" title, but enough that she should feel heard and included in the family dynamic. While I think you can put your foot down on variations of MOM.. I don't think you can be the only person deciding what your kids call her. All parties need to be comfortable with the ultimate decision.

For better or worse, she will be a part of your children's lives and having a respectful relationship with her will be important. You cannot control her but you can control yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a step-mom to grown girls and they have a nick name for me, which is actually sweet. I don't particularly like the name, but their intentions were good, not mom but more meaningful than step mom.

This sounds like Demi and Bruce's kids who called Ashton "Mod" for My Other Dad. Sweet.

[Anonymous]

if they call YOU mommy, yes i think it's weird. if you they call you mama or mother or something else, and her mommy, well that seems like a nice way to honor her role without tramping on yours.

my stepdad is my dad for all intents and purposes and i've always called him by his first name. seems weird to others at times but never did to me; "joe" is just a name i use that is interchangeable with "dad" in my psyche.