Drama with planning a wedding

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ILs invited people before my husband I said they could invite anyone. My parents paid. We allotted my parents and ILs 10 friends each--5 couples each--on top of EVERY family member on both. Sides already being invited. For a guest list of 120, this was ver generous--we really had to trim OUR friends to make room for them.

So they had to uninvite people. So tacky. SO not my problem. They offered to give us more money. No thanks; my parents gave a very generous amount, and if anyone gets to invite more people, it's DH and ME!

ITA. MIL *insisted* we invite certain people. We knocked favorite friends off my parents list. Guess what? MILs "friends" never showed up. A-Holes.

If they were willing to pay the expenses associated with their extra guests (beyond the first 10 you allotted each side), why didn't you let them do that?

Because tens of thousands of dollars from my parents, the hosts, was more than generous and paid for a beautiful wedding that was exactly the size and scope we wanted it to be. Because every single family member and super-close family friends were already accounted for. My DH even told me not to do it, because that was his mom's way of trying to get "in" and control the wedding. She started inviting people before we had even finished making the rounds of announcing our engagement.