Why do young, single women sleep with married men?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

Sounds to me like you still have self-esteem issues. I feel sorry for you.

What from my post makes it seem like I have self esteem issues?

You seem to think cheating is a normal part of a relationship even if you got "angry"

NP here. That's quite a leap. Her post doesn't lead to your conclusion at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

Sounds to me like you still have self-esteem issues. I feel sorry for you.

What from my post makes it seem like I have self esteem issues?

You seem to think cheating is a normal part of a relationship even if you got "angry"

Ok wierdo.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because they are disgusting and pathetic. No empathy, sympathy or psychoanalyzing from me.

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I think you'd be surprised who you know who has done this. If you judge them this harshly I hope you also judge the married men sleeping with them.

Actually, I wouldn't be surprised, and I think the married men are equally as pathetic and disgusting. I save my sympathy and understanding for actual victims.

Not everyone is "a victim"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because they are disgusting and pathetic. No empathy, sympathy or psychoanalyzing from me.

+1000000

I think you'd be surprised who you know who has done this. If you judge them this harshly I hope you also judge the married men sleeping with them.

Actually, I wouldn't be surprised, and I think the married men are equally as pathetic and disgusting. I save my sympathy and understanding for actual victims.

Not everyone is "a victim"

True and least of all the cheaters and their accomplices. Don't care about your daddy issues or your self esteem issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

Sounds to me like you still have self-esteem issues. I feel sorry for you.

What from my post makes it seem like I have self esteem issues?

It does to me.

You seem to think cheating is a normal part of a relationship even if you got "angry"

NP here. That's quite a leap. Her post doesn't lead to your conclusion at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did because I liked older men and was lonely. He spent a lot of time talking to me in the phone. Maybe looking for a father figure? I had a low self esteem and for some reason never considered trying to meet a man for a relationship. I was in my early 20s. I did a lot sexually that I hadn't experienced before. Now I'm married, have a much healthier self esteem and would never have an affair with a married man. I have no idea what I was thinking then. I had men my age interested in me and simply had no interest.

Hopefully your husband feels the same way, and doesn't come across any "confused" 20 somethings.

Interestingly my husband has cheated on me but with a woman who is also married. However, I am indifferent as to the woman. I have no idea what her story is or her problem. I blame my husband. He's the one who took vows and with me. I was angry at my husband. Not the woman because that would be misplaced anger.

Sounds to me like you still have self-esteem issues. I feel sorry for you.

What from my post makes it seem like I have self esteem issues?

You seem to think cheating is a normal part of a relationship even if you got "angry"

Ok wierdo.

I hope you feel better about yourself one day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only sleep with married men. I'm 48 and also married and it makes things less complicated. I have no interest in anything other than sex.

Ugh...read the question. You are neither young nor single.

[Anonymous]

I knew someone who did this often. She was very insecure and had major daddy issues.

[Anonymous]

Very few do. Most do not.

Think the biggest threat are unhappily married women. Most single women don't want to waste their time with unmarried men.

[Anonymous]

Because they can, and want to? Who cares. They're not married. The man's violation of his marriage is his own problem. If he didn't cheat with woman A, he would with woman B.

[Anonymous]

There could be various reasons since each & every affair is unique.

Some girls like to have fun when they are young, and sleeping w/married men who are attached is the perfect opportunity to have their "fun," w/out worrying about the guy falling for them.

Others may have been cheated on in the past + may like being on the other end of things.

Others may just like men who are attached, it seems kind of hot to them & they may like the idea of naughty/secretive sex.

[Anonymous]

I did it for the money!!

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the insight ladies.

Signed,

Sex deprived married man.

[Anonymous]

He's smart and worldly. Calls and texts all the time. He's fantastic in bed, has a huge penis, and spends lots of money on me.

[Anonymous]

I just loved everything about him (attractiveness, worldliness, money, etc.) and I wanted to have his baby.