Request from daycare: is this really an issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the different perspectives. I pick up DC hours before the daycare closes, so it's not about the closing time. All we do is walk down an aisle from classroom to door, not back and forth wandering around. Along the hallway, DC just wants to take a peek at the other classrooms, but we do not actually go into any of them. We only go to the reading area when it is empty. If there is a class there, we do not go. Adult area is off limits and we will work on that. I have no problem taking him straight out of the door, but he likes to go to the reading area. DC is going through the T2 phase, and I just don't know if this is the battle I should choose.

Yes you should. You've been asked to take him straight out. What he likes and wants to do isn't at issue here. If the reading area is empty I would imagine the staff is expecting it to stay empty. Perhaps other kids notice him peeking in and get distracted. Really though it doesn't matter why. The center has asked you to take him straight out, so that's what you need to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the different perspectives. I pick up DC hours before the daycare closes, so it's not about the closing time. All we do is walk down an aisle from classroom to door, not back and forth wandering around. Along the hallway, DC just wants to take a peek at the other classrooms, but we do not actually go into any of them. We only go to the reading area when it is empty. If there is a class there, we do not go. Adult area is off limits and we will work on that. I have no problem taking him straight out of the door, but he likes to go to the reading area. DC is going through the T2 phase, and I just don't know if this is the battle I should choose.

Yes, you were asked not to do what you are doing. You pick up your child and leave the building. Simple. If he does not cooperate, you pick him up and tell him time to go. If yu want to read in a reading area, go to the library.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the different perspectives. I pick up DC hours before the daycare closes, so it's not about the closing time. All we do is walk down an aisle from classroom to door, not back and forth wandering around. Along the hallway, DC just wants to take a peek at the other classrooms, but we do not actually go into any of them. We only go to the reading area when it is empty. If there is a class there, we do not go. Adult area is off limits and we will work on that. I have no problem taking him straight out of the door, but he likes to go to the reading area. DC is going through the T2 phase, and I just don't know if this is the battle I should choose.

Yes you should. You've been asked to take him straight out. What he likes and wants to do isn't at issue here. If the reading area is empty I would imagine the staff is expecting it to stay empty. Perhaps other kids notice him peeking in and get distracted. Really though it doesn't matter why. The center has asked you to take him straight out, so that's what you need to do.

One person told OP that it was a "safety issue". Personally, if one of my child's daycare teachers said that it was annoying/distracting/my child was making a mess, I would respect that and do as she asked. But I really dislike being told that a rule is about safety when it isn't. I would clarify with the teacher whether this is a policy or a preference and find out the reason behind it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the different perspectives. I pick up DC hours before the daycare closes, so it's not about the closing time. All we do is walk down an aisle from classroom to door, not back and forth wandering around. Along the hallway, DC just wants to take a peek at the other classrooms, but we do not actually go into any of them. We only go to the reading area when it is empty. If there is a class there, we do not go. Adult area is off limits and we will work on that. I have no problem taking him straight out of the door, but he likes to go to the reading area. DC is going through the T2 phase, and I just don't know if this is the battle I should choose.

Yes you should. You've been asked to take him straight out. What he likes and wants to do isn't at issue here. If the reading area is empty I would imagine the staff is expecting it to stay empty. Perhaps other kids notice him peeking in and get distracted. Really though it doesn't matter why. The center has asked you to take him straight out, so that's what you need to do.

One person told OP that it was a "safety issue". Personally, if one of my child's daycare teachers said that it was annoying/distracting/my child was making a mess, I would respect that and do as she asked. But I really dislike being told that a rule is about safety when it isn't. I would clarify with the teacher whether this is a policy or a preference and find out the reason behind it.

In one of the daycares that we were in for a short while, they had a similar policy. The issue was that when the child is in the care of their staff, the child is their responsibility. When the parent has signed out the child and is still in the building, the child is no longer under the care of the staff, anything that happens to the child including if they fall and get hurt, becomes an insurance liability because the staff was not monitoring the child. We were told that to meet the safety regulations (I can't remember if it was state or NAEYC or what organization) that children not under the care of the staff needed to exit the premises as smoothly as possible to avoid any liability for the daycare. Stopping and reading it not really a good policy.

My twins also like to read. So I have a box in the car that sits between their car seats and I keep a few toys like cars and such, plus some books in the car. If they wanted to stop in the reading area, I'd tell them that we have books in the car and that's what they can "read" now. If they want to "read" the books at school, they'll have to wait until tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the different perspectives. I pick up DC hours before the daycare closes, so it's not about the closing time. All we do is walk down an aisle from classroom to door, not back and forth wandering around. Along the hallway, DC just wants to take a peek at the other classrooms, but we do not actually go into any of them. We only go to the reading area when it is empty. If there is a class there, we do not go. Adult area is off limits and we will work on that. I have no problem taking him straight out of the door, but he likes to go to the reading area. DC is going through the T2 phase, and I just don't know if this is the battle I should choose.

You don't know if it's a battle you should choose?

You were given a rule and you are deciding if you want to follow it because you don't want your 2 year old to get upset?

I see a very tough road ahead for you. Very tough road.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the different perspectives. I pick up DC hours before the daycare closes, so it's not about the closing time. All we do is walk down an aisle from classroom to door, not back and forth wandering around. Along the hallway, DC just wants to take a peek at the other classrooms, but we do not actually go into any of them. We only go to the reading area when it is empty. If there is a class there, we do not go. Adult area is off limits and we will work on that. I have no problem taking him straight out of the door, but he likes to go to the reading area. DC is going through the T2 phase, and I just don't know if this is the battle I should choose.

Yes you should. You've been asked to take him straight out. What he likes and wants to do isn't at issue here. If the reading area is empty I would imagine the staff is expecting it to stay empty. Perhaps other kids notice him peeking in and get distracted. Really though it doesn't matter why. The center has asked you to take him straight out, so that's what you need to do.

One person told OP that it was a "safety issue". Personally, if one of my child's daycare teachers said that it was annoying/distracting/my child was making a mess, I would respect that and do as she asked. But I really dislike being told that a rule is about safety when it isn't. I would clarify with the teacher whether this is a policy or a preference and find out the reason behind it.

Even if it is a preference, it is the presence of the school for this whiny mom and her spoiled kid to GET OUT. They don't get special rules just because her kid is "curious" guess what, all freaking 2 year olds are curious. Her 2 year old isn't the first, or the last.

[Anonymous]

In this thread you can really tell which PPs are normal and which PPs are raising hellions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the different perspectives. I pick up DC hours before the daycare closes, so it's not about the closing time. All we do is walk down an aisle from classroom to door, not back and forth wandering around. Along the hallway, DC just wants to take a peek at the other classrooms, but we do not actually go into any of them. We only go to the reading area when it is empty. If there is a class there, we do not go. Adult area is off limits and we will work on that. I have no problem taking him straight out of the door, but he likes to go to the reading area. DC is going through the T2 phase, and I just don't know if this is the battle I should choose.

Yes you should. You've been asked to take him straight out. What he likes and wants to do isn't at issue here. If the reading area is empty I would imagine the staff is expecting it to stay empty. Perhaps other kids notice him peeking in and get distracted. Really though it doesn't matter why. The center has asked you to take him straight out, so that's what you need to do.

One person told OP that it was a "safety issue". Personally, if one of my child's daycare teachers said that it was annoying/distracting/my child was making a mess, I would respect that and do as she asked. But I really dislike being told that a rule is about safety when it isn't. I would clarify with the teacher whether this is a policy or a preference and find out the reason behind it.

It's a safety issue likely because kids are required to be supervised by staff when in the building. I can see insurance requiring a staff member to be present. Liability may have been a better word.

What is with parents questioning these things? A parent been told not to let your kid wander and play on the way out. So.. don't. Why does it matter if it's a preference or a policy?

Just do it. I feel bad for people dealing with parents like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In this thread you can really tell which PPs are normal and which PPs are raising hellions.

I have older kids, I often wonder, what kind of parenting led you to be so rude.

Now I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In this thread you can really tell which PPs are normal and which PPs are raising hellions.

I have older kids, I often wonder, what kind of parenting led you to be so rude.

Now I know.

I, sometimes, don't know when, to, use proper, commas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys are going to be horrific when your kids get to school.

Rules? Not for your Special Kid.

right??? amen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DC is 2 years old and is curious about everything. We are new to the daycare environment. Last week DC's teacher at the daycare told me that on the way out we should walk straight from the classroom to the entrance of the daycare without making any stops in the middle. And the teacher said it's for safety reasons.

I was surprised when I heard this. I would consider the daycare to be a safe environment for DC to explore. We hold hands and walk between the parking lot and the daycare. When we are inside the daycare, I let him walk in front of me between the entrance and the classroom. He is within my sight all the time. Usually on the way out he likes to go to the kids reading area for a while, and he did slip into the admin office and the teacher's area nearby for a few times (the doors were all open). I pulled him out immediately and told him that those are not his play areas. Occasionally he wants to peak into other classrooms to see what other kids are doing. I never thought this would be a big issue, and the request has been bothering me. Any similar experience or advice? TIA

if they're ASKING you nicely then clearly do it. They're not just making it up to f with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Daycare owner here: when you pick up your child please GO. It is not visiting time. We are still working, other children need our attention and you are a distraction. Go home and play with your child!

agreed.

i cant even believe this was a serious post

[Anonymous]

OP if you keep your child out of the reading area and as you said, out of the adult work areas, the school might relax on their request. Time limits for exiting, or requiring that you hold hands etc, won't be necessary once you show that you are being a "good citizen" of the daycare. IMO you're a fine citizen currently, just a touch more self-centered than will work best for everyone involved.

On your question about whether this is the battle you should choose, try turning it around. How do you know it'll be a battle? Does it need to be? Get creative or make it a game. (As long as you don't speed your child up to a run. I'm sure that's forbidden too!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At my daughter's daycare we're welcome to hang out and play for awhile, or stop in the other classrooms to say hi to the teachers. For me, it's very important that the place where my child spends so much time is a home-like environment that's warm and welcoming-I'd be very put off by what OP describes.

Likewise. All the teachers and staff know each child by name. We don't actually go into other classrooms but if we did, I'm sure they wouldn't be upset (unless it were the infant room where you have to take shoes off).

If that's what daycare requests, I guess that's what you have to do, but I would be put off by it as well.

+1

My son has been at the same center for 4 years and we often spend a few minutes chatting with others on our way out. Sometimes it's other kids and parents but often it's other teachers whom we haven't seen in awhile. Sometimes it's the director just to chat or catch up on how my son is doing. They would never ask us to get out of there because it's a welcoming community and they encourage us all to know each other. We wouldn't walk into a classroom and interrupt anything going on but if another room had open play time it wouldn't be a problem at all if we wanted to go visit my son's old teachers or friends.

So, yes, they are allowed to make that rule but I would be incredibly put off by it.