Decreased ovarian reserve--secondary infertility

[Anonymous]

OP here. Just wanted to clarify something. Before we started TTC #1, we agreed we would have one child. We did not talk about having more than one at that time. We got pregnant quickly and easily and I assumed my fertility was fine. Now that we have one child, my husband really wants to have a second. I am ambivalent about having a second, for a variety of reasons. However, despite my ambivalence I agreed to start TTC #2 because my husband wanted a second so much. I was happy to try to make his dream for a larger family come true by TTC naturally, and we started TTC when our child was 15 months. I did not feel ready any sooner than that. However, after 6 months of TTC and no pregnancy, I had some tests done and came to find out that I have very poor numbers for ovarian reserve. Now, things have changed. The idea of starting infertility treatments is completely overwhelming to me and not a very appealing idea, but I am willing to meet with REs, learn about the process and keep an open mind while learning what options would be open to us given my decreased ovarian reserve.

[Anonymous]

I'm really sorry you're going through this and I don't want to be a jerk, but feel like this is a story younger women who insist on waiting need to see. Your dh was ready when you were 30 but you wanted to wait until you were 35? I know there are many women with no issues even after 35 but that's a risk you (or he, since he was the one who was ready) shouldn't have taken. He's probably kicking himself for not insisting harder earlier or for not getting out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really sorry you're going through this and I don't want to be a jerk, but feel like this is a story younger women who insist on waiting need to see. Your dh was ready when you were 30 but you wanted to wait until you were 35? I know there are many women with no issues even after 35 but that's a risk you (or he, since he was the one who was ready) shouldn't have taken. He's probably kicking himself for not insisting harder earlier or for not getting out.

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