Son sneaking sodas

[Anonymous]

Last weekend my BIL said that soda is not so bad, "Warren Buffett drinks two sodas per day". There you have it~

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The rule is he has to ask to have a soda. Simple enough. I'm looking for a punishment after he was warned to STOP sneaking them.

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Stop buying soda.

[Anonymous]

NP. I don't buy soda and my middle schoolers still sneak them in and chug them down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you keep soda in the house, then I think it's not fair to forbid him to drink it. Maybe have a limit--X number of sodas a week or whatever. If you really don't want him to have any, then the "punishment" is that you don't keep soda in the house.

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Are you people serious? If there are cigarettes in the house is he allowed to have those because they are there? How about beer? Adults are allowed to have things in the house and call them off-limits to kids, or limit kid access to them. If you have to move stuff out of your house completely because your kids run the household and won't listen, that's fine, but don't pretend that's parenting. That's defeat. This is the kind of moronic parenting practice that's lead to kids who don't understand boundaries and/or think none apply to them.

OP you're his mom. He is not listening to your instructions after repeated warnings. Time to get angry. Take away things he likes, ground him, cancel an event he's been planning on attending. I would not put up with a kid who repeatedly ignores instructions. Once, okay, we'll talk and I'll explain the rule and you can tell me why you're having trouble with it, but after that? Pfffft. I'm done, hammer down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you keep soda in the house, then I think it's not fair to forbid him to drink it. Maybe have a limit--X number of sodas a week or whatever. If you really don't want him to have any, then the "punishment" is that you don't keep soda in the house.

+1

Are you people serious? If there are cigarettes in the house is he allowed to have those because they are there? How about beer? Adults are allowed to have things in the house and call them off-limits to kids, or limit kid access to them. If you have to move stuff out of your house completely because your kids run the household and won't listen, that's fine, but don't pretend that's parenting. That's defeat. This is the kind of moronic parenting practice that's lead to kids who don't understand boundaries and/or think none apply to them.

OP you're his mom. He is not listening to your instructions after repeated warnings. Time to get angry. Take away things he likes, ground him, cancel an event he's been planning on attending. I would not put up with a kid who repeatedly ignores instructions. Once, okay, we'll talk and I'll explain the rule and you can tell me why you're having trouble with it, but after that? Pfffft. I'm done, hammer down.

i don't know. seems hypocritical to me if the parents have it but he can't. just don't buy it and your issue is solved. agree with PPs that you don't want to set up lifelong eating issues by forbidding things. but if it's not in the house, he won't have it. we don't buy soda, but let the kids have it at restaurants when we're on vacation as a special treat. (unfortunately they get plenty of other sweets because i can't control my sweet tooth, but that's another thread. . . .)

[Anonymous]

Stop buying soda.

We simply don't buy it any more. We rarely buy juice. A little sparkling water with natural flavor is a big treat for my 10 year old.

I admit that she is mildly obsessed with the idea of soda. We save it for when you have an upset tummy. Then it's 4 oz of Coke or ginger ale. If the bubbles don't work, you don't get any more.

[Anonymous]

Yeah stop buying them. I can't even believe you have soda on a regular basis in your home. Buy seltzer from Safeway--Refreshe is $3.00 for 12 cans.

[Anonymous]

I really don't know how to answer, but will say I keep coke at home. I drink one per day, even though it is labelled as bad. Still, there is far worse and I have otherwise healthy habits. Do you allow your son to drink coke? I have not allowed my nine year old, strictly because he does not need caffeine. I do allow gatorade on rare occasion and keep this in the house too. I also keep coffee. All of the above drinks I do not expect my kids to drink.

The issue is sneakiness, but I am not sure I would make a big deal over it.

[Anonymous]

For punishments, I would make him clean his room - a full cleaning - saying that hiding soda cans can bring bugs. And if he sneaks again, he cleans another room.

If you don't mind him drinking it, remind him, that he just has to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For punishments, I would make him clean his room - a full cleaning - saying that hiding soda cans can bring bugs. And if he sneaks again, he cleans another room.

If you don't mind him drinking it, remind him, that he just has to ask.

I like this one. Empty cans around the house are definitely attractive to bugs.

[Anonymous]

Just stop drinking soda, OP, it's not good for you anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you keep soda in the house, then I think it's not fair to forbid him to drink it. Maybe have a limit--X number of sodas a week or whatever. If you really don't want him to have any, then the "punishment" is that you don't keep soda in the house.

+1

Are you people serious? If there are cigarettes in the house is he allowed to have those because they are there? How about beer? Adults are allowed to have things in the house and call them off-limits to kids, or limit kid access to them. If you have to move stuff out of your house completely because your kids run the household and won't listen, that's fine, but don't pretend that's parenting. That's defeat. This is the kind of moronic parenting practice that's lead to kids who don't understand boundaries and/or think none apply to them.

OP you're his mom. He is not listening to your instructions after repeated warnings. Time to get angry. Take away things he likes, ground him, cancel an event he's been planning on attending. I would not put up with a kid who repeatedly ignores instructions. Once, okay, we'll talk and I'll explain the rule and you can tell me why you're having trouble with it, but after that? Pfffft. I'm done, hammer down.

i don't know. seems hypocritical to me if the parents have it but he can't. just don't buy it and your issue is solved. agree with PPs that you don't want to set up lifelong eating issues by forbidding things. but if it's not in the house, he won't have it. we don't buy soda, but let the kids have it at restaurants when we're on vacation as a special treat. (unfortunately they get plenty of other sweets because i can't control my sweet tooth, but that's another thread. . . .)

So then the kid can also have beer, wine, liquor, unlimited sugar from my 1lb bag of sugar, chug a jug of maple syrup, and eat a dozen raw eggs because they are in the house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For punishments, I would make him clean his room - a full cleaning - saying that hiding soda cans can bring bugs. And if he sneaks again, he cleans another room.

If you don't mind him drinking it, remind him, that he just has to ask.

We have a winner!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For punishments, I would make him clean his room - a full cleaning - saying that hiding soda cans can bring bugs. And if he sneaks again, he cleans another room.

If you don't mind him drinking it, remind him, that he just has to ask.

We have a winner!

I like this answer too. I drink soda, mostly caffeine free stuff like root beer or ginger ale, but sometimes coke, and I allow my nine year old an occasional small glass. Probably about once a month, but he doesn't ask for it often. If he was sneaking it, I'd use this approach.

[Anonymous]

Is this that big of a deal? I drank soda openly in about 5th-6th grade. When my mother did the -- oh no, milk is so much better and juice and seltzer (which I thought was gross and still do) -- I snuck them. I never drank more than 1 can a day and usually it was more like 1 every other day. I snuck them through middle school, kind of wasn't interested in soda as much in high school, drank more than my fair share of soda in college and despite all this I turned out fine. No -- I'm not fat. And actually now in my mid 30s I don't drink soda at all -- we're talking 1-2/yr if I'm at a restaurant without iced tea.