how can I find out if he is cheating?

[Anonymous]

If my husband stopped having sex with me and refused to discuss it, I wouldn't be standing around for a year. What are you waiting for? Are you generally on the passive side? Figure out whether you want to stay with him, since odds are high that he's cheating. Put your finances etc in order, so that whatever happens, you are prepared for any outcome. Then it's time for a serious talk.

People do not have the right to change the nature of their relationship (from sexual to platonic, or from monogamous to open, or whatever) without the informed consent of their partner.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'd be more than happy to help you in the sex department. My wife gave up on sex about two years ago. We do it maybe six times a year. She says she simply has no libido. Meanwhile I'm bored as hell pleasuring myself on a nightly basis

[Anonymous]

Note that men in PP's situation do not automatically assume their DW is cheating. Wife losing interest is taken for granted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smell his little pecker...that's how I found out!

LMFAO although I'm sure it was no laughing matter to you

My advice from a cheating man your age. Don't ask, don't tell. I love my wife deeply. I'm going thru a mid-life crisis, has to do with the knowledge that I'm facing ED issues and other things. It's not because I don't love my wife. I hate betraying her, but once I'm thru with my issues on immortality, I will totally be devoted again. If you love him, give him some leeway to see thru what can be a dark period for many humans. At some point, he will likely drop the Affair and begin having sex with you again. I suggest you never bring it up.

Plus 1. A lot of men cheat who are otherwise great husbands and fathers and if you let the affair run its course, he will be done with it and return to you.

Not romantic advice, but practical. What will you gain by knowing? Its like the red-headed son question, what will a paternity test do to actually help a situation?

This is a crock. OP, you do NOT have to tolerate such selfish assholery in your marriage, and you shouldn't listen to cheaters who tell you otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smell his little pecker...that's how I found out!

LMFAO although I'm sure it was no laughing matter to you

My advice from a cheating man your age. Don't ask, don't tell. I love my wife deeply. I'm going thru a mid-life crisis, has to do with the knowledge that I'm facing ED issues and other things. It's not because I don't love my wife. I hate betraying her, but once I'm thru with my issues on immortality, I will totally be devoted again. If you love him, give him some leeway to see thru what can be a dark period for many humans. At some point, he will likely drop the Affair and begin having sex with you again. I suggest you never bring it up.

Would the DH above feel the same way if he suspected his wife was cheating on him and he was being faithful? Would he stick with the don't ask, don't tell policy?