My child's teacher in middle school has rules about what they aren't allowed to say in class

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No its not a religion or political correctness thing. I teach middle school and it is the constant go- to term. Good for that teacher, but it won't work.tKids really feel they are in charge.


It goes like this:
"Brandon, can you please put your phone away."
Brandon: "Oh my god.
"Kaitlyn, let's listen please"
Kaitlyn:
"Oh my god."
"No homework, guys?"
"Oh my god."
" You just punched him? Really?"
"Oh my god."
"Can you please return to your own seat, put your phone away and the doritos and start the warm that's been on the whiteboard for ten minutes."
"OH MY GOD"
Yes, it's a rude reply. When the kid says that, they are saying" oh the outrageousness of what you are saying to me, teacher, telling me to do what I'm supposed to be doing."

As a parent, you might not witness this 500 hundred times a day from kids who refuse to be told what to do.

This. I can absolutely imagine this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teacher sounds like a narcissistic ass.

From someone who never ever had to teach middle schoolers. Teacher sounds humorous and on the level of kids with humor they understand. He really did not expect 25 candy bars.

OH MY GOD.


Parents are super scary these days...it' a wonder how anyone would want to teach.

OP here. I really do not think the teacher is trying to be humorous. He told the class that last year he received 300 candy bars from his students as if he expected the same this year. I just asked my daughter what the banished words/phrases are:

OMG
Oh my gosh
oh my God
literally
I hate
like
any text talk: LOL, legit, etc.

Someone got spoken to harshly for saying "LOL" yesterday.

He spoke harshly to a kid who said "LOL" He said "Why would you say LOL when you didn't laugh out loud?"

[Anonymous]

Another teacher here, the chocolate bars were likely a joke. I don't say those sort of things but know teachers that do. Sarcacatically "if you want an A bring me ..."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teacher sounds like a narcissistic ass.

From someone who never ever had to teach middle schoolers. Teacher sounds humorous and on the level of kids with humor they understand. He really did not expect 25 candy bars.

OH MY GOD.


Parents are super scary these days...it' a wonder how anyone would want to teach.

OP here. I really do not think the teacher is trying to be humorous. He told the class that last year he received 300 candy bars from his students as if he expected the same this year. I just asked my daughter what the banished words/phrases are:

OMG
Oh my gosh
oh my God
literally
I hate
like
any text talk: LOL, legit, etc.

Someone got spoken to harshly for saying "LOL" yesterday.

He spoke harshly to a kid who said "LOL" He said "Why would you say LOL when you didn't laugh out loud?"

By the time your daughter is a young adult, she will be grateful for the teachers who made her change her language. Honestly, aren't you tired of hearing these phrases as well?

[Anonymous]

I see no problem with this. I don't think its appropriate to say these things at work, I think children should be reared the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teacher sounds like a narcissistic ass.

From someone who never ever had to teach middle schoolers. Teacher sounds humorous and on the level of kids with humor they understand. He really did not expect 25 candy bars.

OH MY GOD.


Parents are super scary these days...it' a wonder how anyone would want to teach.

OP here. I really do not think the teacher is trying to be humorous. He told the class that last year he received 300 candy bars from his students as if he expected the same this year. I just asked my daughter what the banished words/phrases are:

OMG
Oh my gosh
oh my God
literally
I hate
like
any text talk: LOL, legit, etc.

Someone got spoken to harshly for saying "LOL" yesterday.

He spoke harshly to a kid who said "LOL" He said "Why would you say LOL when you didn't laugh out loud?"

By the time your daughter is a young adult, she will be grateful for the teachers who made her change her language. Honestly, aren't you tired of hearing these phrases as well?

The only ones she says are "oh my gosh" and "literally" (which I correct her if what she's expaining isn't literal). I say "Oh my gosh" all the time, too, so that doesn't bother me at all.

I will wait and see how this year plays out. Like I said, I'm only hearing one side and he sounds like he's being quite harsh with them. But I haven't heard good or bad or anything about this teacher so I'm trying to stay open-minded, which is why I came to DCUM so I could get others' opinions. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP here. I really do not think the teacher is trying to be humorous. He told the class that last year he received 300 candy bars from his students as if he expected the same this year. I just asked my daughter what the banished words/phrases are:

OMG
Oh my gosh
oh my God
literally
I hate
like
any text talk: LOL, legit, etc.

Someone got spoken to harshly for saying "LOL" yesterday.

He spoke harshly to a kid who said "LOL" He said "Why would you say LOL when you didn't laugh out loud?"

I'm coming around to the teacher's side, here. Kids have all day to speak text talk and use "literally" when they don't mean "literally". I think it will be ok if they refrain from doing so in during math class.

(And I'm still, always, surprised when somebody literally (yes, literally) says "Oh Em Gee.")

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teacher sounds like a narcissistic ass.

From someone who never ever had to teach middle schoolers. Teacher sounds humorous and on the level of kids with humor they understand. He really did not expect 25 candy bars.

OH MY GOD.


Parents are super scary these days...it' a wonder how anyone would want to teach.

OP here. I really do not think the teacher is trying to be humorous. He told the class that last year he received 300 candy bars from his students as if he expected the same this year. I just asked my daughter what the banished words/phrases are:

OMG
Oh my gosh
oh my God
literally
I hate
like
any text talk: LOL, legit, etc.

Someone got spoken to harshly for saying "LOL" yesterday.

He spoke harshly to a kid who said "LOL" He said "Why would you say LOL when you didn't laugh out loud?"

By the time your daughter is a young adult, she will be grateful for the teachers who made her change her language. Honestly, aren't you tired of hearing these phrases as well?

The only ones she says are "oh my gosh" and "literally" (which I correct her if what she's expaining isn't literal). I say "Oh my gosh" all the time, too, so that doesn't bother me at all.

I will wait and see how this year plays out. Like I said, I'm only hearing one side and he sounds like he's being quite harsh with them. But I haven't heard good or bad or anything about this teacher so I'm trying to stay open-minded, which is why I came to DCUM so I could get others' opinions. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see no problem with this. I don't think its appropriate to say these things at work, I think children should be reared the same way.

Well, school is not work. But I think that people, in general, should know that certain language is appropriate in certain places but not appropriate in certain other places. In fact, linguists have a phrase for it: code-switching.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for the replies and perspectives, everyone. I appreciate them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teacher sounds like a narcissistic ass.

From someone who never ever had to teach middle schoolers. Teacher sounds humorous and on the level of kids with humor they understand. He really did not expect 25 candy bars.

OH MY GOD.


Parents are super scary these days...it' a wonder how anyone would want to teach.

OP here. I really do not think the teacher is trying to be humorous. He told the class that last year he received 300 candy bars from his students as if he expected the same this year. I just asked my daughter what the banished words/phrases are:

OMG
Oh my gosh
oh my God
literally
I hate
like
any text talk: LOL, legit, etc.

Someone got spoken to harshly for saying "LOL" yesterday.

He spoke harshly to a kid who said "LOL" He said "Why would you say LOL when you didn't laugh out loud?"

Yeah, why would they? I'd be willing to bet my hat you'll be back laughing about how seriously you're taking this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I concur with the teacher.

You should not say "darn" or "gosh", because they are too close to the "damn" and "God" that they replace.

Anyway, they're boring. I tell my children to get a little creative with their swearing ersatz.
"Oh my sainted pants!" - old classic
"Blistering Barnacles!" - Tintin
"Lumpish codpiece!" - Shakespearean (could mean limp penis)

My 5 year old daintily says : "Oh my gracious goodness!" in such old lady tones, it's hilarious.

At her age, I imitated my mother and swore out loud in front of my very proper teacher: "Merde merde merde!"

The most probable reason is that the way middle school kids use it is in a disrespectful manner. Mr. Jay says, "Class, please line up." and they response "Oh my gosssshhh! Why?" With an eye roll and possible a crossing of the arms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of them is they cannot say "Oh my gosh" (in addition to "Oh my God" or "OMG")

This is one of those phrases that my daughter seems to say quite often (as do I). I'm not sure I understand his reasoning behind not being allowed to say this (I somewhat understand "Oh my God" as he thinks that can be offensive to people which is why I and my children tend to say "Oh My Gosh). And my daughter as well as a few other kids have already gotten in trouble for saying it (7 days into the new school year).

Does this rule seem excessive? Or is it a typical rule to keep middle schoolers in line?

So, you think this is excessive? If that is the worst of your problems then you should be counting your blessings. Pick your battles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No its not a religion or political correctness thing. I teach middle school and it is the constant go- to term. Good for that teacher, but it won't work.tKids really feel they are in charge.


It goes like this:
"Brandon, can you please put your phone away."
Brandon: "Oh my god.
"Kaitlyn, let's listen please"
Kaitlyn:
"Oh my god."
"No homework, guys?"
"Oh my god."
" You just punched him? Really?"
"Oh my god."
"Can you please return to your own seat, put your phone away and the doritos and start the warm that's been on the whiteboard for ten minutes."
"OH MY GOD"
Yes, it's a rude reply. When the kid says that, they are saying" oh the outrageousness of what you are saying to me, teacher, telling me to do what I'm supposed to be doing."

As a parent, you might not witness this 500 hundred times a day from kids who refuse to be told what to do.

Yep, typically followed by the eye roll and the back being turned. Possibly a hair flip.

[Anonymous]

OP. Here is what is happening:

Thus guy, this TEACHER, is trying to educate your child despite the tsunami of media ruin inflicted upon kids. He is teaching her how to speak correcly, how to avoid overused cliches and terminology. He's doing his job. And, FWIW, he also likes candy. He isn't sleeping on the job, he isn't molesting your kid. He's actually teaching your child. Without those reminders, yout kid will sound like a Kardashian.