Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP again. What do you do when your children notice MILs favoritism for the other siblings/grandchildren?
Out of state, non-favorite PP again.
I try to be honest, yet not harsh, and show as little resentment as possible. But I want my kids to know that their grandparents' choices have very little to do with them. My wife makes a point to bring up their successes with my ILs- daughter was state champion in gymnastics, son led the team in tackles in the playoff game, both got 4.0 GPA last semester, son just got a 30 on the ACT- so my wife will say she talked to the ILs and pass along their "congratulations".
Ultimately, all that I can do is praise my children for their successes and show them how proud I am and how much I love them. I won't be totally blunt but I'm not going to sugar coat things too much. They're old enough and smart enough to know that words are cheap and actions generally show a person's true feelings. So no matter what I say, it won't make up for the fact that they've seen their grandparents once in the past 4 years while they visit their cousins 10+ times per year.
I believe that if we lied or tried to sugar coat things, it would undermine our credibility with other issues. My ILs are full of shit, no need for me to be as well.
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