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05/25/2015 09:36

Subject: Memorial Day weekend fight

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I say OP is 26. Any other takers?

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05/25/2015 11:50

Subject: Re:Memorial Day weekend fight

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Anonymous

I get even more annoyed by his patronizing tone ...

Who's in the right?

It's not about who's "in the right". It's not even a particular circumstance/event.
Do you like the relationship you have with him?
Dating/relationships are about learning if you are a good match, if you enjoy being a couple.
You have the power here. You decide. This is what is it - stay or go.

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05/25/2015 12:00

Subject: Memorial Day weekend fight

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Anonymous wrote:So the boyfriend and I had a fight about our Memorial Day plans. 2 weeks ago I had suggested that we take the 3 day weekend as an opportunity to have a mini getaway. He had said that may be a good option of its not too expensive. I went and found a nice groupon deal and showed it to him and he said it looks nice but he's worried about finances. We didn't talk about it until this morning when I whistfully said I'm sad that we didn't get to get away this weekend. He then is like oh it's going to be so expensive I thought we were trying to save. I say yes, would've been nice if we had a getaway. He goes on about how it's going to cost so much and we have bills coming up etc and then asks me to look it up. I refuse to saying it's okay. He insists that I do. We go back and forth and he says if we take the trip I'd have to cut down on using so much uber. I get even more annoyed by his patronizing tone and say I'd really rather not go.
He then says I'm being very rude.

I'm sorry but this is not how to take someone on a getaway. Who's in the right?

There's your big mistake. Why not earlier?

I already suggested it and did the research and found out the cost. I didn't want to nag him into it. I wish he'd thought of it himself.

Why? He didn't want to go on a trip, you did. Of course you thought of it. Also, are you on board with whatever you two are saving for? It sounds like you aren't or maybe you are a spender and he's a saver. In any case, this sounds like shaky foundation for a future if you two don't find a good way to work together in terms of finances and communication.