Men--do you expect women to kiss by date 2? Be honest!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex on the 3rd date?! Wow, things have changed. Is this true across all age groups these days?

No. I'm 31 and have seldom had sex by the third date. Has happened twice and both times was with guys I've dated after a breakup while going through a drought. More like 5-7 dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex on the 3rd date?! Wow, things have changed. Is this true across all age groups these days?

Today's liberated woman does not view sex as something to be ashamed or to that one should hold back. If there is not sufficient chemistry that would make both people want to have sex after three dates, why waste time on the relationship.

In days gone by, a woman who had sex too early in a relation was viewed as easy or a slut. Does not apply today.

I sure as hell don't have sex that early on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends on the nature of the dates. This is why you really need to set up the second date as a real, honest date. Guy needs to pick the girl up, go out to dinner, etc.

As a guy, one of the problems I have, is that I really hate kisses in the car. Especially for the first kiss. They are awkward. I much prefer standing in front of her where I am able to really do it right. Look into her eyes straight on and have full use of my body to do what I need to do. So in the past, at times I haven't kissed on the second date even though I very much wanted to. It just wasn't right logistically.

PP here. I'm the opposite. I'd rather kiss in the car, because I don't want to openly kiss someone I'm not committed out in the open. That makes me uncomfortable.

I typically kiss by the 2nd date. I would agree that there's less of a physical attraction for me, otherwise.

[Anonymous]

I let guys know upfront I don't kiss anyone ever.

[Anonymous]

What do they do on those reality T.V. dating shows?

Do the women tend to kiss on the second date or not?

[Anonymous]

I would go in for the first kiss upon pickup for the first date.

It sets the tone and takes a little pressure off; no tongue but a slightly open mouth brief kiss was always met with enthusiasm. End of the night kiss was on her and I said so in a joking way. I never had a bad reaction but a friend who tried my style never did it again after a woman canceled the remainder of the date.

I noticed more kissing and sex happens with usual irregularity.

[Anonymous]

I don't make the first move. If a man tries to kiss me before date 3 then ok but if not I'd likely wonder y he wants another date. Are men here talking about them going in for a kiss and her turning her head?

[Anonymous]

Seriously if you are not having sex by the third date it's time to move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously if you are not having sex by the third date it's time to move on.

Seriously repeating this over and over isn't going to make everyone do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Sex on the 3rd date?! Wow, things have changed. Is this true across all age groups these days?


Today's liberated woman does not view sex as something to be ashamed or to that one should hold back. If there is not sufficient chemistry that would make both people want to have sex after three dates, why waste time on the relationship.

In days gone by, a woman who had sex too early in a relation was viewed as easy or a slut. Does not apply today.

I am in my late 40's, it always worked out that by the third date we were having sex. So its not a things have changed. Usually there is something wrong if an adult is not moving forward but the third date. It's a red flag- she is not sexually attacted to you, has issues about sex, is playing the field, asexually, low sex drive, repressed, etc.... waiting 5 dates LOL. It takes a special kind of guy to wait take long!

[Anonymous]

I don't date anyone I wouldn't kiss at the end of the night. That's all you'll get but I expect one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would go in for the first kiss upon pickup for the first date.

It sets the tone and takes a little pressure off; no tongue but a slightly open mouth brief kiss was always met with enthusiasm. End of the night kiss was on her and I said so in a joking way. I never had a bad reaction but a friend who tried my style never did it again after a woman canceled the remainder of the date.

I noticed more kissing and sex happens with usual irregularity.

That would turn me off if you tried to kiss me on the lips right off the bat. Cheek ok, lips no. That would actually make me feel that you expected sex at the end of the date. It puts more pressure on the date. Maybe you are a really hot guy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Sex on the 3rd date?! Wow, things have changed. Is this true across all age groups these days?


Today's liberated woman does not view sex as something to be ashamed or to that one should hold back. If there is not sufficient chemistry that would make both people want to have sex after three dates, why waste time on the relationship.

In days gone by, a woman who had sex too early in a relation was viewed as easy or a slut. Does not apply today.

I am in my late 40's, it always worked out that by the third date we were having sex. So its not a things have changed. Usually there is something wrong if an adult is not moving forward but the third date. It's a red flag- she is not sexually attacted to you, has issues about sex, is playing the field, asexually, low sex drive, repressed, etc.... waiting 5 dates LOL. It takes a special kind of guy to wait take long!

I know a college buddy who waited a year before sealing the deal!

[Anonymous]

Third date? What are any of you people going to do if the condom breaks or she forgets to take her pill that day or something? Pay her to get an abortion? What if she says no?

[Anonymous]

I think there is some generational shifting with millennials having fewer partners than older generations. Here is a recent article:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3070508/Millennials-having-sex-baby-boomer-parents-s-likely-education-STIS-study-reveals.html