This summer, her summer before she goes away to college...

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Anonymous wrote:I'm incredibly surprised by the replies here and the number of people who think this is s good idea! I don't know many secure young ladies age 17/18, and I know none that a nose job, boob job, etc would make more secure. This young lady needs to go off to college and live in her new body (30 pounds lighter!) before making such a huge decision. At age 18 I wanted a cartoon character tattooed on belly, can you imagine?!

I'm guessing you don't know a lot of Jews. In my family noses are not our best feature.

Lol right? Im half jewish/half Italian and in my new jersey neighborhood about 15 percent of the graduating high school class gets nose jobs the summer before college. Its considered the perfect time.

That seemed to be the demographic we encountered in bandages in Italy, LOL!

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, just wow. her nose is only the beginning of the problem.

LOL

I have no clue where some of you women grew up but nose-jobs were pretty much a rite of passage in NYC when I was a teenager!

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I had a breast reduction the summer before college. It was the right decision.

College is a time of change and exploration. I was able to leave considerable baggage behind as I started off on this adventure.

It looks like a similar situation is taking place here.

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I would not allow my daughter to get a nose job unless she had an absolutely horribly disfigured-looking nose. In that case, I'd put it into the category of braces.
But, I know of several botched nose jobs, including a woman who died, and another who had permanent nerve damage.
So, don't let her pick the surgeon. You do a lot of research and find a surgeon who has done a lot of surgeries, and make sure you check around with other surgeons, not just patients, and try to find out if there are any complaints against him/her (not sure where you do this, it may vary from state to state). The surgeons I know of who botched the surgeries, had had some complaints and some bad outcomes, but the patients didn't do enough research. Please be careful. You don't want your DD to have permanent damage from an optional, cosmetic surgery.

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If it is going to make her happy, look better, feel more confident and you can afford it, why not! This is the perfect time, good for her for losing 30 lbs...wow i am impressed! She has earned this continuation of self improvement if you ask me and I think your support is warranted here.

What a wonderful way for her to start this next chapter of her life, feeling her personal best.

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It's her body and she should get to feel comfortable and happy in it. If you can afford it, support her in this.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm incredibly surprised by the replies here and the number of people who think this is s good idea! I don't know many secure young ladies age 17/18, and I know none that a nose job, boob job, etc would make more secure. This young lady needs to go off to college and live in her new body (30 pounds lighter!) before making such a huge decision. At age 18 I wanted a cartoon character tattooed on belly, can you imagine?!

I'm guessing you don't know a lot of Jews. In my family noses are not our best feature.

Lol right? Im half jewish/half Italian and in my new jersey neighborhood about 15 percent of the graduating high school class gets nose jobs the summer before college. Its considered the perfect time. My sister included and she looked great after. I think the key is to just have the bump shaved down a bit and not mess with the nasal cartilage.

Just curious...PP, are you by any chance from Bergen County?

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You can't bait and switch now OP. If you had already told her it was all right then why switch now? Of course she should have it. Make sure, like others have said, to get the best plastic surgeon. Women are always judged on their looks. Why make it so hard on your child. It's your husband's bad genes afterall giving her feelings of low self-esteem. Are you Jewish by chance or long Ayrian nose?

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I completely with everyone saying...go for it. I have always said, a nose job is the one cosmetic surgery (other than deformity) that I would do for a daughter or son. It's a small procedure but makes a huge difference in someone's appearance and therefore their self-confidence. It's just true, no matter how much we wish it wasn't. If you find a great surgeon, it's the perfect time. And it seems like your daughter is embracing making a change and starting a new chapter in her life.

The other thing is, just because you say no now doesn't mean she's not going to get one the first chance she gets when she's on her own. This way you can make sure everything is done safely by a reputable surgeon.

The idea of her checking in beforehand with a therapist to make sure she's doing it for the right reasons is great. Just to make sure. If they say she is, then proceed.

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Yes, I would agree to a nose job for my daughter at that age. I knew someone who had one between her freshman and sophomore year (I didn't meet her until her sophomore year), and she said how much more confident it made her feel, because she'd hated her nose growing up. However, she was uncomfortable with the attention she received from those who knew her during freshman year, who noticed that she came back to school looking different (and often asked her if she'd had a nose job). It would have been easier for her if she'd come to college looking the way that she'd spend her remaining years there.

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Aww hell nah!

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I always wanted one, and my parents discouraged it. 30 yrs later I STILL regret not having one that summer and not letting my parents know how important it was to me. The time never seemed right afterwards (I was already working in a "real" job summer after college).

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Let her get one. I've never liked my teeth and just got braces at 56 yo. Too bad I didn't feel confident about my teeth for all of those years.

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Anonymous wrote:Let her get one. I've never liked my teeth and just got braces at 56 yo. Too bad I didn't feel confident about my teeth for all of those years.

I'm back in braces after having them in my teens - I'm 53. I chose invisalign, which are great but not without their faults. They will fix my collapsing bite though.

Good for you!!

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Anonymous wrote:I always wanted one, and my parents discouraged it. 30 yrs later I STILL regret not having one that summer and not letting my parents know how important it was to me. The time never seemed right afterwards (I was already working in a "real" job summer after college).

Agreed. I did one at 22 because I needed to correct a break/deviated septum (both issues) and figured 'why waste good anesthesia'. Had to have the tip re-done 20 years later due to springy cartilage. While under that time, I had him do a lower and mid-face lift, and my under eyes. No regrets.