MIL and her dog

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you me? Add to it that my kid is allergic to her dog - not like sneezing, but covered in hives with swollen eyes. My 4 year old spent both Thanksgiving and Christmas passed out on the couch, and drugged up on benadryl because of it.

Our lease also doesn't allow it, and they have more than once had a last minute "emergency" that "forced" her to bring the damn dog - the dog walker cancelled, they couldn't find a kennel....

Lots of sympathy. If you can afford it, offer to pay to board the dog, or get them a hotel (we cannot afford that right now ourselves). Pay to get the house/car cleaned if you can. But mostly it's a matter of sucking it up to keep the peace in the family.

Uhh, no way in hell would I suck it up. Your child is MISERABLE and allergic! You need to say no to the dog coming to your house. It's fine if they have a god at their house, but no way should you be drugging your child with benedryl instead of saying no to your ILs. What does your DH say about this?

[Anonymous]

Find and offer to pay for a dog friendly hotel near you for the holiday and any other visits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are not awful OP. What's awful are people who can't understand that dog do not equal humans. It is TOTALLY ok to ask her to not bring the dog. #1: it's against your lease. Meaning you can get evicted if you get caught. Last time you were stuck because you had an emergency, so you took the risk. Simply tell her that and ask her to leave the dog at home, preferably with FIL who sounds helpless anyhow.

Dog people are cultish and crazy sometimes, I don't get it. I've loved animals in the past, but I'd never expect OTHER people to love my animals simply because I do. And I'd *never* bring one to someone's home after being asked not to. It's RUDE, not other way around it.

Agree. Word for word.

[Anonymous]

We get it, OP. You hate dogs. You are boring.

You needed help and your MIL helped you. You knew she had a dog. You should be grateful for the help and call a sitter next time.

[Anonymous]

OP, I agree with you about the dog. Here's what I'd say.

'Thank you so much for watching the kids, Larla! I know it went well with the dog, but unfortunately, both myself and little Larlo had quite a bit of congestion afterwards. So I guess we have some dog allergies. I'm sorry the dog cannot come here again, but there is an awesome kennel nearby on Elm street that is highly recommended by friends!'

[Anonymous]

People who claim they let their dogs lick their kids and its normal...um, you know dogs also like to lick their butts, and then your kids face. thats is so disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Poison it.

[Anonymous]

Ops opinion of dogs is not important. What is important is that she signed a lease that said no dogs. So she is breaking her lease if mil brings her dog. If I was the landlord I would kick her out AND give her a bad reference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Loosen up, OP.

+2. You had a free babysitter. The dog and hair are temporary. There are no life-altering allergies. So, get over it.

Dog dander can take months to get out of a house even after thorough cleaning. It is sticky and hangs to the wall, furniture, and in the air.

[Anonymous]

Vomit.

Some dog people are truly crazy, OP.
We have good friends who stood by while their giant mixed breed, the size of a Great Dane but much bouncier, aggressively licked my toddler DD in exactly the same way.
I was absolutely horrified, and we don't go to their house anymore.

Just say no.

[Anonymous]

I am with you OP. I like dogs ok, but I don't personally want to have one in my house, and definitely not licking my face. It's great that your MIL was able to help you and I think you should try to get over the dog hair from this visit but insist that the next time the dog has to stay at home. If she doesn't want to leave it in a kennel that is fine, she just won't be coming to babysit while you go out of town. It sounds like you have other options so, barring another emergency, no need for her to bring the dog again. It's against your lease and you don't want it in your home, end of story.

[Anonymous]

For many people, their dog is their alter ego, soul mate, anti-depressant, etc. I know mine is. I wouldn't board her to baby-sit. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not awful OP. What's awful are people who can't understand that dog do not equal humans. It is TOTALLY ok to ask her to not bring the dog. #1: it's against your lease. Meaning you can get evicted if you get caught. Last time you were stuck because you had an emergency, so you took the risk. Simply tell her that and ask her to leave the dog at home, preferably with FIL who sounds helpless anyhow.

Dog people are cultish and crazy sometimes, I don't get it. I've loved animals in the past, but I'd never expect OTHER people to love my animals simply because I do. And I'd *never* bring one to someone's home after being asked not to. It's RUDE, not other way around it.

Agree. Word for word.

Yup. Dog people who think their dog should go everywhere with them annoy the crap out of me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For many people, their dog is their alter ego, soul mate, anti-depressant, etc. I know mine is. I wouldn't board her to baby-sit. It is what it is.

Feeling that strongly about a DOG is a symptom of mental illness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For many people, their dog is their alter ego, soul mate, anti-depressant, etc. I know mine is. I wouldn't board her to baby-sit. It is what it is.

Feeling that strongly about a DOG is a symptom of mental illness.

Oh, yes. Dogs aren't equal to humans. Raising a puppy is not akin to having a newborn baby human. Life with a puppy is not preparation for life with an infant, either.