Do you provide birth control for your kids?

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Does offering her money to buy her own vibrator count?

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Anonymous wrote:Does offering her money to buy her own vibrator count?

Funny you ask. I live need a Good Vibes and totally plan to tell DD about it when she's older.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course, I do. I took my daughters to Planned Parenthood when they were each 15 to get fitted for an IUD or a prescription for the pill. They had a wonderful sex education program there for teen girls.

Wearing a seat belt in a car doesn't make you want to get into an accident. Being on reliable birth control doesn't make you want to have sex. Older DD didn't have sex until she was in college and younger DD still hasn't had sex as a senior in high school.

Does it have a sex ed program for boys?

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Anonymous wrote:Yup. My kids know where the condoms are and I have offered DD to take her to get the pill whenever she is ready. My son is 17 and has definitely accessed the condom supply. My DD is 16 and socially awkward so nothing needed yet but the offer has been stated multiple times.

I'm 32 years old and if my parents even for a second thought I had kissed a guy let alone had sex I would be beaten if not killed. So ya I'm raised to be against any kind of sex.

Including DCUM Sexless Marriages?

Nope. I taught my kids to respect themselves and their partners.

I hope my kids learn NOT to marry their first love. College education goes a long way towards being independant.

Nobody wants a daughter to get an abortion but I am glad SHE has the choice.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. If they are old enough to be having sex, they are old enough to be getting their own birth control.

The thing is, many teens have sex before they're truly old enough to be having sex, which is why they AREN'T getting their own birth control.

I get what PP is saying -- if you're old enough for sex, then you're old enough to go buy condoms, but the reality is there are a lot of misconceptions around sex -- even among the "smart" kids who should know better. I don't know where I stand on this issue yet (young kids -- lots of time to figure it out). But I have cousins ranging in age from 16 to about 40. From comments the 16 yr olds have made, I don't really think they believe pregnancy can happen by having sex once. In part I think it's bc they hear that their married 40 yr old cousins are "trying" or having been trying for a while, so it leaves the impression that you have to have sex on the regular for a long time to have a baby. While that's true at age 40, at 16 as we all know -- they're so young and super fertile, it can happen the first time. Not to mention I think at 16 cycles probably aren't set yet -- so girls don't even know they're ovulating and don't know to avoid that time or whatever. I know for me, ovulation became more "obvious" in my mid 20s -- in my teens, I couldn't have told you when in the cycle it was happening.

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Anonymous wrote:One of these days I'm going to have to sit down with my parents and ask how they managed to raise 3 daughters that didn't get pregnant in high school, didn't provide us with birth control, and didn't have sex as teenagers.
All 3 of us are functioning adults, with healthy relationships including sex.

How did this happen?

They need to share the secret they could make millions with their knowledge.

I guess you all were lucky. I am so glad you were scared to death to get pregnant. I know if you did you "confess" your sins you had moms who "helped you out".

We know they truth. Stop acting like you are above us.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I'm not a liberal. I don't allow drugs or alcohol to be consumed either.

I'm not a liberal either - I am also not a grandmother. My daughter was on the pill when she was sixteen.


PS what you "allow" and they do are two very different things.

If you raise them right they won't even think to disobey you.

Said the grandparent in their 40's.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I'm not a liberal. I don't allow drugs or alcohol to be consumed either.

I'm not a liberal either - I am also not a grandmother. My daughter was on the pill when she was sixteen.


PS what you "allow" and they do are two very different things.

If you raise them right they won't even think to disobey you.

Said the grandparent in their 40's.

I don't agree with the whole "if you raise them right, they wouldn't dare" but I do think being raised in faith matters. Now I'm not saying that you can raise them in faith and sit idly by thinking they wouldn't possibly have sex until marriage; you still have to educate them re safe sex etc. But I think it's less likely if they are raised in faith (and truly believe -- which is the tricky part bc there's lots of people who are raised by religious parents, required to go to church etc. but don't really "care" about faith either way until whenever it clicks for them -- maybe that happens at age 15 and then you've lucked out with a kid who wouldn't jump into bed; but maybe it happens at age 35 and they've slept with many others by that point or maybe -- like most of this site -- they never choose to believe).

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Anonymous wrote:One of these days I'm going to have to sit down with my parents and ask how they managed to raise 3 daughters that didn't get pregnant in high school, didn't provide us with birth control, and didn't have sex as teenagers.
All 3 of us are functioning adults, with healthy relationships including sex.

How did this happen?

They need to share the secret they could make millions with their knowledge.

It's called luck. Were you all virgins until you got married? Have you never known any girl from a nice family who got pregnant?

It's not luck and a fluke that pp's parents managed to raise 3 adults that chose not to have sex until they were adults.
I'm curious.

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Anonymous wrote:One of these days I'm going to have to sit down with my parents and ask how they managed to raise 3 daughters that didn't get pregnant in high school, didn't provide us with birth control, and didn't have sex as teenagers.
All 3 of us are functioning adults, with healthy relationships including sex.

How did this happen?

They need to share the secret they could make millions with their knowledge.

I guess you all were lucky. I am so glad you were scared to death to get pregnant. I know if you did you "confess" your sins you had moms who "helped you out".

We know they truth. Stop acting like you are above us.

Projection much?

I think it's a fair question by PP

Folks act like it is inevetable tht teens will have sex and get pregnant, so we must make sure they get on the all forms of birth control.

PP isn't unique. I think it would be smart to ask the parents of these teens and the teens themselves these questions.

We know abstinence only doesn't work.

We also know pumping our kids with condoms and pills doesn't work.

I want to know.

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Anonymous wrote:My son isn't old enough yet, but I'd definitely provide condoms.

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I think that making sure that my daughter has an accurate and thorough sex education is part of my job as a parent. I make it very clear that I think it's best to wait to have sex until she is older, but that whenever she decides to have sex, it is imperative that she takes the appropriate precautions to prevent STDs and pregnancy. I would absolutely provide birth control.

I don't think that being offered birth control makes kids more likely to have sex; if anything, comprehensive sex ed tends to delay the onset of sexual activity. My mom talked to me about birth control and offered to take me to the doctor to get on the pill, and I didn't have sex until I was out of college.

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I have two sons and I definitely plan on having condoms available. If I had a daughter, I'd put her on the pill. Better safe than sorry.

And for those who think they're raising your kids "right," let me tell you about the kids I knew with strict or religious parents who "forbade" sex... A good example is my freshman year roommate who came from a strong Catholic family and came to college believing that sex before marriage was a mortal sin. She started out being known as the queen of BJs freshman year and by the time she graduated, had sex with more people than anyone could count. So much for her strong upbringing.

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Anonymous wrote:Yup. My kids know where the condoms are and I have offered DD to take her to get the pill whenever she is ready. My son is 17 and has definitely accessed the condom supply. My DD is 16 and socially awkward so nothing needed yet but the offer has been stated multiple times.

I'm 32 years old and if my parents even for a second thought I had kissed a guy let alone had sex I would be beaten if not killed. So ya I'm raised to be against any kind of sex.

This is so sad to me….you have been warped into believing that sex is bad in all forms and now I bet you are destined to have an unhealthy relationship….your parents ruined your chances and that sucks.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I'm not a liberal. I don't allow drugs or alcohol to be consumed either.

I'm not a liberal either - I am also not a grandmother. My daughter was on the pill when she was sixteen.


PS what you "allow" and they do are two very different things.

If you raise them right they won't even think to disobey you.

Thanks for the laugh! I raised my daughter "right" and you know what kids make their own choices. I decided I would rather have my DD educated on her sexual health and protected than be "right". but again, thanks for the laugh.